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ChilisWife
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Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
Do you give more if a Sweet 16 party is held in a backyard as opposed to a catering hall? Some of these parties are run like a wedding and cost as much. And is it ok to give less for a fancy Sweet 16 than you would for a wedding? As a family of 5 attending, I think $500 is a bit much!
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luvbuffet
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
$200 per couple. thats what i gave to a friends daughters 1st communion
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| Posted 6/10/15 1:28 PM |
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ChilisWife
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
Posted by luvbuffet
$200 per couple. thats what i gave to a friends daughters 1st communion
What if your kids are also going?
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| Posted 6/10/15 1:31 PM |
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luvbuffet
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
if i had any.. maybe 50$ a kid if they are under 10? im really not sure.
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| Posted 6/10/15 1:34 PM |
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HomeIsWithU
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
I may be in the minority here, but for something like a sweet 16 I don't give based on the number of people in my family that are attending. I give a flat rate. Personally I think Sweet 16's are silly to make such a big deal out of - it's not a religious milestone or a big life event milestone (like a wedding or shower). They're turning 16. I give $100 - $150. Again, JMHO, but they didn't accomplish anything by turning 16. Its not like they graduated high school or college, or got Baptized or engaged. I don't feel the need to give any more than that.
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| Posted 6/10/15 1:35 PM |
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blu6385
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
no I wouldn't give more cause its at a fancy place just like my opinion on weddings not my problem/choice you decided to spend a boat load of money to host a party. I would give the same amount no matter where it was at it and how many people are going.
I would probably give $50 maybe $75 but I doubt even that much.
If we were all going to it I would assume it was family or a good friend I would most def. give $75 maybe $100
I really don't get why people who host all these fancy 1st birthday, communions, sweet 16 etc would expect more money because they host it at a very nice place
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Hofstra26
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
Call me crazy but NO way in h-e-l-l I'd be giving anywhere near $500 for a Sweet 16..........I don't even do that for a wedding!!  The obvious answer is to give what you can afford but personally, I don't care if it's a fancy bday party or not, it's just a 16 year old's birthday. In all likelihood, I wouldn't give more than a $100 and even that just seems ridiculous to me as bday gift for a friend's kid.
These Sweet 16's are so out of control, hope my DD doesn't have any delusions of DH and I hosting a "mini wedding" for her when she turns 16.
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Eireann
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
No, I would give the same amount regardless of the venue (as I would for a wedding).
The parents aren't supposed to be pocketing the money to help foot the bill...the kid is supposed to get it.
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Eireann
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
Posted by luvbuffet
$200 per couple. thats what i gave to a friends daughters 1st communion
I have no clue what the "average" is here, but I just had my DD's Communion last month and aside from the godmother, no one gave more than $150--even families of five. FTR, I am not criticizing this, I am supporting it!
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Otherme
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
Posted by HomeIsWithU
I may be in the minority here, but for something like a sweet 16 I don't give based on the number of people in my family that are attending. I give a flat rate. Personally I think Sweet 16's are silly to make such a big deal out of - it's not a religious milestone or a big life event milestone (like a wedding or shower). They're turning 16. I give $100 - $150. Again, JMHO, but they didn't accomplish anything by turning 16. Its not like they graduated high school or college, or got Baptized or engaged. I don't feel the need to give any more than that.
you're not in the minority - I can't see giving more than i would for any other birthday, sweet or otherwise!
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| Posted 6/10/15 1:43 PM |
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luvbuffet
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
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Posted by luvbuffet
$200 per couple. thats what i gave to a friends daughters 1st communion
I have no clue what the "average" is here, but I just had my DD's Communion last month and aside from the godmother, no one gave more than $150--even families of five. FTR, I am not criticizing this, I am supporting it!
really?? it was my 1st one and the girl is my bff- even though shes 8. i thought standard/ playing it safe was 100$ a person?
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Hofstra26
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
Posted by luvbuffet
Posted by Eireann
Posted by luvbuffet
$200 per couple. thats what i gave to a friends daughters 1st communion
I have no clue what the "average" is here, but I just had my DD's Communion last month and aside from the godmother, no one gave more than $150--even families of five. FTR, I am not criticizing this, I am supporting it!
really?? it was my 1st one and the girl is my bff- even though shes 8. i thought standard/ playing it safe was 100$ a person?
That is very generous. For any baptism or communion I've been to (or had for my kids) the average gift was $75, no matter how many people in the family. Most friends gave $50. I don't consider these events "big monetary events" but that's just me.
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jessnbrian
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
Posted by HomeIsWithU
I may be in the minority here, but for something like a sweet 16 I don't give based on the number of people in my family that are attending. I give a flat rate. Personally I think Sweet 16's are silly to make such a big deal out of - it's not a religious milestone or a big life event milestone (like a wedding or shower). They're turning 16. I give $100 - $150. Again, JMHO, but they didn't accomplish anything by turning 16. Its not like they graduated high school or college, or got Baptized or engaged. I don't feel the need to give any more than that.
I COMPLETELY agree. It's their parents choice to spend that kind of money, that's their gift (I would imagine) to the child, no way is that on you to reimburse.
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nferrandi
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
I just recently attended the sweet 16 of one of my students. I gave her the $200 Tiffany heart necklace.
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ChilisWife
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
I know you should give what you can afford but what if they think you can afford a lot (even though its not true). I dont want to risk being bad mouthed among the family. I heard from teenagers that go to a lot of sweet 16s that they give $50 each so I just felt like it shoukd be more from adult family members.
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blu6385
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
Posted by ChilisWife
I know you should give what you can afford but what if they think you can afford a lot (even though its not true). I dont want to risk being bad mouthed among the family. I heard from teenagers that go to a lot of sweet 16s that they give $50 each so I just felt like it shoukd be more from adult family members.
sorry if your family will bad mouth you they suck! with that said If you are that concern just do at least $100 maybe $150 I don't even care if you can afford more I don't see why any kid should be getting so much for a freaking sweet 16!
I swear I hate society more and more or maybe I just hate long island society more and more 
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JDubs
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
I usually would give $100 for a sweet 16.
ETA give what you can afford.. i found for my DS christening there were gifts in varying amounts
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ElizaRags35
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Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
$100 for sweet 16 sounds ok to me. Maybe a little more if it's for a close family member.
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LSP2005
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
I do not equate a sweet 16 to a wedding. You choose to have it in a backyard or a hall that is up to you. $150 is a fine sweet 16 gift, and that would be from either two or. Four of us. If it were a kid going alone 50 is fine.
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2boys1girl
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Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
I alwyas give 100.00 for a baptism or sweet 16. It's a gift..with one of those occasions being a bday present. It's not my responsibility to cushion someone else's child's savings account.
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JandJ1224
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
I would say for a close family friend, family of 4 I would do $200.
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| Posted 6/10/15 2:33 PM |
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jlm2008
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Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
My Sweet 16 was many years ago, 20 actually, and was at a hall. Then, I think my family and family friends gave about $100. Close Aunts & Uncles gave more. I haven't been to one in a long time, but I think that is still more than fine.
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BargainMama
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Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
$100 and call it a day. Regardless of how many are attending from your family
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| Posted 6/10/15 2:44 PM |
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chilltocam
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
Posted by BargainMama
$100 and call it a day. Regardless of how many are attending from your family
I agree (unless it is just a kid attending their friend's Sweet 16 party - then I think $50 is fine). Doesn't matter where the party is. I hate the mentality that I should be "paying" for any party. I have no problem giving a gift, but it is not based on what the party giver decides to spend on having the party - EVER.
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Sparrow
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Re: Spinoff to wedding gift amount - how about a Sweet 16 that is like a wedding?
$100 is fine as far as I'm concerned.
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