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citywife
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team blue mommies
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do you plan to circumsize or not? what is your reasoning for your decision?
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Posted 6/8/11 10:58 AM  |
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summerbaby11
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Re: team blue mommies
yes. It just never occurred to me not to, and I don't want him looking different than his dad since it might confuse him in later years.
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| Posted 6/8/11 11:11 AM |
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Ayne11
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Re: team blue mommies
Posted by summerbaby11
yes. It just never occurred to me not to, and I don't want him looking different than his dad since it might confuse him in later years.
Word for word!
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| Posted 6/8/11 11:13 AM |
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buttercup
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Re: team blue mommies
if i'm having a boy, i'm leaning towards not getting it done.. its not medically needed, and its quite a painful for a little baby to go through that.. from what I read and heard, they don't really numb the area or the baby. 
And cleanliness and hygiene.. DH and I have to show or child how to clean, groom, and take care of himself.. taking good care of his private parts will definetly be a part of it..
And the cherry on top.. my religion does not mandate it.. so its left upto the parents discretion.. DH is on the fence.. 
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| Posted 6/8/11 11:15 AM |
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hotsauce345
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Re: team blue mommies
yes, I plan to circumcise my reason has more to do with health and hygiene than it does religion although biblically it is a jewish / christian tradition as per gods directions to Abraham. (I am catholic but not an insane bible toter...just figured some may be interested to know)
from a hygiene standpoint It just makes perfect sense to me that the less creases and foreskin there are the less bacteria can accumulate in those areas. (think about the crevices in your highchair where crumbs and dirt accumulate)
all about being circumsized
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| Posted 6/8/11 11:22 AM |
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bluekat16
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Re: team blue mommies
So I'm a 2nd time team blue mommy 
DH and I agreed that with DS#1 we would circumsize. We never questioned doing it and still think it's best. However, with DS#1 that didn't happen. He was diagnosed with hypospadeas and they didn't do it in the hospital. From there we went to a pediatric urologist when DS was 2 months old and he said they could've done the circumcision in the hospital but they erred on the side of caution. That we could do it when DS was 8 months old but that if Ds were his child he'd just leave it be. We followed his suggestion, even though sometimes to this day I think maybe we should've done it. He didn't need surgery correction since the hypospadeas was minimal at best, so it would've just been to circumsize and I felt uncomfortable with the thought of DS going under general aneshesia for that. That being said his being uncircumsized has not been an issue in terms of cleanliness and/or infections, etc. It may be a challenge as he gets older an potty trains, we'll see. We just have to teach him to really care for his hygene which we would anyway if he were circumszed. My only other concern sometimes which may be a bit superficial is that he might get rejected s exually in the future because of it.
That being said now I'm pregnant with DS#2, and we will circumsize if possible. We still feel its best overall. I do wonder if DS#1 will resent that we didn't do it for him.
*ETA* point of my post is that sometimes you plan for it and it doesn't quite happen how you plan so it's best to be informed about both sides. While we still would chose circumsicion we're comfortable with DS#1 being un-circumsized.
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| Posted 6/8/11 11:23 AM |
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buttercup
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Re: team blue mommies
this is just one point of view.. i feel each parent should research this on their own and come up their own conclusion.. generations of men are not been "cut" and have lived perfectly healthy lives.. and just because the flap is gone doesn't automatically mean its clean.. perhaps less effort but not in any means does being circumcized equate to better health and hygiene.
In the end each parent should do what they feel is right for their baby..
Message edited 6/8/2011 11:36:26 AM.
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| Posted 6/8/11 11:28 AM |
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hotsauce345
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Re: team blue mommies
Posted by buttercup
this is just one point of view.. i feel each parent should research this on their own and come up their own conclusion.. generations of men are not been "cut" and have lived perfectly healthy lives.. and just because the flap is gone doesn't automatically mean its clean.. perhaps less but not in any means does being circumcized equate to better health and hygiene.
In the end each parent should do what they feel is right for their baby..
I absolutely agree that every parent should do what is right for their baby, but for me...this is what works. i personally have read alot of information stating the hygiene benefits...enough to make me feel that its the right decision for me and my baby.
not to mention that studies have linked circumcision to a lowering of cases of the contraction of aids.( circumcision's anti-AIDS effect greater than originally thought - NYtimes )
IMO you can teach a child hygiene BUT how many times have u witnessed a child say "mommy i washed my hands" or "mommy i brushed my teeth" when in reality they didn't.
Message edited 6/8/2011 11:41:27 AM.
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MrsBurtch525
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Re: team blue mommies
Yes, we will be. Both my brother were not circumsized and they had nothing but problems growing up so we will be circumsizing.
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| Posted 6/8/11 11:44 AM |
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buttercup
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Re: team blue mommies
Posted by MrsMeloyellow
Posted by buttercup
this is just one point of view.. i feel each parent should research this on their own and come up their own conclusion.. generations of men are not been "cut" and have lived perfectly healthy lives.. and just because the flap is gone doesn't automatically mean its clean.. perhaps less but not in any means does being circumcized equate to better health and hygiene.
In the end each parent should do what they feel is right for their baby..
I absolutely agree that every parent should do what is right for their baby, but for me...this is what works. i personally have read alot of information stating the hygiene benefits...enough to make me feel that its the right decision for me and my baby.
not to mention that studies have linked circumcision to a lowering of cases of the contraction of aids.( circumcision's anti-AIDS effect greater than originally thought - NYtimes )
IMO you can teach a child hygiene BUT how many times have u witnessed a child say "mommy i washed my hands" or "mommy i brushed my teeth" when in reality they didn't.
1/2 boys in my family are and 1/2 aren't.. and I'm assuming its the same for adults as well.. so far knock on wood.. no issues on either side..
eta: to the OP
there's a part me also feels like if my child has to grow up in this society, and mingle with kids who kinda show and tell.. my child would be left out and feel awkward.. this might be another motivating factor for me besides my inlaws 
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BethanyLynn
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Re: team blue mommies
Yes for health and hygeine matters.
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| Posted 6/8/11 11:48 AM |
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citywife
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Re: team blue mommies
thanks girls... i never really even considered NOT doing it until one of my friends who recently had a boy asked our plans. i know there are two schools of thought on it now as opposed to it being routinely done.
thanks for all of your input :)
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| Posted 6/8/11 11:59 AM |
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MrsH2009
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Re: team blue mommies
Posted by citywife
thanks girls... i never really even considered NOT doing it until one of my friends who recently had a boy asked our plans. i know there are two schools of thought on it now as opposed to it being routinely done.
thanks for all of your input :)
Yes we will, but I have been hearing a lot more about the push to not do it lately.
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| Posted 6/8/11 12:08 PM |
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Shorty
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Re: team blue mommies
yes, absolutely. DS1 was done the day after he was born and I plan on doing the same for DS2.
The social aspect of it is enough reasoning for me.
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RocPin
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Re: team blue mommies
Posted by summerbaby11
yes. It just never occurred to me not to, and I don't want him looking different than his dad since it might confuse him in later years.
Same for me plus a number of other reasons.
My friends brother had it done when he was 19 years old because of problems and how self conscious he was about it. It was Extremely painful to him as an adult. I definitely do not want to cause my son any more self esteem issues than a growing boy already has.
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PreshusSmurf
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Re: team blue mommies
Yes, we will be. It wasn't even much of a discussion for DH & I ... something we both really agreed upon.
We will be having a bris since I am Jewish ... a double one since they are both boys!
The Mohel we plan to use said the 2nd one is 1/2 price 
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| Posted 6/8/11 12:11 PM |
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Atlast07
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Re: team blue mommies
We did circ my DS. If this one is a boy we will do the same. Unfortunately, I don't think the Dr. took off enough skin so it's a cross between both but there is no way in hel l that I would put him under for a cosmetic reason. My pediatrician swears he will "grow into it"!
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| Posted 6/8/11 12:19 PM |
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LaurenExp
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Re: team blue mommies
We were sort of questioning whether to do it or not with DS and ended up doing it. I wanted him to look like his dad and brothers and cousins. Just didn't want him to be different.
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| Posted 6/8/11 12:22 PM |
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kelkel09
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Re: team blue mommies
we have discussed it and i can see from both sides....but i think most likely we will for hygiene reasons. Also, my when my nephew was born the dr told my sister he recommends doing whatever the father has so there is no confusion about "why am i different?"
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| Posted 6/8/11 12:27 PM |
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chrisnjoe8108
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Re: team blue mommies
Posted by BethanyLynn
Yes for health and hygeine matters.
Same for me
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| Posted 6/8/11 1:16 PM |
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carlowlou
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Re: team blue mommies
Team Green here but if we have a boy we will not be circumsizing. DH is not (he is European) and he has never had any problems. I think circumcision rates in the US are not as high as they used to be so the social aspect doesnt bother me. And since it is not part of my religion, I just dont see the point for us.
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| Posted 6/8/11 2:26 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: team blue mommies
We plan to.
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readts78
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Re: team blue mommies
Definitely not doing it. The percentage of those that do is down to 30 percent. Most men in my family are not and hygiene has not been an issue since birth. But it is a personal opinion tho.
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| Posted 6/8/11 8:22 PM |
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noworlater
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Re: team blue mommies
We will not if it is a boy. 
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| Posted 6/8/11 8:42 PM |
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Erica
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Re: team blue mommies
I was so on the fence. I left the decision to DH since he had the parts. (both of our boys are circ)
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