sorry for the rant but I am frustrated

OK so there is another baby in the dumpsters well I am sorry that is totally unexceptable with all of these safehaven that these woman are provided with...It just figures that us caring wonderful people here who are willing and able to give a child a loving and warm home have to go through an absolute hell to get there honestly some days I don't even know how I am getting out of bed some days much less standing and functioning. But I know that there is a time that I have to get back on the horse and try again and to be honest after 4 IVF attempts I am a little tired and totally petrified to do it again. Even so much as that I told my RE that I do not want anastesia when I do it again in Jan I am scared that I won't wake up (I have problems with 2 retrievals) and then there are these crack whore animals just throwing away precious babies as if they were just trash. If you can't take care of a child keep your legs closed...and then there is a someone I know who is having a baby as we speak who was an alcoholic coke addict who maracously became sober when she found out she was 16 weeks pg I pray that the baby is OK I don't know if you know what hell and torture a baby goes through from a meth addiction it is horrible to watch anyway I am sorry about being so graphic I just cannot grasp the fact that someone like me who never did any drugs and drinks responsibly and did everything right cannot have the one thing that would truelly make me happy!!!

Message edited 12/18/2007 12:07:35 AM.

Re: sorry for the rant but I am frustrated

I totally understand. My husband and I have been TTC for 5 years. My brother in law's girlfriend is pregnant (she is due next month). Brother in law and girlfriend are both 17. She still smokes, rumors are going around town that she's still doing drugs/drinking. There was a fair in town a month or two ago, she was even riding one of the rides, where it throws you upside down ans spins really fast! I couldn't believe it. Seeing her pregnant, makes me sick! My husband is disgusted! We try not to go to his parent's house when his brother or the girlfriend is there. We just don't understand. It definitely isn't fair! And I'm sick of hearing... "Try to relax" or "when the time is right it will happen"... So by me relaxing and when the time is right, my PCOS will go away and I will ovulate on my own? And I won't have to take medication anymore? Ok, sorry to sound bitter! It's just so frustrating! If you ever need to talk, feel free to write me!!

Re: sorry for the rant but I am frustrated

Re: sorry for the rant but I am frustrated

I know.....those who do not even want a child get pregnant as if it's nothing. Not fair. Rant totally justified!

Re: sorry for the rant but I am frustrated

I had the same rant last night and then this morning at work. This is a well justified rant!!!!

When I was talking about it with DH and getting upset, he's telling me not to worry about other people and just worry about us. I think its very easy for a man to say that because they don't have the bond that women have when they are pregnant and carrying that life for 9 months. He started coming around and seeing it my way and he hugged me and said don't worry, we'll have our baby soon.

My former boss on the other hand tried to make excuses like the mother was ignorant and wasn't aware of safehavens, or maybe she didn't know she was pregnant and freaked out, just one excuse after another. She said that she understands what I'm saying because she always wanted children, but she couldn't carry them. She had no problem getting pregnant.

Just listening to news stories like this one just gets me so friggin mad. People who do this to there babies shouldn't be able to have kids. I know that sounds harsh, but if you are willing to throw you newborn in a dumpster or garbage shoot, you have no right to have children.

Re: sorry for the rant but I am frustrated

Me too... I can't even think about this much as it will get me more upset.

Re: sorry for the rant but I am frustrated

I totally 100% agree with you and say the same exact thing all the time. All I know is the pain in my heardt I feel when I hear these people are throwing out babies is indescribable. This is why when someone says to me "oh god will let you have a child in his time".. I always reply back.. "so god let the crack whore have a baby to throw it in the dumpster and die, while I sit here for years waiting for my time to come, don't give me that BS".. life just isn't fair, and that is a hard fact I have learned going through IF.

I am sorry you are feeling down, and scared.. I am sending you lots of

Re: sorry for the rant but I am frustrated

thanks ladies I was a little weary about posting my insane rant last night but I think that something needed to be said about it I am just so tired of all of this we are going on our 5th IVF after losing a twim pegnancy (1 at 8 weeks the other at 17 weeks) I mean how much more do I have to go through before I finally crack...