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DRMom
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
I have no Mommy friends really...I moved to NC at 32 weeks pregnant and have worked at home. But I can say I think that is bullsh!t and you should call the person out on it, privately.
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brownie
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
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julz33
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
I belong to a couple of playgroups and the gossip and drama is insane at times. So far it has never involved me, but some of the women are just crazy.
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| Posted 5/24/10 8:43 PM |
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waterspout4
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
I am friends of a small group of LIF moms in real life. If we have ever thought there were differences in parenting styles, we discuss. I have known it to be between moms of different opinions, but maybe sometimes things are heard wrong.
For instance, one mom FMed me about one year ago. Although we have been friends for years, she wanted to tell me that she thought "I was nuts" for contemplating a second child. (I was nearly killed in delivering my first.) I confronted her and told her that I thought if anybody would be by my side, it would be her. I misheard her tone. We hugged and cried for a long time after that FM. I couldn't handle being friend with someone that I couldn't 'confront' if I heard something I didn't like.
I still think my son has OCD and is leaning toward the side of Rainman with his numbers and letters. If my friends told me they thought something was up, I would totally listen. If they talked about how fat I am, I'd kick their a$$ and never talk with them again. There is a difference in helping and being a b!tch.
Eh, I'm rambling.
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| Posted 5/24/10 9:01 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
I've always hated and avoided gossips. Not all women are this way. It sounds like you are in the wrong circle of mommy friends. I have made a handful of mommy friends and acquaintances and I don't think any of us speak badly of one another.
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| Posted 5/24/10 9:07 PM |
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BMonster
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
First off, sending you lots of
Posted by waterspout4
I couldn't handle being friend with someone that I couldn't 'confront' if I heard something I didn't like.
I completely agree with this. If it's mommies I don't know well, they're super negative and talk crap about people, odds are they're talking about you, too. I try to avoid people like that. Meeting & getting to know new mommies is hard. Hopefully along the way you'll find some great ones to GTG with. The group of friends I have now (mommies & not) I know that I can talk to them or call them out on stuff and we'll discuss & get over it. Anyone else just isn't worth it
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| Posted 5/24/10 9:42 PM |
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
Honestly, I can't be bothered with mommy groups. Why so the day I don't go to a gtg I'm talked about behind my back? EVERY gtg I've been to with LIF there is always someone talking about someone else. It's disappointing. Not everyone is like this but a lot are. I can't pick out the real from the fake so I just stopped going. It stinks cause some of them look like a lot of fun!!!! 
If I didn't have close friends with kids my kids age then I'd probably jump in on more GTG's.
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| Posted 5/24/10 9:47 PM |
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Dani77
It's FUN to be ONE
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
So far I've been going to a rather few amount of GTGs ... and the momies that I meet each week never ever talk bad behind anyones back. Heck, I don't think I ever heard them talk bad about anyone in general.
I truely believe that a real friend never talks about you behind your back... maybe small talk like if someone asks how you are doing, say fine, or not so good...but then always add, maybe you should talk to them... Thats just me. I don't handle the high school drama anymore... we are all adults with lillte children... time to grow up.
I have a few amount of friends...but they are all sincere. It's not the amount of friends you have, yet the way that you are treated that matters the most.
Many many hugs to you. There ARE true, good, and sincere Mommys out there... I'm one of them LOL
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| Posted 5/24/10 10:22 PM |
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brownie
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
Posted by carolyns4cupcakes
EVERY gtg I've been to with LIF there is always someone talking about someone else. It's disappointing. Not everyone is like this but a lot are. .
Awww....
I've never been to one YET, but I was hoping it wouldn't be like this
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| Posted 5/24/10 10:25 PM |
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Dani77
It's FUN to be ONE
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
Posted by brownie
Posted by carolyns4cupcakes
EVERY gtg I've been to with LIF there is always someone talking about someone else. It's disappointing. Not everyone is like this but a lot are. .
Awww....
I've never been to one YET, but I was hoping it wouldn't be like this
They aren't ALL like this...I have been going to the Arboretum every Friday in Oakdale, and the girls that meet there are amazing!!! We always have such a great time, and they are sooo sweet!! I look foward to fridays now... getting some great friendships out of that. Def. give them a try...
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Lola
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
Posted by Dani77
Posted by brownie
Posted by carolyns4cupcakes
EVERY gtg I've been to with LIF there is always someone talking about someone else. It's disappointing. Not everyone is like this but a lot are. .
Awww....
I've never been to one YET, but I was hoping it wouldn't be like this
They aren't ALL like this...I have been going to the Arboretum every Friday in Oakdale, and the girls that meet there are amazing!!! We always have such a great time, and they are sooo sweet!! I look foward to fridays now... getting some great friendships out of that. Def. give them a try...
I agree with this. Everyone I have met at the arboretum and Argyle has been really nice. Not catty or gossipy at all. I have not heard one person bad mouthing anyone. We have a really nice group of moms and I would hate for this post to deter someone from joining us.
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Michelle1123
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
I have NEVER heard gossip about anyone at a LIF gtg. Maybe I've just been lucky that I get to meet all the nice and wonderful moms from here 
BUT, I can assure you that its not only moms, or even women for that matter. At dance class, the moms and even the one dad that comes every week talk about the parents of kids that there kids play soccer with.
You just have to find the right group. Dont give up - the good ones are out there!
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
Posted by Bluepixie
It's truly amazing that some people have no problem hugging you and stabbing you in the back all in the same motion.
That's because they are looking for a spot to put the knife.
I've had my share of this and decided a while back to take those people out of my life. It's true...if the group will gossip about other people then chances are they will gossip about you.
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brownie
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
I have felt like in some groups, ummm, what are they going to say about me when I leave...because when I'm there they talk about others
I agree with what others have said, I wouldn't say anything more than what I would to somebody face to face
but like another poster said, I don't have time for worrying about that crap...if that's how its going to be in 1 group, I say "see ya" and move on, maybe try meeting others or lay low for awhile
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Posted by Michelle1123
I have NEVER heard gossip about anyone at a LIF gtg. Maybe I've just been lucky that I get to meet all the nice and wonderful moms from here
BUT, I can assure you that its not only moms, or even women for that matter. At dance class, the moms and even the one dad that comes every week talk about the parents of kids that there kids play soccer with.
You just have to find the right group. Dont give up - the good ones are out there!
I agree with Oakdale walk group rocks! I went to the first one and I had a really nice time! I will do another in the future. I also agree with Michelle that it's dance class, gymnastics, soccer, karate, the PTA etc...........And there are always cliques inside the cliques. NOT all women do this but in every situation there are those that talk about "you" and "your kids" behind your back. It's just a fact and I try my best to never be one of those b/c I don't want it done to me!
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
Posted by Ang-Rich
Posted by Bluepixie
It's truly amazing that some people have no problem hugging you and stabbing you in the back all in the same motion.
That's because they are looking for a spot to put the knife.
I've had my share of this and decided a while take those people out of my life. It's true...if the group will gossip about other people then chances are they will gossip about you.
Ang- I've met you a few times but we never really spoke one on one that much. Anyway- my gut feeling about you has always been a good one. I have always thought of you as such a genuinely sincere girl. You love helping people and I'm sure if I asked any one of your friends they could write me an essy and a 1/2 about how awesome you are! You give off a good vibe and good energy...at least that's how I felt whenever I saw you! just wanted to share that!
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sleepie76
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
Posted by MrsGmomof3
Because "some" women refuse to grow up and get their minds out of high school.
agreed
What is it about <some> women and their intense desire to put others down to make themselves feel superior?
I always assume it's because they don't have enough going on in their own lives or are unhappy with their lives. So they pick other people apart so it makes them feel better.
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lakadema
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
I belong to a mom's group of about 8 women and we have play dates at least once a week. Honestly, these are some of the sweetest, kindest women I have met in my life. NEVER do we talk about the people who aren't there, except of course to plan a sprinkle for one that is having her second baby. I don't think any of us has the patience for that crap.
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katiebug
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
I am sorry your feeling were hurt.
I always viewed gossip like this...If people are spending their time discussing me, either I am that important or their life is that boring. Either way, no skin off of my back.
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CaMacho
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
You don't deserve that!!
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
Posted by SweetApril
IMO you can only trust your truly best friends, the rest are just people to fill the time in between
ITA!!! I had SOME toxic people in my life and I did not hesitate to get rid of them. I do not have time to harbor negative energy around me.
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08BabySurprise
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
Oh Laura - I am so sorry. Some people are just awful!
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littlejoy06
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
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Bluepixie
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Re: Sometimes "mommy friends" are more brutal than kids on a playground.
Thanks, everyone. I really appreciate it. I too have tried the 'meet ups' groups but they are very cliquey.
Anyone coming up to Cape Cod this summer?? We'd love to have a playdate 
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