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justmefornow
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Talking to kids about predators
I have had discussions with my girls about not allowing anyone to touch them, naming body parts, telling them not to keep secrets from me, telling them that people who do these things will tell them to keep it a secret, etc.
I feel like every few months I need to have another conversation with them, out of my own fear of something happening to them. I keep reading/hearing stories of pedophiles and just feel like I need to do evrything in my power to not let anything happen to my girls and teach them to come to me if it does.
I just read an article about 12-15 yo boys being abused for long periods of time by Boy Scouts leaders. My first thought was, by that age I thought kids would speak up to parents or tell someone what happened, but I realize they are still vulnerable.
Anyway, how do we keep this from happening to our kids? I want to know specific word-for-word dialogue that I should be having with my young girls. Anyone like to share what they do? I can be candid and graphic, I have no problem talking to my kids but I'm not sure what more I can tell them.
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Posted 9/13/11 3:55 PM  |
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Erica
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Re: Talking to kids about predators
My ped tells them in advanced that she is going to look at their private parts and says it's only ok, b/c mom or dad are in the room. I try to spin off from that conversation,
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| Posted 9/13/11 4:04 PM |
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dawnygirl25
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Re: Talking to kids about predators
Posted by Erica
My ped tells them in advanced that she is going to look at their private parts and says it's only ok, b/c mom or dad are in the room. I try to spin off from that conversation,
yes. our ped. says the same and I have gone off of that as well.
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| Posted 9/13/11 10:11 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: Talking to kids about predators
Posted by dawnygirl25
Posted by Erica
My ped tells them in advanced that she is going to look at their private parts and says it's only ok, b/c mom or dad are in the room. I try to spin off from that conversation,
yes. our ped. says the same and I have gone off of that as well.
Same here.
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| Posted 9/13/11 11:39 PM |
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justmefornow
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Re: Talking to kids about predators
I guess I'm just wondering if there are very specific things I should be saying or not saying. Anyone know of any books that could be helpful?
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| Posted 9/15/11 8:06 PM |
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livdrl112
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Re: Talking to kids about predators
I have heard 'The Safe Side' DVD is very good as it helps the kids understand who are the people he/she can feel safe with and who they should be wary off. I got it from Amazon last week but haven't had the time to sit down with DS to watch it yet  Will update after watching.
ETA, I also got the "I said NO! A kid to kid guide about keeping private parts private" book. It might be more useful in the situation you are talking about.
Message edited 9/16/2011 10:58:46 AM.
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| Posted 9/16/11 10:53 AM |
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Ookpik
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Re: Talking to kids about predators
My DD was sexually molested on the school playground last year. It happened in the blink of an eye and she never saw it coming. We have always maintained the only people permitted to touch her "woo woo" are mommy, daddy and her dr.
When last year happened, we started buying books about talking to strangers (Never Talk to Strangers! is a good one) and doing role play. We have this discussion every single night after her shower, when I'm helping her dry off. We go through pretend scenarios like 'a man asks you to help find his puppy' and we guide her what to do, who to look for, etc. This is every night. DD is PDD-NOS and has a great memory. But she also trusts EVERYONE.
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| Posted 9/16/11 1:32 PM |
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2boys4me
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Re: Talking to kids about predators
Posted by Ookpik
My DD was sexually molested on the school playground last year. It happened in the blink of an eye and she never saw it coming. We have always maintained the only people permitted to touch her "woo woo" are mommy, daddy and her dr.
When last year happened, we started buying books about talking to strangers (Never Talk to Strangers! is a good one) and doing role play. We have this discussion every single night after her shower, when I'm helping her dry off. We go through pretend scenarios like 'a man asks you to help find his puppy' and we guide her what to do, who to look for, etc. This is every night. DD is PDD-NOS and has a great memory. But she also trusts EVERYONE.
I am so, so very sorry to hear that that happened to your little girl. I think it's great what you are doing to education your DD. It's so weird because I came on here to write about what happened when I was tutoring on Friday... I was telling the mom about the creepo who flashed the lady at Our Lady of Lourdes Church in Massapequa Park and the kid (going to be 9 in a month) said "mom, does that mean he took a picture of her and then ran away?" and the mom told her "yes" I couldn't believe it. I think 9 is def old enough to know that there are people out there that not only want to show you their privates and run away but they also want to do other things, worse things. She says she wants to keep them innocent but I feel like that is only hurting them.
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| Posted 9/18/11 8:27 PM |
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Faithx2
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Re: Talking to kids about predators
Posted by dawnygirl25
Posted by Erica
My ped tells them in advanced that she is going to look at their private parts and says it's only ok, b/c mom or dad are in the room. I try to spin off from that conversation,
yes. our ped. says the same and I have gone off of that as well.
Same here
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| Posted 9/18/11 8:45 PM |
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KartveliT
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Re: Talking to kids about predators
Posted by Ookpik
My DD was sexually molested on the school playground last year. It happened in the blink of an eye and she never saw it coming.
  reading this made me so angry and sad.
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| Posted 9/20/11 11:32 AM |
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Ookpik
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Re: Talking to kids about predators
Posted by KartveliT
Posted by Ookpik
My DD was sexually molested on the school playground last year. It happened in the blink of an eye and she never saw it coming.
reading this made me so angry and sad.
Thank you...It was probably one of the lowest points of my life. But I'm a big believer in teaching moments. So although this came at a price, it opened up a lot of discussions! I vary the scenarios I present to her. Someone mentioned a flasher--I've used that as well. I tell her that only certain people should look at her down there (me, dad, ped.) and no one should be showing her their privates.
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