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Cpt2007
A new love!
Member since 1/08 5946 total posts
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Liz
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
I keep a log but it is also my master excel sheet to track my progress with sending thank you notes. I also use it as my address list for Christmas cards and the like.
hit post to fast. i do not use it as a basis for giving gifts. we give what we feel is appropriate and can afford.
Message edited 4/19/2011 12:42:43 PM.
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
No way!! Circumstances are different for everyone!!
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| Posted 4/19/11 12:47 PM |
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Ophelia
she's baaccckkkk ;)
Member since 5/06 23378 total posts
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remember, when Gulliver traveled....
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
we had a family of 3 come to our wedding and hand us a check for $10.
and you know what, that was an extremely generous gift from them b/c they literally have nothing. NOTHING.
there were others who gave more than they did, but it was much less of a stretch for them to do so. who is the more generous?
a log like this simply wouldn't work for me and those that I love/love me.
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| Posted 4/19/11 12:49 PM |
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dpli
Daylight savings :)
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
Only kept track for my wedding. Even then, it was because we got money from some guests, but a lot of gifts from our registry and I wanted to mention the non-money gifts in the thank you notes.
I would probably ask someone who has been married more recently what the average gift is now, though.
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| Posted 4/19/11 12:50 PM |
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jennandrob
mom of two!
Member since 5/05 4368 total posts
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Jenn
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
i kept a log for our wedding, and DD's christening---I generally give the same or more. Whatever we can do at that time.
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| Posted 4/19/11 12:51 PM |
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christinec2010
LIF Adolescent
Member since 10/09 637 total posts
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Christine
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
Yes for weddings & bridal showers. In our families & circles of friends this is the way gift giving goes.
As for anything baby related we have nothing to use as a guide since we do not have any children. At the current time we spend a lot of money on family & friends kids.
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| Posted 4/19/11 12:55 PM |
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leighla
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Lauren
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
Posted by Jenn627
Nope.
I give what I can - if it's more, it's more, if it's less, it's less.
No tit for tat.
Same here.
I'm in a very different financial position from most of my family.
I know they struggle to give even $20 to my son on his birthday.
That doesn't mean that I would only give $20 to them.
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| Posted 4/19/11 1:01 PM |
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DRMom
Two in Blue
Member since 5/05 20223 total posts
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Melissa
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
No.
FOR US we think that is sort of petty. we give what we can afford and base our gifts on the relationship. Though, if someone gives us a generous gift we would probably respond in kind if we were able. If they gave us a smaller gift we would give what we felt appropriate regardless of their gift.
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| Posted 4/19/11 1:01 PM |
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computergirl
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
Posted by leighla
Posted by Jenn627
Nope.
I give what I can - if it's more, it's more, if it's less, it's less.
No tit for tat.
Same here.
I'm in a very different financial position from most of my family.
I know they struggle to give even $20 to my son on his birthday.
That doesn't mean that I would only give $20 to them.
Same here. I will not penalize family/friends for being in a different financial position than us.
However, people who inflict crappy regifts on me might get less in my book. It's just the thoughtlessness of it-- the gift doesn't have to cost much, but at least TRY to think of me and my tastes, don't just pawn off whatever unwanted gifts are in your closet.
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| Posted 4/19/11 1:07 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
My Boys!!!!
Member since 6/06 14437 total posts
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C
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
I dont keep a written log but I have a pretty good memory and give in return what they gave us for special events.
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| Posted 4/19/11 1:13 PM |
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jellybean78
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Member since 8/06 13103 total posts
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Mommy
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
I give according to how close I am to the person/couple and what I can afford.
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| Posted 4/19/11 1:16 PM |
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headoverheels
s'il vous plaît
Member since 6/07 42079 total posts
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LB
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
Yes and other.
I always keep a log because it makes writing thank you notes easier.
Usually I don't refer to it when giving back (because we pretty much give the same amount to everyone) but if we are debating how much to give for whatever reason (like it's someone we haven't seen in 10 years), then yes, we refer to it.
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| Posted 4/19/11 1:19 PM |
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nrthshgrl
It goes fast. Pay attention.
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
No. it would make me feel like I'm just giving out interest-free loans.
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| Posted 4/19/11 1:22 PM |
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JessInCA
live laugh love
Member since 8/06 5082 total posts
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Jess
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
I chose "other." "Sometimes" would've been a good option.
I do have the list of what we were gifted, but only from our wedding. I don't keep track for other events.
And I do refer to it when it comes to be our turn to give for a wedding, but not as a hard-and-fast rule. We don't always give back exactly what we got. I use it more as a ballpark guideline - like to take it into consideration if someone was super generous to us, that sort of thing.
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| Posted 4/19/11 1:26 PM |
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MySunshine
In love with my Baby Boy
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
Posted by BaseballWidow
No way!! Circumstances are different for everyone!!
Exactly!!!
I give what I can and what I want. If person x can only afford to give me $20 and I can afford to give them $100 why should I give them less? A gift is that -a GIFT I don't see a gift as being an accounting equation in which debits must equal credits.
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| Posted 4/19/11 1:28 PM |
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JenMarie
One day at a time
Member since 11/07 7397 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
No, I don't. Everyone's financial situation can change, so I expect people to give what they're comfortable with and I do the same.
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| Posted 4/19/11 1:30 PM |
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MetsGirl07
LIF O2 Vendor
Member since 12/07 16202 total posts
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Deanna
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
Posted by julz33
I do keep a log of gifts, but we don't use it negatively. What I mean is we give what we would normally give to people... but if someone stands out as being super extra generous we will do something extra for them in return. If someone gave a "cheap" gift we wouldn't lower our gift amount, so it would only work in someones favor.
SAME!
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| Posted 4/19/11 1:36 PM |
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KittyGags
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
For our wedding we did. For anything else, no. I've used it to gauge reciprocal gifts.
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| Posted 4/19/11 1:40 PM |
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No
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| Posted 4/19/11 2:12 PM |
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Peainapod
Peanuts are here!
Member since 1/09 13591 total posts
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Diana
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
I only kept a log for my wedding and showers so I knew what to write in the thank you card. but other than that no. I give what I can afford and I go by who close the person is to us.
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dctead
It's 5 o'clock somewhere!
Member since 11/10 2139 total posts
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Emily
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
Posted by Jenn627
Nope.
I give what I can - if it's more, it's more, if it's less, it's less.
No tit for tat.
Exactly... that's what we do.
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| Posted 4/19/11 2:35 PM |
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Jax430
Hi!
Member since 5/05 18919 total posts
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Jackie
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
I have a spreadsheet from my wedding with who was invited, who attended, what they gave, etc. I will refer to it on occasion, but I don't give tit-for-tat. I got married when a lot of my friend were right out of college, and I know no one could afford the same gifts that we can now. I give what I feel is appropriate. At times, my mom will call me to ask what a family friend gave so that she can figure out what give their children.
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Bearcat
Love my little girls!!! <3
Member since 6/10 10818 total posts
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
Posted by Otherme
The only reason i have a record of what we received for our wedding is because we had a big spreadsheet to keep track of everything - who was invited, who responded, who gave gifts for shower or wedding (and what it was), if the thank yous were sent out yet etc.
So because i have that, we do have a 'log' of what we received for our wedding, and have referred to it a few times when deciding what to give to others.
To be honest though, its only come into play when we remember getting an extremely generous gift from someone and we wanted to make sure we reciprocated in kind if we could
We don't keep track of what we actually give people for weddings though.. each time we just think of what sounds reasonable based upon our relationship with the couple and what we can afford. So i'm sure it fluctuates but i haven't kept track of it so don't know exactly how much it does!
For weddings/showers etc i have a rough idea in my head of what is appropriate to spend for a 'general' gift and we usually go by that - again depends on how close we are with the person
eta: i don't have anything like this for bday/showers/christenings/engagements etc.. we just give what is appropriate.
this. it is really the best way to keep track of who was invited etc. and make sure everyone got appropriate thank-yous.
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maybemommy10
Big Brothers to Be !
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
I had no idea people even did this till I got married and a friend suggested I create a document to keep track, i was   .
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| Posted 4/19/11 2:53 PM |
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emilylives
biking
Member since 12/09 2163 total posts
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Emily
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Re: Spinoff Joyous Events Close Together. WITH POLL
I don't keep a log, but I generally know what people gave me for my wedding (although that may not be the case as time goes on and we move further away from the wedding day).
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