Re: Speaking on behalf of the husbands

#1

I asked DH for a specific watch for my birthday. The face was a heart and had diamonds around it. He bought me a completely different one, it was a charm bracelet with a heart watch on it was well as a dragonfly (which I love) and some other charms. When I first opened it, I was not sure if I liked it. I had my heart set on the watch I'd asked for, but I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I put it on. The longer I wore it, the more I loved it. He put thought into it and didn't take the easy way out (I would have been very happy with the other watch but it would never be as special to me as this one is). It's nice to be surprised even if it's not exactly what you were hoping for. My DH knows me better than I know myself sometimes.

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Posted by Moehick

#2 all the way my man!

I will be sending you my wish list shortly

don't need it

whipped cream and shackles like last year?

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Ideally I'd love for him to pick up on the hints I give all year or my random comments when we're shopping in say August...."ohhhh look at that XXXX, isn't that beautiful" & for him to make a mental note & surprise me at Christmas/my birthday, etc.

But that hasn't happened yet

So I generally tell him what I want & he most of the time will get it. This year I ordered my own Christmas present & he just has to wrap it.

BUT I'd also love for him to get something he'd think I'd like.....AND NOT CD'S or some general gift he usually gets...something from the heart that he knows I'd like....even if its something very small. Just to put some thought into it & to show me he does know me. (it could even be making up a CD of our favorite songs from when we started dating till now or a long letter recapping our years together...)something w/ some thought.

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Ok...unless there is something that I REALLY want, I would rather Dh buy me something on his own. It would mean more to me that he thought of it by himself. When it comes to Christmas, there isn't anything that I really have to have. I usually give him one thing that I like but tell him that if he has any ideas of his own, go with it!

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Posted by GoldenRod


That's potentially even much worse! Heaven forbid I grab something from the "These things haven't fit since before I got PG, but I don't want to get rid of them" drawer.

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Posted by QuoteTheRaven424

Posted by GoldenRod


That's potentially even much worse! Heaven forbid I grab something from the "These things haven't fit since before I got PG, but I don't want to get rid of them" drawer.

exactly!!!

clothes, lingerie and jewlery are so specific.

Yes, I can go in the drawer and get sizes and styles and what-not, and can still not be right. Because it's more than size - it's cut, it's design, it's accentuating certain body parts. And like the Hot Rod just said, if you're like Boosh, she doesn't throw anything out, so I could be grabbing jeans or underwear that fit great years ago, but now, not so much.

I get what you all are saying "listen and pay attention and go the extra mile, etc."

But like I said, I know her tastes and I know her interests. We have the same ones up and down the board - but while I know she'll "like" something, she may not want to own it. Hence, a list is great because I get the OK before I purchase it.

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Posted by GoldenRod

Posted by QuoteTheRaven424

Posted by GoldenRod


That's potentially even much worse! Heaven forbid I grab something from the "These things haven't fit since before I got PG, but I don't want to get rid of them" drawer.

exactly!!!

clothes, lingerie and jewlery are so specific.

Yes, I can go in the drawer and get sizes and styles and what-not, and can still not be right. Because it's more than size - it's cut, it's design, it's accentuating certain body parts. And like the Hot Rod just said, if you're like Boosh, she doesn't throw anything out, so I could be grabbing jeans or underwear that fit great years ago, but now, not so much.

I get what you all are saying "listen and pay attention and go the extra mile, etc."

But like I said, I know her tastes and I know her interests. We have the same ones up and down the board - but while I know she'll "like" something, she may not want to own it. Hence, a list is great because I get the OK before I purchase it.

And this is why you and I are both happily married....

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Posted by GoldenRod

Posted by QuoteTheRaven424

Posted by GoldenRod


That's potentially even much worse! Heaven forbid I grab something from the "These things haven't fit since before I got PG, but I don't want to get rid of them" drawer.

exactly!!!

clothes, lingerie and jewlery are so specific.

Yes, I can go in the drawer and get sizes and styles and what-not, and can still not be right. Because it's more than size - it's cut, it's design, it's accentuating certain body parts. And like the Hot Rod just said, if you're like Boosh, she doesn't throw anything out, so I could be grabbing jeans or underwear that fit great years ago, but now, not so much.

I get what you all are saying "listen and pay attention and go the extra mile, etc."

But like I said, I know her tastes and I know her interests. We have the same ones up and down the board - but while I know she'll "like" something, she may not want to own it. Hence, a list is great because I get the OK before I purchase it.

And this is why you and I are both happily married....

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Honestly #1, if he really TRIED and put some thought into it. Because I already tell him what I want and still don't get the right stuff.

I have no problem exchanging something for size if he really put an effort into picking something out for me.

He used to do it all the time, that's why I don't understand why he can't do it now.

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Posted by MrsF519

Posted by GoldenRod

Posted by QuoteTheRaven424

Posted by GoldenRod


That's potentially even much worse! Heaven forbid I grab something from the "These things haven't fit since before I got PG, but I don't want to get rid of them" drawer.

exactly!!!

clothes, lingerie and jewlery are so specific.

Yes, I can go in the drawer and get sizes and styles and what-not, and can still not be right. Because it's more than size - it's cut, it's design, it's accentuating certain body parts. And like the Hot Rod just said, if you're like Boosh, she doesn't throw anything out, so I could be grabbing jeans or underwear that fit great years ago, but now, not so much.

I get what you all are saying "listen and pay attention and go the extra mile, etc."

But like I said, I know her tastes and I know her interests. We have the same ones up and down the board - but while I know she'll "like" something, she may not want to own it. Hence, a list is great because I get the OK before I purchase it.

And this is why you and I are both happily married....

you guys are so funny

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Posted by QuoteTheRaven424

I've read some posts where the ladies want us to go out and surprise them with a gift they didn't ask for, put some thought in, and wrap it ourselves.

Let me pose this. Would you rather

1. Us do that and be totally wrong - thus making you unhappy. Possibly get you clothes or jewlery that either doesnt fit or is not your style.

OR

2. buy exactly what you ask us to buy, thus keeping in line with your wants and expectations