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Michi
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Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Gosh with all these cheating posts it makes me sooo sad, so my question is do you put urself IN the position to cheat..for example..go to bars with friends where ur judgement could be impaired or are u very flirty and pple will get the impression that ur single..an example that happened to me today..
I was in the deli getting lunch and the guy next to me was GORGEOUS,so i looked up at him and smiled and then he smiled back and that was it.... BUT the single girl in me would have hung around to see if he chatted with me but obviously i have a boyfriend and would never cheat so I made sure to walk away as to not even give the opportunity for conversation to potentially happen..
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baghag
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Nope. I think I broadcast MARRIED loud and clear. Not that anyone was beating down my door! 
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| Posted 4/12/06 1:33 PM |
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jennandrob
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Posted by baghag
Nope. I think I broadcast MARRIED loud and clear. Not that anyone was beating down my door!
Same here - on all accounts!
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| Posted 4/12/06 1:34 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
DH and I are very big on this... and we both are very aware of the concept of putting yourself in a position to cheat. It doesn't mean you stop doing everything - going to bars, etc, but if you make yourself aware of it, I think you stand a better chance of not having one of those "it just happened" kind of moments.
So no, I try not to put myself in those positions.
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| Posted 4/12/06 1:41 PM |
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Bri
I Love You to Pieces!
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Nope
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| Posted 4/12/06 1:41 PM |
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
I am sure no one wants me either!!! Poor, poor DH.
But I do flirt I'll admit and DH knows it. I certainly dont hide the gleaming diamonds on my finger though!
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| Posted 4/12/06 1:42 PM |
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BaroqueMama
Chase is one!
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
No, I absolutely do not put myself in the "position to cheat" and neither does my husband. There's no point in doing that. We still go out together and separately, we still have lives, but if you're not looking to be in that situation, then you usually don't find yourself in it.
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| Posted 4/12/06 1:43 PM |
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
No, nor do I want to. It was hard enough finding men to date when I was single; I can't see giving off the smallest hint that I am available since I am not and I don't wish to be.
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| Posted 4/12/06 1:43 PM |
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Tany
Becoming a different woman
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Posted by missus-hbradio
I am sure no one wants me either!!! Poor, poor DH.
But I do flirt I'll admit and DH knows it. I certainly dont hide the gleaming diamonds on my finger though!
oh shut up.
I flirt too but it's innocent, I would never do anything though.
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| Posted 4/12/06 1:47 PM |
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Yes, I have been in the situation.
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| Posted 4/12/06 1:56 PM |
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heidla
Me and the guys
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
DH and I are both big flirts. I am also sure that we both have our opportunities to cheat, but the thought of it would never occur to me. I know that a relationship like the one DH and I have took us years to cultivate and I truly believe neither of us would ever jeopardize it for a fling.
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| Posted 4/12/06 1:57 PM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Not at all! I don't even make eye contact with men I don't know anymore. I don't smile at them, generally I don't talk to men I don't know...
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| Posted 4/12/06 1:57 PM |
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Christine
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
No.
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| Posted 4/12/06 1:57 PM |
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Shanti
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
No! And I have faith that neither does my DH.
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Never! I rarely go out without DH and I the only guy friends I have are married or friends with DH.
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| Posted 4/12/06 2:04 PM |
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lullabella
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
I go out all the time without my husband and while I don't normally talk to strange guys, I don't believe if I did I would be "putting myself in a position to cheat". I have more self control than that and would never throw away my marriage or family for anything.
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| Posted 4/12/06 2:13 PM |
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Diane
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Nope, and never will
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| Posted 4/12/06 2:25 PM |
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Snozberry
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
I go out about once a month without DH and I certainly don't approach any guys nor do I hide that I'm married when they flirt with me. I don't feel like I'm putting myself in the position to cheat because I have no desire to hurt my marriage or my incredible husband.
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| Posted 4/12/06 2:29 PM |
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karacg
Babygirl is 4!
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Nobody flirst with me but I talk to anyone and everyone --- one of the drawbacks of working from home is that you don't have enough human contact, lol.
DH knows this and trusts me. To think that because you talk to someone means you are going to cheat well doesn't make sense to me. My ex had an affair with my best friend -- everyone thinks it can't happen to them...
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| Posted 4/12/06 2:32 PM |
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reggie
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Nope. never did and never will.
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
nope! I am home with my husband every night!
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DjPiLL
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
I definitely don't put myself in any situation like this. I just have no desire to even get close to something like this.
Don't have the patience for "the game"... if you know what I mean. I am a happily married man. 
There have been a lot of times while I was working at the bar there I just don't want to be bothered dealing with some of the women. I make sure my wedding band is in GOOD sight.
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nov04libride
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Posted by karacg
To think that because you talk to someone means you are going to cheat well doesn't make sense to me. My ex had an affair with my best friend -- everyone thinks it can't happen to them...
For me I just don't want to encourage them. Context is a big thing...I talk to work people (of course) but at a bar if a guy tries to make small talk, I don't encourage it. I used to meet guys by making eye contact and smiling (how DH and I met at a bar), so I don't make eye contact like that anymore.
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| Posted 4/12/06 2:52 PM |
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evenedan
Need a little sunshine
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Unless I'm suddenly standing in my ex's bedroom or something, I don't really see what the "position to cheat" is. Both my husband and I go out to bars with our own friends and even if I drink, I never feel I'm putting myself in a position to cheat. I'm very aware of where the line is and I respect myself and my husband enough to not even flirt with crossing it. If I were to get drunk and throw myself at men or respond to their advances— that's not the position to cheat, that's just being a wh@re. And for people who feel that going out to bars in general and/or partying sans spouse for the night automatically means putting yourself in a position to cheat—Get a Grip! And then go out and get a life!
Also, if a person is going to cheat, it could start anywhere—at work, the grocery store, a restaurant...
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bethsiar
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Re: Spinoff: Do you put urself in the "position to cheat"
Posted by evenedan
Unless I'm suddenly standing in my ex's bedroom or something, I don't really see what the "position to cheat" is. Both my husband and I go out to bars with our own friends and even if I drink, I never feel I'm putting myself in a position to cheat. I'm very aware of where the line is and I respect myself and my husband enough to not even flirt with crossing it. If I were to get drunk and throw myself at men or respond to their advances— that's not the position to cheat, that's just being a wh@re. And for people who feel that going out to bars in general and/or partying sans spouse for the night automatically means putting yourself in a position to cheat—Get a Grip! And then go out and get a life!
Also, if a person is going to cheat, it could start anywhere—at work, the grocery store, a restaurant...
wow! well said! 
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