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july0105
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sticky SIL childcare situation
My SIL and I are just not close. I had DS in March and she had a son in July. She went back to work this week and her sister is watching my nephew. THis will only last until December because her sister is pregnant. At that point, my SIL will stop working. She called me tonight (for the second time, ever.... I kid you not!) and told me that our MIL told her that we would need childcare from the end of March through the end of June (we will be thinking about full time daycare the following school year). SIL lives in a tiny apartment attached to my ILs house, so she said she could bring her son here and watch both boy s at my house. This would be so convenient and probably significantly cheaper than any other option. My gut reaction (in my head) was NO WAY. But the more I think about it, the better this might be. I'm thinking maybe this would bring us closer????? Or maybe tear us further apart??????? Any advice from BTDT moms in similar situations????
ps... sorry to ramble. This sibling stuff is rough for me... I'm an only child.
Message edited 8/14/2008 9:19:10 PM.
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shellybean
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
are you not close for a reaso...or just not close
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Elizabeth
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
I say go with your gut feeling. Gut feeling always knows what is best for you IMO.
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shellybean
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
if theres a reaosn your not close than dont d it, but if your not just because u never got to know each other it may be a good thing
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july0105
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
Posted by shellybean
if theres a reaosn your not close than dont d it, but if your not just because u never got to know each other it may be a good thing
no reason in particular... meaning nothing ever HAPPENED. She and I are just different people and do not have much in common. THe husbands (brothers) are not close, either.
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| Posted 8/14/08 9:47 PM |
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Lucky
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
Do you know how she is with her own son so you would have an idea how she would be as a childcare provider? If you think she'd be good, I'd give it a whirl. What do you really have to lose? There is no friendship at stake. If anything, maybe you'll get to know one another better as PP stated.
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shellybean
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
Posted by july0105
Posted by shellybean
if theres a reaosn your not close than dont d it, but if your not just because u never got to know each other it may be a good thing
no reason in particular... meaning nothing ever HAPPENED. She and I are just different people and do not have much in common. THe husbands (brothers) are not close, either.
i would try it, what do u have to lose if non of you are close anyway?
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july0105
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
Posted by Lucky
Do you know how she is with her own son so you would have an idea how she would be as a childcare provider? If you think she'd be good, I'd give it a whirl. What do you really have to lose? There is no friendship at stake. If anything, maybe you'll get to know one another better as PP stated.
I think she is a good mom. She is a new mom, but by the time we'd need her DS will be 1 and her son will 9 months. Hmmmm.... this is a tough one. I'm thinking maybe this could work.  I'm so confused!
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CkGm
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
I think if you were close it would be MORE of a problem. Since you aren't, there is less emotion involved. I say give it a shot!
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| Posted 8/14/08 10:19 PM |
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BigB
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
You will never know if you don't give it a shot! It would also be good for your db b/c he could get to know his cousin! And speaking from experience, I wish I was closer to my cousins! 
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BaroqueMama
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
I would TRY it, but have a back-up plan in case it doesn't work.
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| Posted 8/14/08 10:33 PM |
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
I too am an only child
I also watch my sils son(soon to be 2 sons).....we werent particularly close at first but now we are EXEREMELY close
I really feel like we have a bond now....I love her boys so much and I am very close with the older one since I watch him everyday
It really works for us.......there is nothing like family.
give it a try if it doesnt work out then you can just say its not really working for me and move on
what do you have to lose right?
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
Posted by prncss
I would TRY it, but have a back-up plan in case it doesn't work.
I totally agree!!!
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| Posted 8/14/08 11:03 PM |
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
I am the minority but I say no. They are so close in age, your son is going to be walking and into everything and her son will be crawling and into everything.
Plus since she is family, if she is doing something that you don't like (she isn't following your feeing schedule, giving him food you don't want him to get..etc) will you be able to tell her and her not get offended?
Having family watch your child isn't always easy
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pinkandblue
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
Posted by 2003fallwedding
Having family watch your child isn't always easy
I agree 100%...I think it causes more problems than anything else
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| Posted 8/15/08 9:02 AM |
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MrsGmomof3
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
Posted by CkGm
I think if you were close it would be MORE of a problem. Since you aren't, there is less emotion involved. I say give it a shot!
I agree.... and maybe it will bring you closer as you have your sons in common!
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jellybean78
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
Posted by littlejoy06
Posted by prncss
I would TRY it, but have a back-up plan in case it doesn't work.
I totally agree!!!
Me too...and as someone else mentioned above if it doesn't work out since you are not close it won't be as bad telling her you are putting DC somewhere else.
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| Posted 8/15/08 9:39 AM |
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bayla
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Re: sticky SIL childcare situation
my SIL watches my DS 2 days a week and she is amazing! Granted she only watches my DS as her DS is 15, but still she is wonderful and loves him to pieces. If she had a DC close to DS age though i don't know how i would have felt honestly. I am also close with my SIL so that helps, if i was in your situation i dont know if i would be jumping into it. Maybe have a trial period, like a month and see if it works for both of you (and have back up plan just in case)
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