Talkin about your TTC plans

Out of curiosity, who told their friends/family about their TTC plans ahead of time and who waited till they got a BFP?

We plan on starting next summer and I have been blabbing about it to some of my friends. I know that's probably a terrible idea because if it doesn't happen right away it will make me feel worse! But it's just something I'm really excited about and it's hard to hold it in!

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We wanted to just keep it between DH and I, but DH thought my mom could use some happy news, since she was going through alot, so we decided to tell her that we were TTC, and then about a week later we were able to tell her we were pregnant, just got lucky lol... but honestly, I don't think I would do it again, because I know my mom would have prolly harped on it like every week, because she was sooo excited!

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I hope it's not a mistake that I told my close family and some friends.

I made a post about this a while ago, but do I ever learn from my mistakes?!

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DH and I are not very private people. We've talked about TTC for a very long time now, so much so that I'm sure my MIL thinks we've been trying for a while. She's always trying to give us "tips". Then a bunch of friends asked and we said we were starting. Now that we have started I don't want the pressure of everyone knowing and asking what's going on in case it takes a while. So we started telling most we're waiting so we can surprise them when we get a BFP. My sister knows we are TTC and my Dad thinks we've been trying, even though I haven't confirmed it for him.

I just want to avoid the questions and have it be a surprise for some.

ETA: Two of my coworkers who I am very good friends with know because I had many questions about insurance and maternity leave for one who works in HR and the other I just can't keep anything from.

Message edited 7/9/2009 9:19:53 PM.

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i always thought that as soon as DH was ready i would tell my mom and my closest friends we were trying. but we decided to keep it private. its been a little hard cause my friends have been asking for awhile when we are going to start trying, and ive tried to avoid the question even with my closest friends.

i think if it doesnt happen after the first few months ill prob tell my mom or my closer friends for support. but for now i sorta like that its just between me and DH.

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DH and I are keeping it to ourselves. I didn't want anyone knowing our plans for starting TTC, and I definitely did not want anyone asking me/us all the time how it's going or not going. I don't want the pressure. If it happens quickly, great and it will be a surprise for everyone. If it takes a long time, then we'll see and depending on how I feel maybe share more info.

One friend knows our general TTC timeline, but that's basically it.

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With my first DC, and now no family will know. I just like my privacy, I have 2 friends that know, but we are in the same boat and they are also TTC, so I feel comfortable with them.

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When people ask I say that we are "not NOT trying" which allows me to sound casual instead of lying or avoiding...but I would like to keep it as private as possible b/c I'm paranoid like that.

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My mom is the one that knows about our situation and plan of action outside of me and DH. I share everything with my mom.

We are not hidding it and not advertising it either because a lot of things are in the air and we are in the middle of a lot tests/Dr. appts, etc.

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At first we kept it to ourselves. But then I decided to tell my younger sister...her and I share everything. Then I told one of my older sisters because she's a Mom and I needed to chat about all this TTC stuff.

Then I had a Lyme Disease scare and it came out to my mom. Turns out, she was kind of suspicious already anyway.

I think having a few people know is kind of comforting. As long as you know those people won't be asking you every five seconds "so, how's it goin?" I think I'd go crazy being grilled all the time.

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a very small group of people know (close friends, sister)....my father could care less (my sister has a baby so i think he is distracted)....i have not told my mom or ILs....they have been VERY pushy about us having a baby... to the point where our first mother's day married my MIL told me she already bought me a mother's day card and is holding it!!.....that was two years ago....every time we visit there is always a questions like when are you going to give me a grandbaby....are you working on it...my mother has been out of line too but since she is my mother i can tell her to calm down...so now my dh and i just say we are both very busy and enjoying ourselves too much to have a baby....i wont tell my mom/ILs until i have to .....

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We haven't officially started trying yet, but so far mum is the word.
My mom even asked me if I was still on BCP and I said yes. I hate lying but I don't know how long it'll take and I don't want any expectations or anyone asking us about it.

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TOP SECRET.

I would be more stressed out if people were asking...and DH would be so if he knew people knew he was BD. Cause you know, those other 2 kids were delivered via stork.

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We told after a while...but selectively (not to my in-laws...who can be really bothersome).

It's taking us a really long time...but now I tell them all that not everyone is lucky...plus it helps to be able to talk about it.

Why should it be a secret?