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Re: Texting time etiquette

I always set my phone to "do not disturb" overnight for this reason. When I wake up I will see who texted me. If someone needs to reach me in an emergency they just have to call twice and the call will go through.

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Posted 3/27/17 11:49 AM
 
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Re: Texting time etiquette

Posted by lightblue

I always set my phone to "do not disturb" overnight for this reason. When I wake up I will see who texted me. If someone needs to reach me in an emergency they just have to call twice and the call will go through.


Same here. Only phone calls are sounds I get during the night.

Posted 3/27/17 11:56 AM
 

hidingin1516
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Re: Texting time etiquette

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My wife and I disagree on this really.

In my opinion, text is more similar to email, text away at all hours. If a person doesn't have their phone set with a do not disturb overnight... well, thats on them.
My friends sometimes have no problem texting at 615 or 630 which is just before I'm getting up, but then complain when I text them at 11 something. In my opinion that is by definition why you shoudl have DND set up, and I do now.
I generally won't text acquaintances outside standard hours, but I really only do that to try and be extra cautious.




I don't like to set my phone to Do Not Disturb at night because what if it's a true emergency and a family member needs to reach me?
The one time DH accidentally had his sound off, his dad was trying to reach him with a medical issue and needed his help.
So I don't feel comfortable just shutting the world out so I can sleep for 8 hours.




I think you can allow certain numbers to come through and ring/alert you

Posted 3/27/17 12:38 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

I don't mind if texts come in because I can sleep through pretty much anything. I don't set my phone to DND for that reason.

That said, I don't text people late unless I know for sure that they're awake. I also don't really text early in the morning unless it's somehow related to work.

If something pops into my head late or in the middle of the night and I need to let someone know, I just put a note in my google calendar so I'm reminded to do so in the morning. It's the same amount of time spent on a text and I don't have to worry that the sound will wake someone Chat Icon

Posted 3/27/17 12:53 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by SecretlyTTC14

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Posted by jlm2008

I'm with you! I would never text anybody before 9 am, just like I wouldn't call anybody that early. It is so completely rude, IMO. I have a couple of friend who like to text at 6:00 am. Text notifications wake me up, even if it is set to vibrate. I also do not text anyone after 10 unless I know for a fact they are up. I have definitely made use of the phones Do Not Disturb feature for this reason.


Edited to say after reading through other responses...there is no reason in the world I should have to silence my phone and miss a true family emergency because people think they can text all hours of the day. As humans ,we need to have some etiquette.



I agree. Not all phones have the settings the previous posters have mentioned.



Your phone and when it rings is YOUR responsibility.............not others. There is a way to have emergencies go through and still quiet your phone from everyone else. You can also turn off notifications in your phone for when a text comes in and STILL have the phone on to receive emergency calls. YOU need to set up your phone to meet the needs that suit you.

I've never had a cell that didn't have notification settings that can be adjusted.



I'm not sure how my post wasn't clear. Again, not all phones have all the options an Iphone has. My parent have phones which are either set to ring, vibrate or off. My phone has a DND but it isn't selective and I can't allow only emergencies. So I will stick with my opinion that it is rude to text outside of normal hours. Maybe people need to be more considerate and not assume everyone has the settings you happen to have available to you.

Posted 3/27/17 12:53 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

I dont send texts before 9am or after 9pm unless its a very close friend or family member. Thats just because I think others would find me strange to be doing that if it werent an emergency. But I have received texts super early or very late and it doesnt bother me bc my phone just dings or vibrates once.

Posted 3/27/17 1:48 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

I text people whenever I want and people text me back whenever they can. I don't see the big deal. Email alerts also send notifications, so it can also wake people up as well if the person has them on. Email and text are the same to me.


I have my ringer off most the day anyway, so I really dont care if you call me. I might think it's odd but wont get upset.

Posted 3/27/17 1:54 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

I consider texting more like an email and not a phone call at all. A text is casual, send when you can, reply when you can. No time constraints.

I usually get my "errand" texting out of the way before I leave for work or right before I go to bed, that is really my only downtime all day.

So, generally, youll either hear from me at 8am or 11pm.

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Posted 3/27/17 1:59 PM
 

Jennifer
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Re: Texting time etiquette

i have it on dnd at certain times.

I also put my phone on the charger as soon as I get home from work and don't really look at it until the next morning. I sometimes see i miss a lot. LOL.

My friends and family know this. So if it is something important, to just call me at home.

Posted 3/27/17 2:03 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

Messages that early are rude IMO.
Everyone I know keeps their phone next to their bed and never on vibrate. In case of emergencies. So of course you would hear it.

Send me an email that early if it's not an emergency.

Posted 3/27/17 2:03 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

Posted by MsSissy


Send me an email that early if it's not an emergency.



Exactly. To me, texting is a semi-emergency. If its not urgent, send me an email.

URGENT Emergency: Call
Semi-emergency: Text
Dont need an answer immediately: Email

I have to have my phone on 24/7 due to work. I can't change the settings to only allow such and such contact because I can get calls from anywhere.

So its quite annoying when someone responds 'thanks' at 2AM.

Since I personally consider texting to be a semi-emergency, I never text anyone so most people email me for non-emergency stuff.


Posted 3/27/17 2:10 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

Posted by SecretlyTTC14

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by SecretlyTTC14

Posted by jlm2008

Posted by jlm2008

I'm with you! I would never text anybody before 9 am, just like I wouldn't call anybody that early. It is so completely rude, IMO. I have a couple of friend who like to text at 6:00 am. Text notifications wake me up, even if it is set to vibrate. I also do not text anyone after 10 unless I know for a fact they are up. I have definitely made use of the phones Do Not Disturb feature for this reason.


Edited to say after reading through other responses...there is no reason in the world I should have to silence my phone and miss a true family emergency because people think they can text all hours of the day. As humans ,we need to have some etiquette.



I agree. Not all phones have the settings the previous posters have mentioned.



Your phone and when it rings is YOUR responsibility.............not others. There is a way to have emergencies go through and still quiet your phone from everyone else. You can also turn off notifications in your phone for when a text comes in and STILL have the phone on to receive emergency calls. YOU need to set up your phone to meet the needs that suit you.

I've never had a cell that didn't have notification settings that can be adjusted.



I'm not sure how my post wasn't clear. Again, not all phones have all the options an Iphone has. My parent have phones which are either set to ring, vibrate or off. My phone has a DND but it isn't selective and I can't allow only emergencies. So I will stick with my opinion that it is rude to text outside of normal hours. Maybe people need to be more considerate and not assume everyone has the settings you happen to have available to you.



I don't have an iPhone, I have a Samsung Galaxy.

File this thread under, don't sweat the small stuff. Who really cares when someone texts??? This shouldn't even be on someone's radar, it's amazing what gets under people's skin. There are no formal texting "rules" so it's not worth getting annoyed about IMO.

Posted 3/27/17 2:10 PM
 

SecretlyTTC14
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Re: Texting time etiquette

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by SecretlyTTC14

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by SecretlyTTC14

Posted by jlm2008

Posted by jlm2008

I'm with you! I would never text anybody before 9 am, just like I wouldn't call anybody that early. It is so completely rude, IMO. I have a couple of friend who like to text at 6:00 am. Text notifications wake me up, even if it is set to vibrate. I also do not text anyone after 10 unless I know for a fact they are up. I have definitely made use of the phones Do Not Disturb feature for this reason.


Edited to say after reading through other responses...there is no reason in the world I should have to silence my phone and miss a true family emergency because people think they can text all hours of the day. As humans ,we need to have some etiquette.



I agree. Not all phones have the settings the previous posters have mentioned.



Your phone and when it rings is YOUR responsibility.............not others. There is a way to have emergencies go through and still quiet your phone from everyone else. You can also turn off notifications in your phone for when a text comes in and STILL have the phone on to receive emergency calls. YOU need to set up your phone to meet the needs that suit you.

I've never had a cell that didn't have notification settings that can be adjusted.



I'm not sure how my post wasn't clear. Again, not all phones have all the options an Iphone has. My parent have phones which are either set to ring, vibrate or off. My phone has a DND but it isn't selective and I can't allow only emergencies. So I will stick with my opinion that it is rude to text outside of normal hours. Maybe people need to be more considerate and not assume everyone has the settings you happen to have available to you.



I don't have an iPhone, I have a Samsung Galaxy.

File this thread under, don't sweat the small stuff. Who really cares when someone texts??? This shouldn't even be on someone's radar, it's amazing what gets under people's skin. There are no formal texting "rules" so it's not worth getting annoyed about IMO.



I agree that there aren't any real "rules" so it's really just a matter of opinion and my opinion is that it's rude. I'm not going to flip out on someone cause they woke me up with a text but I agree with the OP and think that texting should be done within normal hours unless it's an emergency.

Posted 3/27/17 2:48 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

Posted by SecretlyTTC14

I agree that there aren't any real "rules" so it's really just a matter of opinion and my opinion is that it's rude. I'm not going to flip out on someone cause they woke me up with a text but I agree with the OP and think that texting should be done within normal hours unless it's an emergency.



I agree with this.
I wouldn't flip out.
But if it became frequent with a particular person I would absolutely say something to them about it.

Posted 3/27/17 2:53 PM
 

MyBabyG
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Texting time etiquette

I can sometimes get texts late at night or very early in the morning....i keep my sound on my text messaging to off so it really doesn't bother me. The ringer on my phone is always on.

Posted 3/27/17 2:55 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

Consider me rude. I text when I text. And more than likely, if I'm texting before 6am, I'm responding to a text that came in after 10pm (which I didn't hear because I was asleep and my phone was on DND).

Posted 3/27/17 3:08 PM
 

jlm2008
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Re: Texting time etiquette

Posted by MsSissy

Posted by SecretlyTTC14

I agree that there aren't any real "rules" so it's really just a matter of opinion and my opinion is that it's rude. I'm not going to flip out on someone cause they woke me up with a text but I agree with the OP and think that texting should be done within normal hours unless it's an emergency.



I agree with this.
I wouldn't flip out.
But if it became frequent with a particular person I would absolutely say something to them about it.



I for one need to sleep, I guess most people on this board don't and that is great . So yeah, wake me up at some unGodly hour more than once with a stupid text and I will flip out! It does come down to basic etiquette and believe me I have had to say something to some people. For repeat offenders I have set Do Not Disturb and it has saved some friendships! For the people who said it's no big deal, can you post your cell #'s. I might feel like texting you repeatedly at 3 am to say hi.

Posted 3/27/17 3:08 PM
 

jlm2008
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Re: Texting time etiquette

Posted by SecretlyTTC14

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by SecretlyTTC14

Posted by jlm2008

Posted by jlm2008

I'm with you! I would never text anybody before 9 am, just like I wouldn't call anybody that early. It is so completely rude, IMO. I have a couple of friend who like to text at 6:00 am. Text notifications wake me up, even if it is set to vibrate. I also do not text anyone after 10 unless I know for a fact they are up. I have definitely made use of the phones Do Not Disturb feature for this reason.


Edited to say after reading through other responses...there is no reason in the world I should have to silence my phone and miss a true family emergency because people think they can text all hours of the day. As humans ,we need to have some etiquette.



I agree. Not all phones have the settings the previous posters have mentioned.



Your phone and when it rings is YOUR responsibility.............not others. There is a way to have emergencies go through and still quiet your phone from everyone else. You can also turn off notifications in your phone for when a text comes in and STILL have the phone on to receive emergency calls. YOU need to set up your phone to meet the needs that suit you.

I've never had a cell that didn't have notification settings that can be adjusted.



I'm not sure how my post wasn't clear. Again, not all phones have all the options an Iphone has. My parent have phones which are either set to ring, vibrate or off. My phone has a DND but it isn't selective and I can't allow only emergencies. So I will stick with my opinion that it is rude to text outside of normal hours. Maybe people need to be more considerate and not assume everyone has the settings you happen to have available to you.



Don't worry SecretlyTTC....you are allowed your opinions :)

Posted 3/27/17 3:09 PM
 

Hofstra26
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Re: Texting time etiquette

Posted by jlm2008

Posted by MsSissy

Posted by SecretlyTTC14

I agree that there aren't any real "rules" so it's really just a matter of opinion and my opinion is that it's rude. I'm not going to flip out on someone cause they woke me up with a text but I agree with the OP and think that texting should be done within normal hours unless it's an emergency.



I agree with this.
I wouldn't flip out.
But if it became frequent with a particular person I would absolutely say something to them about it.



I for one need to sleep, I guess most people on this board don't and that is great . So yeah, wake me up at some unGodly hour more than once with a stupid text and I will flip out! It does come down to basic etiquette and believe me I have had to say something to some people. For repeat offenders I have set Do Not Disturb and it has saved some friendships! For the people who said it's no big deal, can you post your cell #'s. I might feel like texting you repeatedly at 3 am to say hi.



Go for it, my phone will be on silent so I wouldn't care. Chat Icon

Posted 3/27/17 3:14 PM
 

Pumpkin1
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Texting time etiquette

I frequently send out texts around 7:00 am because I am commuting at that time. While 4:00 am is definitely too early, most people I know are awake at that time.

Posted 3/27/17 3:24 PM
 

KarenK122
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Texting time etiquette

I don't think texting is like a phone call. Just put your phone on vibrate and it won't bother you. I text and email at all hours of the night and morning. I don't expect an answer but that is when I'm getting myself prepared for the next day or days and I send out the info when I have it. Most of my friends do the same.

Posted 3/27/17 3:26 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

Posted by Sash

I text people whenever I want and people text me back whenever they can. I don't see the big deal. Email alerts also send notifications, so it can also wake people up as well if the person has them on. Email and text are the same to me.


I have my ringer off most the day anyway, so I really dont care if you call me. I might think it's odd but wont get upset.



This exactly. Esp with email.
Some days I'm texting at 5 am and 10 at night... I answer when I can and I expect the same (meaning not necessarily a reply at 5)... but then again I'm typically texting with people who have the same hours as me so they are up.

Posted 3/27/17 4:12 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

I have never even thought about this topic. My friends and I text at all hours. When I wake up in the morning, I generally have a handful of texts. I have woken up with upwards of 50 texts at (rare) times.

I do not wake up to the sound of text messages.

Posted 3/27/17 5:19 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

Posted by KGools

Consider me rude. I text when I text. And more than likely, if I'm texting before 6am, I'm responding to a text that came in after 10pm (which I didn't hear because I was asleep and my phone was on DND).



Same here, but I go to bed at 9. My siblings always text between 9-11pm and it doesn't bother me. I usually respond to them when I eat breakfast at 6/6:30 am. If I don't respond then, I can't respond until I have free during the day and by then I forget about the text!

Posted 3/27/17 5:52 PM
 

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Re: Texting time etiquette

There is texting at all times of day/night in my group chats. I have my phone set to Do Not Disturb from midnight to 6 am. I have it set up so that I still receive phone calls from my "Favorites" and if someone isn't a favorite but calls more than once within 3 minutes (like someone may in an emergency), it will allow it to come through.

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Posted 3/27/17 7:49 PM
 
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