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It didn't work for me....

That being said I am not for or against it. I believe every mom has to do what makes them feel comfortable and happy, and whatever helps them get through the day without any judgements from others.

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Posted by Princessmaris

Posted by dpli

Posted by Princessmaris
Or that the highlight of my day would include figuring out whether Uniqua from the backyardigans was a male or female..

you mean you actually don't think she is a girl?!?!

Actually she is not a girl...

She is not either...

She is exactly what her name says she is... "Unique"


ETA- I cant find where I read that...

But most websites refer to her as a her but then back up that she is not anything specific...

Re: Spinoff to CoSleeping (on Parenting)

I'm probably one of the only people on this board who actually wanted to co-sleep with her baby, even before he was born. I read up on it before DS was born and thought it would be the best thing for our family. My opinion has changed, though -- while, I still think it is best for us, I have seen how it does not work well for everyone. Some babies just wake too often and actually sleep better in their own space.

It has worked well for us, though. I work 3 days a week and I really feel that it helps me re-connect and bond with DS, especially on the days I work. I used a co-sleeper for the first year of his life and we have a king size bed, so we all sleep well. I'm thinking about starting to transition him out of the bed, but I'm really sad at the thought of him leaving.

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While I have learned to never say never, especially as a parent, I was and stil am against co-sleeping for me and my family. What you and your family do is your business. I am in no position to judge.

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When she was a newborn, we co-slept for a few hours after DH left for work in the morning. She would wake for her early am feeding and I'd just bring her into bed with me. I still remember her getting her fill and turning her head away, closed eyes and that satisfied smile on her face.

Anyway, I was against it just because I didn't want her to get attached to it and then never get her out of our bed. But then I did it out of exhaustion and convenience. And she was still young enough when we transitioned to a regular sleeping schedule in her crib with no problems.

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I am totally for it. Safely done of course, at least when there an infant a toddler can take over the bed. =)

I read "Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shape the Way We Parent " before having DS.

I knew I would BF and I knew I would cosleep. I had to read that book to know the Western Culture is not the norm, if you take the entire world into consideration so I never felt guilty.

I didn't want to create a habit that was hard to break so all naps were in the crib and at night he went to sleep in the crib. At the next feeding, he slept with me and this was always around my bed time. I never had a problem with sleepless night (except for teething). I could change a diaper in the dark and for night feedings I never got up. DH would actually say, "DS slept through the night again" and I would have to clarify that he eats every 2 hours he just didn't cry.

Once DS stopped night feeding co-sleeping pretty much phased out. Now the only time we get the pleasure is on vacation or Weekends when we try to sleep later.

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My bed is my bed. I need my own space and my children need their own space. I know it works for so many other people but I've always felt this way and will stick to it when baby #2 comes along.

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I Would NEVER have co-slept. Our furniture came 3 weeks later, Gillian was in our bed...end of story
No, but seriously...I loved it for soooo many reasons. I kinda wish I would have ended it before 3 months. BUT thats not to say that I would have felt safe with her in another room. There are SO many pros and cons. I guess ultimately I felt that I knew where she was, I knew she was safe and i just continued. Would I do it again...I would think not BUT other co-sleepers tell me that if you do it once, you will do it again. True or false...I dont know...I guess we shall see.

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I knew from the beginning I would not do it. My cousins who did it could not get the kids out of the bed - not that this happens to all co-sleeping kids, but I think b/c i only heard horror stories, i was adamant about not doing it. However, DS gets up to BF at 5:30 and he stays in bed with me until I get up at 6:30.

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Posted by Marcie

Posted by Shelly



It wasn't our policy, but on particularly bad nights, we woudl let her sleep with us. We still do occassionaly. However, we rarely get any sleep since she is so active.

Same here

We vowed we would never - but when you aren't getting any sleep for a week at a time, you have to do what you have to do.

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I was against it, but then did it on an as needed basis for the first 8 1/2 months of DS's life. We'll see what the future holds...

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I was adament about not doing it, and DH was also against it.

It would have never worked for us becuase of DH's hours and also becuase there was two of them.

We have never done it, not even for naps, they have always been in their cribs.

They never even slept in our room.

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Posted by bicosi

I was adamant about not co-sleeping for alot of the reasons why that article says BUT I had my own reasons as well. To me, our bed is for me and DH to sleep in. Mommy and Daddy don't mind having the kids in it with us inthe morning to watch some tv or snuggle in, but it's for us only. Once I had the kids, I was still very adamantly against it and never went back on my word on that stance.

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Posted by melijane

Posted by bicosi

I was adamant about not co-sleeping for alot of the reasons why that article says BUT I had my own reasons as well. To me, our bed is for me and DH to sleep in. Mommy and Daddy don't mind having the kids in it with us inthe morning to watch some tv or snuggle in, but it's for us only. Once I had the kids, I was still very adamantly against it and never went back on my word on that stance.

ITA-IMO my bed is for my DH and I and maybe a SICK child once in a while who needs some comforting. Not on a regular basis. I want my love life and my marriage to remain strong and I just don't see how you can do that with a baby in bed with you??

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Posted by Marcie

Posted by Shelly



It wasn't our policy, but on particularly bad nights, we woudl let her sleep with us. We still do occassionaly. However, we rarely get any sleep since she is so active.

Same here

We vowed we would never - but when you aren't getting any sleep for a week at a time, you have to do what you have to do.

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I never co-slept except for ONE time when we were on vacation and dd refused to sleep in her PNP...after she cired for like 2 hours, we brought her into the bed and she slept like a rock

but co-sleeping every night is just not my thing

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I was TOTALLY, COMPLETELY against it.

I did it. The end. Whatever worked to get some sleep. All of my plans went straight out the window.

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Posted by sometimesmommy

Posted by melijane

Posted by bicosi

I was adamant about not co-sleeping for alot of the reasons why that article says BUT I had my own reasons as well. To me, our bed is for me and DH to sleep in. Mommy and Daddy don't mind having the kids in it with us inthe morning to watch some tv or snuggle in, but it's for us only. Once I had the kids, I was still very adamantly against it and never went back on my word on that stance.

ITA-IMO my bed is for my DH and I and maybe a SICK child once in a while who needs some comforting. Not on a regular basis. I want my love life and my marriage to remain strong and I just don't see how you can do that with a baby in bed with you??

True for some their marraige would suffer. For us we never were "bed" people when it came to our love life but to be honest if a marraige fails due to a couple's child being in their bed I think there were deeper problems to begin with.

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I co-slept with my kids until they were maybe 6 or 7 months old.. beyond that I don't think it's a good idea IMO, it starts bad sleeping habits that can't be broken. My kids are EXCELLENT sleepers. Everyone needs their quiet alone time to sleep for it to be the best sleep.

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but to be honest if a marraige fails due to a couple's child being in their bed I think there were deeper problems to begin with.


ITA. Never thought I would co-sleep. Read article about safety. Never in my lifetime did I think I would have any desire also to do so.

We co-slep a lot for a portion of each night (about 5 hours or so). DS loved it. I loved it and DH, well... it was that or sleepless night. So... we did co-sleeping. We don't anymore. It was for quite a few months though. I guess it started when I got tired of getting up to BF. So when he woke up at night for his feeding I would keep him with us in bed. Then I missed DS not sleeping with us. He no longer wants to co-sleeping in some way is good but in another way it's sad because DS is growing up and getting more and more independent.

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Posted by melijane

Posted by sometimesmommy

Posted by melijane

Posted by bicosi

I was adamant about not co-sleeping for alot of the reasons why that article says BUT I had my own reasons as well. To me, our bed is for me and DH to sleep in. Mommy and Daddy don't mind having the kids in it with us inthe morning to watch some tv or snuggle in, but it's for us only. Once I had the kids, I was still very adamantly against it and never went back on my word on that stance.

ITA-IMO my bed is for my DH and I and maybe a SICK child once in a while who needs some comforting. Not on a regular basis. I want my love life and my marriage to remain strong and I just don't see how you can do that with a baby in bed with you??

True for some their marraige would suffer. For us we never were "bed" people when it came to our love life but to be honest if a marraige fails due to a couple's child being in their bed I think there were deeper problems to begin with.

Kinda snarky don't you think? I actually have an excellent marriage. My husband and I have been to hell and back to have our babies and are so looking forward to their arrival. However, I, personally, will not have them sleeping in my bed. Whatever you choose to do is totally your right and more power to you.

Message edited 7/28/2008 9:16:49 PM.

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Against it then and now..

ETA...didn't realize i answered this post 2 mos ago

Message edited 7/28/2008 9:19:19 PM.

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I never really gave it a thought one way or the other. We didn't cosleep with Lucas but I don't think it's a bad thing..just not our thing.


On a side note...there are PLENTY of things I said I would or would not do that today don't hold true. Now I keep my mouth shut...tight