dandr10199
Grace is growing up too fast!
Member since 10/05 11561 total posts
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Dina
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Spinoff: My views on a V-Day...Hallmark Holliday? or a day to appreciate the woman you love?
For the record. Valentine's day is a hallmark holiday. I belive a woman invented it, knowing that all women need a few days to be appreciated. I LOVE them and feel I need a manufactured holiday every 5 months or so to keep my sanity.
My husband is a great guy, loving DH, great dad, BUT I would be lying if I typed that I feel Mother's day or valentines day is a hallmark holiday and said "he loves me every day of the year and I don't need a hallmark holiday to show me that...yadda, yadda, yadda". Hey! I KNOW he loves me...I just want to be thought of and appreciated and shown that appreciation in a tangible way a few days out of the year. As women, who do A LOT & we deserve a few days on the calendar to be treated the way we were before, marriage, kids, and bills in my honest opinion. remember when you and your DH would sit up all night talking when dating? Remember the "just because" cards or flowers? A few days a year the Calendar tells MEN that it is time to woo your wife again. One thing I do know is that some men need to be reminded about stuff like this, especially if you have kids.
I am NOT expecting a Tiffany diamond bracelet, kooba bag, or prada shoes. Although if you gave me one or all I would absolutely LOVE IT. I am not expecting it though...WHAT I DO expect is:
A) a card - one that I know took some TIME and THOUGHT into picking the right one for ME. Not some generic BS "I lovey dovey I love you" card. Something that will make me laugh my butt of or cry my eyes out b/c I am overwhelmed by how touching it was.
B) I expect dinner - NOT one that I HAVE to cook. Take me out or get take out, pizza, sushi, Chinese, heck even a frozen pizza that Dh puts into the oven. Point being...I cook all the effing time, I put thought into healthy meals for my family, I clean the dishes most of the time (and YES I work outside the home too). So for 2 damn days a year...cook FOR ME...and DON"T even think about leaving the kitchen a mess afterward. If you can't clean it up and put two dishes in the dishwasher, TAKE ME OUT. Oh yeah, and arrange the babysitting too. Point is I figure EVERY damn thing out ALL the damn time. HOw hard is it??? Call family members and see who can watch the kid...If no one can, get take out and clean the kitchen. It is NOT rocket science.
D) Give me the day off...
Change the diapers...ALL OF THEM. EVEN the poopie ones. GIVE the kid a bath WITHOUT me asking. LOOK AROUND the house and think "hmmmm...what can I do to make HER life easier today?"
E) Pick up a bottle of wine and put the kid to bed early. Romance me like you did while dating. And NO...dropping your pants right after the kid is in bed is NOT foreplay.
F) Plan. No last minute Hail Mary's in the end zone please. I mean if the restaurant has a 3 hour wait b/c you neglected to make reservations and we end up at McDonald's on V-Day...YES I WILL be p!ssed & you will not get any for a couple of weeks. Women remember shite like that. And yes, I will bring it up every year and remind you to "make reservations" next year. So Please do not make me resort into being the "naggy wife" NO woman aspires to be that. Please realize, that NO WOMAN thinks a dinner at McDonald's after waiting an hour at a fancy restaurant for a table and bailing because you are both starving is romantic. She will tell her girlfriends about it once she has a girls night out and gets good and hammered. She will also cry about it while you are at work without you knowing. Not b/c you took her to McDonalds, but b/c you did NOT THINK about her in advance, put her as a priority.
G) Do A-F and I can guarantee you that you will get the lay of your life. Hell, it WILL be better than our honeymoon. Doing A-F = a very happy wife. 
Message edited 1/30/2009 3:18:20 PM.
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GoldenRod
10 years on LIF!
Member since 11/06 26792 total posts
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Shawn
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Re: Spinoff: My views on a V-Day...Hallmark Holliday? or a day to appreciate the woman you love?
Don't men need a day to be woo'd as well?
When do we get a break from being yelled at for not doing the laundry, scolded for not putting the garbage out, reprimanded for leaving dirty dishes around? What happened to the time when you thought that was a cute "quirk" that we had? WE remember those days.... 
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Ophelia
she's baaccckkkk ;)
Member since 5/06 23378 total posts
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remember, when Gulliver traveled....
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Re: Spinoff: My views on a V-Day...Hallmark Holliday? or a day to appreciate the woman you love?
I can PROMISE you, if my dh did those things without ANYONE (inlcuding HALLMARK) reminding him (say on March 12 or June 8 or November 30) his toes wouldn't uncurl for a month.
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dandr10199
Grace is growing up too fast!
Member since 10/05 11561 total posts
Name:
Dina
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Re: Spinoff: My views on a V-Day...Hallmark Holliday? or a day to appreciate the woman you love?
Posted by GoldenRod
Don't men need a day to be woo'd as well?
When do we get a break from being yelled at for not doing the laundry, scolded for not putting the garbage out, reprimanded for leaving dirty dishes around? What happened to the time when you thought that was a cute "quirk" that we had? WE remember those days....
Well, I never lived with DH before being engaged. And then it was 4 months before the wedding. He did clean dishes and cook back then.
I was trying to be funny...I love DH. i am in love with DH. And I do woo him more than a few days a year. 
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