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Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

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LIMOMx2
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Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

Loving Two

I walk along holding your 2-year-old hand,
basking in the glow of our magical relationship.
Suddenly I feel a kick from within,
as if to remind me that our time alone is limited.

And I wonder: how could I ever love another child as I love you?

Then he is born, and I watch you.
I watch the pain you feel at having to share me
as you've never shared me before.

I hear you telling me in your own way,
"Please love only me."
And I hear myself telling you in mine,
"I can't," knowing, in fact, that I never can again.

You cry. I cry with you.
I almost see our new baby as an intruder
on the precious relationship we once shared.
A relationship we can never quite have again.

But then, barely noticing,
I find myself attached to that new being,
and feeling almost guilty.
I'm afraid to let you see me enjoying him -
as though I am betraying you.

But then I notice your resentment change,
first to curiosity,
then to protectiveness,
finally to genuine affection.

More days pass,
and we are settling into a new routine.
The memory of days with just the two of us is fading fast.

But something else is replacing those wonderful times we shared, just we two.
There are new times - only now, we are three.
I watch the love between you grow,
the way you look at each other, touch each other.

I watch how he adores you - as I have for so long.
I see how excited you are by each of his new accomplishments.
And I begin to realize that I haven't taken something from you,
I've given something to you.
I notice that I am no longer afraid to share my love openly with both of you.

I find that my love for each of you is as different as you are,
but equally strong.
And my question is finally answered, to my amazement.
Yes, I can love another child as much as I love you - only differently.

And although I realize that you may have to share my time,
I now know you'll never share my love.
There's enough of that for both of you -
you each have your own supply.

I love you both. And I thank you both for blessing my life.

Posted 7/25/09 9:32 AM
 
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megsm3
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

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Posted 7/25/09 9:40 AM
 

Dani00518
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

That was beautiful......now I'm a mess

Posted 7/25/09 9:43 AM
 

avamamma
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

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That is perfect, and soo true. It has taken me almost 10 months to realize this.

Posted 7/25/09 9:44 AM
 

AimeeE2006
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

Love this. Added it to my notebook. Chat Icon

Posted 7/25/09 9:46 AM
 

nbc188
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

The beginning part is EXACTLY how I've been feeling lately about not wanting to share my time/attention with another baby right now. Chat Icon

Posted 7/25/09 9:46 AM
 

jmf423
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

As someone struggling with the though of how DS is going to handle the twins on the way that made me Chat Icon but how beautiful.
Thanks for sharing! Chat Icon

Posted 7/25/09 9:47 AM
 

Mommy2Boys
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

Beautiful!!! It is so true. I feel so guilty now knowing DS will not have me all to himself in a couple of months and it seems he is hitting his "I want mommy" only stage Chat Icon But I know overtime they will be the best of friends and that's all I can ever hope for Chat Icon

Posted 7/25/09 3:30 PM
 

SweetCin
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

Okay, thanks for making me cry Chat Icon

I felt the beginning part during my whole pregnancy & now w/ DS 10 wks, I'm still feeling guilty; yet DD loves her brother & she's constantly going over to kiss him & he just stares at her & smiles....

Posted 7/25/09 3:45 PM
 

InShock
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

This brought tears to my eyes. Chat Icon

Posted 7/25/09 4:00 PM
 

2BEANS
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

Love this.. its everything I felt through this the adjustment of going from one to two. Now my older dd wont go anywhere without her little sis. Chat Icon

Posted 7/25/09 5:55 PM
 

Gatsbygirl
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

This is so nice! Connor is a great big brother, but I feel so bad when I think of last summer how it was just the two of us. This helped Chat Icon

Posted 7/25/09 7:41 PM
 

Bxgell2
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

Oh god, only 7 days postpartum, I shouldn't have read this. I'm a freaking bawling mess Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 7/25/09 8:26 PM
 

Faithx2
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

Thanks for the tears Allison!! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 7/25/09 8:33 PM
 

clwp
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

I'm crying my eyes out - it basically poetically tells what I am feeling with DD#1 right now - my time with her alone was a mere 14 months... now I feel - this may get easier... thank you!

Posted 7/25/09 8:42 PM
 

JerseyMamaOf3
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

As a former 2under2 mom and now having a 2&3 year old this is completely true. I have to say, the begging brought back feelings when I found out I was pg with #2.

Posted 7/25/09 9:32 PM
 

JerseyMamaOf3
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

Posted by clwp

I'm crying my eyes out - it basically poetically tells what I am feeling with DD#1 right now - my time with her alone was a mere 14 months... now I feel - this may get easier... thank you!



My 2 are 14 months apart and it does!!! Chat Icon

Posted 7/25/09 9:32 PM
 

Moehick
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

Love this!Chat Icon

Posted 7/25/09 9:32 PM
 

JenBenMen
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

wow...this is so my life right now...i may print this and hang it in my house

Posted 7/25/09 9:40 PM
 

FelAndJon
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

Wow, this is beautiful!

Posted 7/28/09 12:51 PM
 

Diana1215
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

Hysterical crying right now. That was really nice!

Posted 7/28/09 1:08 PM
 

Belladonna219
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

beautiful Chat Icon

Posted 7/28/09 1:30 PM
 

Joeswife1106
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

I'm not yet pg with #2 but I read this and think it is beautiful! When I think about having another baby a lot of these fears run through my head. It's so comforting to know I'm not the only one and I look forward to TTC #2 in a few months and being able to read this and know it will be ok Chat Icon

Posted 7/28/09 4:23 PM
 

whyteach
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

This was beautiful. I do not have 2 yet but often think about how I will feel with it not being just DD. But as you read it while I'm sure it is adjustment once you get past that hurdle it must be beautiful to see how much they will share.

Posted 7/28/09 9:31 PM
 

NewlyMrs
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Re: Something I found for new Mom's of 2 or those PG with their 2nd Baby...

I don't have 2, but yet I am a crying mess!

Beautiful!!!

Posted 7/28/09 9:34 PM
 
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