Spinoff to my own post - Do you care what your second child is

I know some people who have a boy want a girl next. And vice versa.

I was that person before I had Jack. Now, I honestly don't care if I have another boy - just as long as the baby is healthy.

The dilemma we are facing is that DH wants his little girl (and I think I really want one also) BUT - I do really want a brother for Jack.

Do I really want to have three kids? I feel like living on LI is just so expensive and I want to be able to do for my kids everything my parents have done for me.

I am basically just ranting right now - and curious to see everyone's thoughts.

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# 2 i really wanted a girl, had a boy.. deciding on trying one more time for a girl, but will probably wined up with twin boys... LOL I agree though it costs a fortune to live here. So 3 is a big

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I'd always wanted one of each. But now that I have DD and I have a closer relationship with my own sister, I really want a sister for Marron. I just think she'll be closer to a sister than she could ever be to a brother (i.e. sharing experieces and stories with one another, talking about boys together, etc. and having the same issues with their mother ).

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Well, of course, the health of the baby is always the most important concern...

but I really did want a girl, then I really wanted another girl I sometimes can't believe that it happened that way!

Like you, I wanted a same-sex sibling for my DD, also I had a sister, lastly, neither DH nor I came from mixed-gender families; he has 2 brothers and I have a sister, so we have no experience with the brother/sister dynamic. Oh, and I find the penis thing really scary!

Now, if and when we have a 3rd, I truly, truly do not care. 3 girls would be awesome, but sometimes I look out my window and imagine my teenage son playing basketball with his friends in the driveway.

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We aren't finding out the sex of this baby, and we didn't for my 1st. I don't care what the sex is as long as my baby is healthy, thats all that matters!

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Posted by pharmcat2000

I'd always wanted one of each. But now that I have DD and I have a closer relationship with my own sister, I really want a sister for Marron. I just think she'll be closer to a sister than she could ever be to a brother (i.e. sharing experieces and stories with one another, talking about boys together, etc. and having the same issues with their mother ).

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Obviously healthy baby is first and foremost, but after that...

I always thought I wanted one of each but now that I have a girl and am having another one, I'm sooo excited that Syd will have a sister...

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D... I swore my Sofia was a Fabrizio...

Now being she is a Sofia i 100% want a brother for her.. BUT if I am blessed with a healthy girl for round 2.....

I AM DONE!

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I didn't care with #1 and don't care next time around either. It's one of these things..meaing i'd LOVE for Johnny to have a baby brother a girl would be so nice as well.

I always thought 2 boys followed by a girl sounds perfect. But if i had 3 boys that would be fine by me as well!

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I always wanted a boy first - then we were told we were having a girl and I fell in love with the idea of her - only to find out that she was really a he.

I love my little boy and honestly don't really care what the sex of the next baby is as long as he/she is healthy.

The thought in my head goes like this: I do think that another boy would be great for Lucas - plus I am learning how to be a mom to a boy so another would be easier...but at the same time a little girl would bring a whole new world of joy.

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I don't think I'm having any more children because in addition to DS my husband has two more boys, which makes THREE BOYS for us!!

If I did have another child, I wouldn't care AT ALL what gender it was as long as the baby was healthy and happy. There are wonderful things about any sibling relationship whether it be brother/brother, sister/sister, brother/sister.

With that said, I know my husband would have liked to have a girl after having the two boys, but he isn't dissapointed at all. How can you be when you are blessed with a healthy happy baby???

Just keep in mind that if you have another boy and go for number #3 in the hopes of having a girl, there is a very good possibility you will get boy #3!

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Posted by cgdg61606


Just keep in mind that if you have another boy and go for number #3 in the hopes of having a girl, there is a very good possibility you will get boy #3!

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I wanted sisters or brothers, not brother-sister. In the end, I got them & couldn't be happier.

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I would LOVE another boy then stop there. But if I have a girl next, I am definately not going for another boy


ETS: I always wanted two boys.

Message edited 10/23/2007 4:32:18 PM.

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If I have my choice I want another girl so that Sydney can have a sister to grow up with. DH wants a boy. Of course all that really matters is that he or she is healthy.

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Again, health is the most important. I always wanted two boys and my dream came true. They are 15 months apart.

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Of course I would want it to be healthy...that's number 1.

I really don't care. All my friends who have girls tell me there is nothing like having a daughter. Daughters will always come back to their moms. I guess I would like a girl so I could have one and one. But if I'm given a boy, then I would be equally excited for Jared to have a best friend for life.

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I am torn but also happy to have my little girl. I really wanted a daughter. DH always thought he really wanted a son until we had her. Now we both want two girls but would be thrilled to have a son as well.

I wish I was younger so we could have 3 kids but I really just hope the next one is healthy too. At that point I will be stopping.

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I am quite desperate for a girl next, so in order to have a girl, I am going to eat only pink foods before conceiving.

I love boys and wouldn't mind another boy, but you know the old saying...A son is a son until he finds a wife, a daughter is a daughter for the rest of your life!!

Wish me luck!

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I wanted a girl, and got one. If/when we have another, I don't care. I'll be happy with one of each, but I'd be happy if DD has a sister because I always wanted a sister myself.

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Posted by Stefanie

Posted by racheeeee

I am quite desperate for a girl next, so in order to have a girl, I am going to eat only pink foods before conceiving.

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I really didn't care. 2 girls would have been nice, but it's nice having one of each too. When the time comes I don't have a preference for the 3rd one either.

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I honestly don't care if I have a or next. I just want a healthy baby.
Of course DH always says "Ok, I know you want a healthy baby and of course I do too that's very important.... but, don't you want a girl next?"....
I truly, truly, don't care. I care and worry so much about the health.

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I always wanted same sex...3 boys or 3 girls. So another boy would be great, but so would a girl. I really can't see myself with a girl, it would be an exciting delivery room moment.