such baby shower drama....

i had posted a while ago about my mom wanting to host her friends seperate(not inc. dh's family)...

So i decided to go with the flow- and dh told him mom that my mom was planning that, and that she should just have a house shower for her side...

WELL... tonight my mom calls me up for MIL's number, I say mom you wanted your's seperate- she says well you said dh's family isnt so big now... she calls MIL and says that me- not her was saying it should be seperate(um no you told me 3+ times about you just having your friends out)... and how she now wants to combine and split a restaurant...

id rather it just be at a house.. it would be more relaxed & cheaper... and my mom after my bridal shower comments to me how dh's family isnt dressed up enough and cheap on their gifts... i dont want to be hearing that again from her...

ETA- well i called my mom and she took it quite well that I wanted a House shower.. I told her MIL said her house was fine and they could cohost it... and I threw in how I called places and nhp inn was going to be $45, and Milleridge was $33++, Davenport $28++ so i think she could tell the drastic difference in a home one

Message edited 2/8/2009 9:33:03 PM.

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That is some drama!! I'm confused why your mother would want a separate shower in the first place. I never heard of that. Usually both sides go, especially to a baby shower. I mean the baby is part of you and DH. So, He/She is related to both sides.

I would just tell them to do what they want and don't involve you at all. You don't need all that drama, especially while your PG. Good Luck!!

Message edited 2/7/2009 9:30:40 PM.

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arghhh...

gets even better...try to call my mom and tell her I want it at a house.. that it would be more laid back,comfortable, not rushed, more affordable... she says but then the food has to be prepared...

and this is suppose to be occuring in the last month before im due

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cater food, make DH pick it up and drop it off at your moms.
thats what my DH is going to do.

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UGH I had similar drama for my bridal show. I think you should tell your mom to leave you out of it or maybe have Dh talk to her about it, this way you don't have to stress about your shower

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Sorry you have to deal with this

My baby shower has some drama too...its not till May, but MIL is a PITA and causing trouble

Hope things work out

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It's your baby shower. You should have it the way that will make you happy. The shower really shouldn't be stressing you out. It's supposed to be a celebration honoring you and the baby.

However, you married DH. DH's family is your family too. It would be wrong to exclude them, especially if they want to be part of your baby celebration.

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Yeah you should not have to deal w/ this drama while you are PG....I am sorry that you have to deal w/ this. Maybe DH can talk to both his mom and yours and straighten it out?