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SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
So, I *know* that a gift is a gift and by no means do I expect anything from anyone, but here is the situation:
I have a male cousin, he is 26, he is engaged, and does not live with his parents anymore. He brings gifts to every holiday/birthday except for DS'. And he loves the kid, he is really good with him.
I honestly think he just figures my aunt (his mother) is signing the card with him and his fiancee's names as well (she's not )
I know by that age I was buying gifts for the kids in my family, and I think its kinda funny, but it annoys me a little too
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
I've been giving my own gifts for a long time, my cousins still sign my Aunt's cards.
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| Posted 4/9/09 10:08 PM |
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DmarieK
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
Many many years ago...lol.
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| Posted 4/9/09 10:09 PM |
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
Well it depends really.  Most of the time I buy my own gifts, but sometimes my parents tell me not to worry they took care of it, so I don't. But if I'm going to a childs party then I always get my own gift. I'm 26 too BTW. 
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| Posted 4/9/09 10:14 PM |
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ml110
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
i actually had this happen at my wedding. we invited a family- two parents, 3 GROWN children (all in their mid-late 20s, and with jobs of their own) PLUS the daughter brought her long term boyfriend. SOO 6 people total from this one family... NONE of the kids even gave us their own card! we just got a card from the parents with a check for $150... NOTHING from any of the kids. there definitely comes a point where you have to stop mooching off of you parents gifts!
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| Posted 4/9/09 10:16 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
Posted by ml110
i actually had this happen at my wedding. we invited a family- two parents, 3 GROWN children (all in their mid-late 20s, and with jobs of their own) PLUS the daughter brought her long term boyfriend. SOO 6 people total from this one family... NONE of the kids even gave us their own card! we just got a card from the parents with a check for $150... NOTHING from any of the kids. there definitely comes a point where you have to stop mooching off of you parents gifts!
I had a similar thing happen, but the parents gave a substantial gift (I am pretty sure it was only their names on the card tho)
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KateDevine
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
Posted by KerriSteve
Well it depends really. Most of the time I buy my own gifts, but sometimes my parents tell me not to worry they took care of it, so I don't. But if I'm going to a childs party then I always get my own gift. I'm 26 too BTW.
See, I think b/c it is a kid is why I am  about it
Like Christmas the cousins did a secret santa, and when we were all emailing about it back and forth, it was specifically said that the "little cousins" (my two younger cousins and my DS) would all get gifts from everyone. Christmas comes and the two others get gifts from him, but not my DS
I partly blame his fiancee (don't like her) b/c she should think of something
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| Posted 4/9/09 10:24 PM |
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by KerriSteve
Well it depends really. Most of the time I buy my own gifts, but sometimes my parents tell me not to worry they took care of it, so I don't. But if I'm going to a childs party then I always get my own gift. I'm 26 too BTW.
See, I think b/c it is a kid is why I am about it
Like Christmas the cousins did a secret santa, and when we were all emailing about it back and forth, it was specifically said that the "little cousins" (my two younger cousins and my DS) would all get gifts from everyone. Christmas comes and the two others get gifts from him, but not my DS
I partly blame his fiancee (don't like her) b/c she should think of something
Aww, that's just not nice. I wouldn't like her either.
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| Posted 4/9/09 10:30 PM |
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
I can't remember the last time I did that for an immediate/extended family member. And if I did for anything, i would have chipped in money for it.
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
Probably when I moved out.. I was 20
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
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KateDevine
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
Posted by Kerie-is-so-very
I think it can depend on how close you are. I would not have my parents pay for gifts from me to my siblings or my first cousins or their kids. However, DH's mom has a ton of friends and is close with a lot of her extended family. If we sent gifts to everyone she is close with, we would be buying gifts at least every week. My MIL signs our names to the cards sometimes when she gives gifts to people that DH and I might not send anything to. There are some cousins that we chip in for. We don't want her to sign our names to something very expensive unless we have helped with the gift and we don't want her to pay for gifts for the people that we are in touch with. She would be willing to pay for more than she does, though.
I see your point.
We have a small family. And there are only 3 kids (under 18)
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by Kerie-is-so-very
I think it can depend on how close you are. I would not have my parents pay for gifts from me to my siblings or my first cousins or their kids. However, DH's mom has a ton of friends and is close with a lot of her extended family. If we sent gifts to everyone she is close with, we would be buying gifts at least every week. My MIL signs our names to the cards sometimes when she gives gifts to people that DH and I might not send anything to. There are some cousins that we chip in for. We don't want her to sign our names to something very expensive unless we have helped with the gift and we don't want her to pay for gifts for the people that we are in touch with. She would be willing to pay for more than she does, though.
I see your point.
We have a small family. And there are only 3 kids (under 18)
I feel that I should pay for gifts for the few people that we are in touch with on my side of the family. If my MIL did not sign our name to gifts for everyone she is on touch with, that would be fine, too. It's just that she's the type to send a gift to someone like her next door neighbor's cousin's child and we don't really know who they are but she'll sign our names and we don't object.
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BaroqueMama
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
In my family, it seems that as soon as someone gets into a serious relationship, they stop mooching on the gifts. Why did it happen like that? I don't know, but it seems to be the standard operating procedure for my family So, like in my family 26 with a steady girlfriend or boyfriend would = bring your own gifts, but 26 with no steady boy or girlfriend would = mooch
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
My mother will pick up things for my aunts birthdays that she knows that will like and give it for me to give to them...I'm talking small little things. It doesn't happen all the time but if it's something she knows they will like she will get it for me (since they chip in for one big gift as sisters so she can't give it to them herself)
Other than that it never happens.
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jprimrose
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
I have some cousins that do this. My aunt still puts her 23 year old son on her gifts, and until recently put her 26 year old daughter. At my wedding my 19 year old cousin brought his girlfriend and they did not give their own gift. My aunt put his name on her card and I can't remember if she put his girlfriend. 
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CrankyPants
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
Posted by jprimrose
I have some cousins that do this. My aunt still puts her 23 year old son on her gifts, and until recently put her 26 year old daughter. At my wedding my 19 year old cousin brought his girlfriend and they did not give their own gift. My aunt put his name on her card and I can't remember if she put his girlfriend.
See, I wouldn't expect a 19 year old to bring his gift, even if he brought a date.
For me, I think once you are out of college and/or have a full time job, you are on your own for gifts, etc.
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
Probably never...because I live abroad, sometimes its the only way for me to have some input at short notice for family gifts or stuff like that.
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
we don't get gifts from cousins, but i can tell you that my sisters still mooch off of my parents when giving gifts. they occasionally give my mom some $$ towards a gift but not usually.
i stopped doing that when i moved in with DH, we give our own gifts now.
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
I've been giving my own gifts for everything since I was 18 or 19. I have two cousins who are in their 20's and work full-time. 9 times out of 10, their names are on their parent's cards.
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
I never bought my cousins kids gifts.. except for one b/c she doesnt have much $$. I dont expect them to buy my dds anything either.
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JChia
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
When I moved out of their house - I was officially independent and on my own. I was 23.
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Re: SPR: When did you stop mooching off your parent's gifts?
I would say around when I was in college. Once you have your own job, time to buy your own gifts.
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