Texting time etiquette

Lately I have been surprised at how many people are texting me crazy early in the morning. Now granted they are all moms and some work so they are up, but if it wasn't for having my "do not disturb"set up on my phone I would be getting texts at all hours.

Today, I received a text about girl scout cookie orders at 6:45 am from my DDs troop leader (not a friend, more like an acquaintance). I have one friend who goes to bed super early and wakes up crazy early and will answer a text from the night before at 4:30am. The two people in my office will text at 5:30 am to call in sick.

I kind of consider texting like making a phone call, I don't do it after 10pm and not before 8:30am.

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I do not consider texting like making a phone call. I think of it more like email. You send the message and people read it when they wake up or when they decide to check their phone.

Don't get me wrong, I don't text anyone at 5:30am, but I would probably shrug it off if someone sent me one that early. Lately I've been getting texts from clients at inappropriate hours and I just ignore them until after 8-9am the next day.

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I think texting is different than phone calls. Just because someone sends you a text doesn't mean you have to pick it up. I also keep my phone on silent all the time, so it's not like it bings when someone texts me (or calls me).

Perhaps it's a generational thing though. It doesn't bother me when people call at odd hours either, but again, I keep my phone on silent.

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I agree it's not the same as calling, but unless you remember to keep your ringer off or on vibrate (which I never do) it can wake you up with a notification.
I have had it happen to me several times and it definitely bothered me
An email won't wake me up- a text will

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I am guilty of early morning texts - but, often wake up to texts that were sent at night while I was sleeping.

I keep my volume off most of the time so it doesn't bother me.

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The only person who texts me early is my boss, and I don't mind that because I'm usually up getting ready for work.
I don't send a text before 8 or 9 in the a.m. At night, I prob wouldn't text someone after 9 or 10. Unless it was my sis or DH.

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My wife and I disagree on this really.

In my opinion, text is more similar to email, text away at all hours. If a person doesn't have their phone set with a do not disturb overnight... well, thats on them.
My friends sometimes have no problem texting at 615 or 630 which is just before I'm getting up, but then complain when I text them at 11 something. In my opinion that is by definition why you shoudl have DND set up, and I do now.
I generally won't text acquaintances outside standard hours, but I really only do that to try and be extra cautious.

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I do not think a text is the same as a phone call. With that said, I have my phone set to be on Do Not Disturb from 9 pm - 7 am every single night.

I text my siblings/parents at all times of day. They frequently text me when I am asleep (I go to bed at 9). I will also text my MIL early since I know she wakes up by 5:30/6 am. Everyone else, I try not text until at least 8 am. Most people I know have young children/jobs though so I assume they are up by 8 am on the weekdays.

Texting time etiquette

I don't think it's the same either. Just turn your ringer and vibrate off. I do every night before I go to bed.

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I've never given a passing thought to what time I text people. I don't think texting is the same as making an actual phone call to a person. If there is a point in the day that someone doesn't want to deal with texts, they can silence their phone...........that's what I do. I've received texts at all times of the day and night, it's not a big deal because I silence my phone before bed and I'll just deal with any incoming texts in the morning. If someone doesn't want to receive notifications or alerts it's really on them to silence their phone, I am not going to stress over what time I send a text. To me, it's pretty much the same as emailing.

All this being said, I'm not really texting after 11 or before 7 am since I'm in bed sleeping.

ETA - If there is a real emergency during the night I would expect family to call my home phone, I barely EVER answer calls or talk from my cell anyway.

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Texting time etiquette

I don't think of it like emailing at all; like a pp mentioned, emails don't wake me up, but texts do. I sleep with my phone on my nightstand, but can't put it on DND or turn the ringer off because 1) I have to be available for the rare work emergency and 2) I have older parents & need to be available god forbid something happens. When my phone goes off because I get a random non-essential text at 1am I consider it rude & quite honestly it pisses me off. I think that it's reasonable when you're out of your 20s to expect people not to call/text between 10pm or 11pm and 8am. If it's not an emergency & you're worried that you might forget, send an email...

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You can set your phone to do not disturb so that texts are silenced but calls still come through. This is what I do so that early texts don't wake me but my parents can still reach me in an emergency.

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I always think of it more like calling as well. A work friend used to do that - text super early and wake me even when it was just on vibrate.
I'm much happier since I found the DND. And I have it set that family members are exceptions so if they called, it should override that feature. I worried all the time too that I would miss an emergency.
I don't often text at stupid hours, but I guess it seems like most people consider it like an email so I can too.

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Texting time etiquette

I'm with you! I would never text anybody before 9 am, just like I wouldn't call anybody that early. It is so completely rude, IMO. I have a couple of friend who like to text at 6:00 am. Text notifications wake me up, even if it is set to vibrate. I also do not text anyone after 10 unless I know for a fact they are up. I have definitely made use of the phones Do Not Disturb feature for this reason.

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I do not consider texting like a phone call. I see as more in line with an email. I text whenever I think of something that I need to say. Could be at 2 am, could be at 6 am. Many mornings I wake up to a bunch of texts. It does not phase me at all.

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I totally answer texts from the night before early in the morning - otherwise I probably never will.

If people text me after 10pm, I'm probably sleeping, as I go to work at 4:45am....so I don't see the big deal texting them back at like 6am...they text me while I'm sleeping, so clearly not a concern for them.

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