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mnmsoinlove
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Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
I called my dd pediatrician to talk to her about changing her formula after a night in ER due screaming for hours she was diagnosed with Colic. She is still have problems and I thought switching the formulas may help.
The ped office has 4 peds in it and I've met 3 of them. Today the dr on call was one I had met briefly and didn't really have an opinion on. I told her my daughter was similiac advanced (premix) but she was still having a lot of problems with colic and isn't going #2 regularly. She said well "this isn't the formula's fault its because babies are meant to be breast fed, so you can't blame formula". I guess I should blame myself? I felt my heart sink. She went onto say well "try gentlease that is least drastic measure, guess you should start there". I tried bf from the beginning but than I had to go on antibiotics which dried me up. I feel a lot of guilt already. When I got off the phone I cried because I felt like she was saying if my baby was bf she wouldn't have colic and constipation problems. Maybe she wouldn't and I can help but feel like its all my fault. I can't go back to bf now. I sort of feel like I want to change ped. offices because I feel like the dr isn't supportive of me as a parent. I love my baby more than anything and I just want to help her. Am I just over reacting?
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
 SO sorry about those comments, don't blame yourself, even breastfed babies get colic so I really don't know what that ped. is talking about....
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| Posted 9/30/10 8:47 PM |
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Bops
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
I'm sorry, but that was a completely assanine, insensitive comment and she deserves a swift kick in the arse 
You are doing nothing wrong and you are definately NOT overeacting
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| Posted 9/30/10 8:50 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
Posted by mnmsoinlove
She said well "this isn't the formula's fault its because babies are meant to be breast fed, so you can't blame formula".
Completely out of line!
I am so sorry that you were spoken to that way...you are absolutely not at fault in any way. Plenty of breast-fed have a problem with BM - nothing is completely perfect for every baby. They are individuals with individual needs.
I say keep trying formulas until you find what works...and get a new dr.
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| Posted 9/30/10 8:50 PM |
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carlowlou
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
riduculously uncalled for comment from that ped. I am so angry for you! You are doing your best for your baby..do NOT let this idiotic comment affect you. I hope your baby feels better very soon! 
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| Posted 9/30/10 8:50 PM |
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
OMG I would switch practices! That is terrible, that doc does not know your situation and does not know what you went through!
I would be furious with that comment! What an idiot to say that to a new mom.
BTW, Good Start Gentle, worked out a bit better than Gentleease. Our ped office is obsessed with Gentleease too, but when I told them we were using Good Start Gentle, they acted like they never heard of it.
also eta: Good Start Gentle in a bottle was better for DS than BF, seriously DS was least gassy and had the least problems on it.
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| Posted 9/30/10 8:51 PM |
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MrsRivera
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
My ped. pulled the same crap with me.
When I told her that my DS was very gassy and constipated, and we suspected he might have a milk allergy, she said, "You know what the quick fix is for that, right? Breastfeed him". Yeah, well...she wasn't there during the 3am feedings where I'd spent 45 minutes trying to get him to latch on and we'd BOTH end up crying 
I mean, she does have a valid point, babies WERE meant to be BF. She didn't have to make you feel that way, though.
I've gotten a couple of nasty comments from people about FF...which angers me because it's not that I CHOSE not to BF, we really tried, he just never "got it". It makes me angry that people feel it's their place to judge.
And FWIW, I think it IS the formula. My DS was a nightmare until we found the right one. Have you tried Gripe Water? Up & Up formula was almost perfect, and then once we added gripe water 2x a day, he was back to normal in no time.
Don't let the ped. get to you
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| Posted 9/30/10 8:51 PM |
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
You are NOT being overly sensitive.
Not everyone can breastfeed for one reason or another and we (myself included... I just couldn't do it for a number of reasons) shouldn't be made to feel guilty.
I would speak to the office manager about this Dr's comments and I would also mention it to the other Dr's.
Sounds like this particular Dr. needs some sensitivity training ASAP.
I'm LIVID for you!!!
As an aside... after just having gone thru hell with some serious feeding issues with my son here are some words of wisdome given to me by several Dr's (one was my DS's GI ped surgeon - he unfortunately required surgery for a stomach issue... but don't even begin to think that that's what is going on with your DC). Keep your DD upright at least 30 minutes after a meal.... burp often (like every 1/2 ounce).... try mylicon after a meal to relieve gas pains.... even consider propping her mattress or bassinet at an angle to keep her in that upright position.... speak to another Dr (not the mean one who has no soul!) about possible reflux and if there is a medication he/she can perscribe to make your DD more comfortable. Good luck!
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| Posted 9/30/10 8:52 PM |
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
OMGosh I'd be FUMING right now!
Yes, I'd probably consider changing peds as well.
I would not let someone talk to me like that! So Rude!
Any baby can have colic!
Any baby can have stomach problems!
It can simply happen.
I truly am so sorry this happened!
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| Posted 9/30/10 8:52 PM |
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
That's foul. No need for her to say anything like that. Very rude and ignorant. I would never personally see her if I could avoid her. Please don't feel bad.
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katiebug
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
My DS had Colic for 4 months, and was BF. He is still BF and is STILL fussy and he is 9 months old!
The comment should never have been made. Don't let it get to you.
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| Posted 9/30/10 8:53 PM |
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Shelleybean11
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
DS was colicky for 4 months and EBF I'm sorry you had to hear such an insensitive comment!
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
Posted by MrsRivera
And FWIW, I think it IS the formula. My DS was a nightmare until we found the right one. Have you tried Gripe Water? Up & Up formula was almost perfect, and then once we added gripe water 2x a day, he was back to normal in no time.
Don't let the ped. get to you
ITA. My DD was so miserable on Similac Advance. Then we switched her to Sim Sensitive RTF and was a different child in one day.
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
Wow...just wow What a witch! Do you feel comfortable enough to say something to one of the other docs?
ETA: FWIW, ds was EBF and had wicked bad gas that kept him up all night the first 3 months of his life, so I'd like to know why she feels that bf-ing would have been any different? What a witch
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
Posted by Bops
I'm sorry, but that was a completely assanine, insensitive comment and she deserves a swift kick in the arse
You are doing nothing wrong and you are definately NOT overeacting
ITA, and if my Ped said that to me I'd be finding a new one before she finished her sentence. You need someone who is going to be supportive and not demeaning. BF have gas, colic, reflux just like FF babies do! What a moron!
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Momma2Be
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
I think it's terrible that a pediatrician would make a comment like that. My friend breastfed her DS and he was still colicky. You're not being sensitive, your peds comment hit a nerve and you have a right to be upset. I'm sorry try not to let it get to you, you are doing the best you can and you love your DC. That's all that matters.
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| Posted 9/30/10 8:59 PM |
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
I am so sorry that the ped said anything like that.
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CucumberGirl
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
Posted by MaMaTeenie
Posted by Bops
I'm sorry, but that was a completely assanine, insensitive comment and she deserves a swift kick in the arse
You are doing nothing wrong and you are definately NOT overeacting
ITA, and if my Ped said that to me I'd be finding a new one before she finished her sentence. You need someone who is going to be supportive and not demeaning. BF have gas, colic, reflux just like FF babies do! What a moron!
ITA - I would get a new ped - that's uncalled for. Also, I would add milk protein allergies to the list above - they also are not caused by formula - EBF babies have them too and that's why some moms have to cut out milk and even soy. I would've given her a peace of my mind if I were you and then I'd move on. What f'in nerve! I'm fuming for you!
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| Posted 9/30/10 9:08 PM |
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MAC222
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
CRAZY!!!! First, don't for another second feel guilty AT ALL!!! She should have never said that to you, and she was wrong.
I think it can be so overwhelming going to the ped during the first few months, you have so many questions, and you really need to trust the ped, and be on the same page. That said, i WOULD NOT see this doctor at all. If you stay with the practice, see the other peds that you like.
So sorry this woman was such an ignorant, inconsiderate, and naive a$$....
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| Posted 9/30/10 9:17 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
I am so sorry for that.
If it makes you feel any better at all, I cried to my ped who pushed me to stop nursing and gave me tons of formula to take home hoping that i crack and use one.
My baby wasn't gaining weight...turned out to be allergies.
But ped did not trust nursing at all and made me feel like some kind of a lunatic who needed to stick my boob in someone's mouth.
I hope your baby feels better soon
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| Posted 9/30/10 9:18 PM |
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OrganicMama
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
That was completely uncalled for and absolutely NOT TRUE!!!
I was allergic to my mom's BM, and my DS is allergic to my BM, but I have gone dairy-free. Breastfeeding isn't the answer to a cow's milk allergy unless the mom eliminates it from her diet! It doesn't sound like she mentioned that.....
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| Posted 9/30/10 9:19 PM |
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DancinBarefoot
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
How completely insensitive and obnoxious!! My DD was EBF and she had colic. I would totally switch peds if I felt unsupported as a parent AND I would figure out which of the four is truly in charge of the practice and let him/her know why I was leaving.
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| Posted 9/30/10 9:21 PM |
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Annie91606
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
I am sorry you were subjected to that kind of treatment. It is hard enough to be a new Mom, and watching your baby be upset. To have someone imply that you contributed to it- is just WRONG.
As the PP told you, colic and fussiness have nothing to do with the way the baby is fed.
Maybe changing to a different formula can help. I agree with seeing if there is a milk allergy issue or a reflux issue too.
My first DS was very fussy and uncomfortable. He was diagnosed with reflux and Alimentum and Prevacid worked wonders for us.
My second DS does not have reflux, but he was very gassy and fussy, especially the first 3 months. Similac Sensitive worked very well for him.
Again, I am sorry your feelings were hurt and I would report her comments to the practice. if you choose to switch the other doctors should know that it was because of her rudeness.
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| Posted 9/30/10 9:25 PM |
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
If my ped said that to me, I'd be ready to kick her in the teeth  And I'd immediately switch practices!
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| Posted 9/30/10 9:28 PM |
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Lola
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Re: Tell me am I being overly sensitive? Formula vs breastfeeding comment
That is terrible and incorrect too! I EBF DS and he had a dairy/soy allergy. He was very fussy and had digestive issues until I changed my diet.
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