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Re: THE DUGGARS EXPECTING THEIR 20TH!!!
Posted by NervousNell
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Usually in blanket training, a child is "encouraged" to stay on the blanket by the parent slapping a yardstick or rod down on the floor next to the blanket if the child gets too close to the edge of the blanket.
Here's an example, although this lady uses a switch:
Blanket Training
And NO, I'm not saying that the Duggars necessarily switch their kids. However, they have advocated blanket training using the fear of the loud sound or of the rod as a deterrent for leaving the blanket.
I still say my daughter would give them a run for their money.
She'd grab that stick and turn it on them! I swear to you...she's no Duggar. She could have never spawned from Michele's soft spoken womb! 
I think my DD might make Michelle to finally decide to call it a day on having children! 
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Re: THE DUGGARS EXPECTING THEIR 20TH!!!
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Google blanket training, a method that the Duggar proudly use. You will be disturbed.
I think their are worse methods of parenting out there! They have said they don't use the spoon method.
. Just because there are worse methods doesn't mean blanket training isn't awful and abusive.
Oh please I have seen people on here post way worse things they do to their children, and not all blanket training is done with the abusive portion! Do some research before you blindly post things! I know people who do blanket training because they are religious and want their children to sit quietly in church, and they also don't use the spoon or stick method. Their children are well adjusted and incredibly behaved during church. To me this is no different than a pack and play or gating your child into an area!
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MrsA1012
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Re: THE DUGGARS EXPECTING THEIR 20TH!!!
Posted by CookieMomster
Posted by MrsA1012
Posted by CookieMomster
Posted by MrsA1012
Google blanket training, a method that the Duggar proudly use. You will be disturbed.
I think their are worse methods of parenting out there! They have said they don't use the spoon method.
. Just because there are worse methods doesn't mean blanket training isn't awful and abusive.
Oh please I have seen people on here post way worse things they do their children, and not all blanket training is done with the abusive portion! Do some research before you blindly post things! I know people who do blanket training because they are religious and want their children to sit quietly in church, and they also don't use the spoon or stick method. Their children are well adjusted and incredibly behaved during church. To me this is no different than a time out, or a naughty step.
Time outs are only a few minutes long and a response to bad behavior. Children are expected to remain on the blanket for far longer than that and it not a consequence for not following the rules. Furthermore, freedom to explore is key to healthy child development. It is stimulating and fuels brain growth, Why would you confine a curious child to a blanket for an extended period? How does them help them learn? What about a sensory craving child who needs lots of movement and can't tolerate being in one place for a long time. Does this method take individual differences into account? There is nothing wrong with letting a child play independently for a few minutes, but it not fair to expect a very small child to sit in one place for long stretches of time. I say this as a mental health professional who specializes in the treatment of children. I do not speak blindly. Finally, I am not even going to address the switch component. I think that is obviously abusive.
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Re: THE DUGGARS EXPECTING THEIR 20TH!!!
Posted by MrsA1012
Posted by CookieMomster
Posted by MrsA1012
Posted by CookieMomster
Posted by MrsA1012
Google blanket training, a method that the Duggar proudly use. You will be disturbed.
I think their are worse methods of parenting out there! They have said they don't use the spoon method.
. Just because there are worse methods doesn't mean blanket training isn't awful and abusive.
Oh please I have seen people on here post way worse things they do their children, and not all blanket training is done with the abusive portion! Do some research before you blindly post things! I know people who do blanket training because they are religious and want their children to sit quietly in church, and they also don't use the spoon or stick method. Their children are well adjusted and incredibly behaved during church. To me this is no different than a time out, or a naughty step.
Time outs are only a few minutes long and a response to bad behavior. Children are expected to remain on the blanket for far longer than that and it not a consequence for not following the rules. Furthermore, freedom to explore is key to healthy child development. It is stimulating and fuels brain growth, Why would you confine a curious child to a blanket for an extended period? How does them help them learn? What about a sensory craving child who needs lots of movement and can't tolerate being in one place for a long time. Does this method take individual differences into account? There is nothing wrong with letting a child play independently for a few minutes, but it not fair to expect a very small child to sit in one place for long stretches of time. I say this as a mental health professional who specializes in the treatment of children. I do not speak blindly. Finally, I am not even going to address the switch component. I think that is obviously abusive.
So do you consider a PNP abusive? Or a high chair with one toy for a period of time? Or a car seat with one toy for an extended car trip? All levels of CONFINEMENT! As a mental health professional you of all people should not make a blanket statement about things like blanket training. There are several forms of BLANKET training, some don't even require a blanket. I have said previously I don't believe in a switch and such, thats the moment it becomes abuse but the Duggars have also confirmed they don't do that method either. Only they know what goes on in their household and it's sad to see someone say that because they believe in a different form of training their children that they are abusive in any manner.
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MrsA1012
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Re: THE DUGGARS EXPECTING THEIR 20TH!!!
Posted by CookieMomster
Posted by MrsA1012
Posted by CookieMomster
Posted by MrsA1012
Posted by CookieMomster
Posted by MrsA1012
Google blanket training, a method that the Duggar proudly use. You will be disturbed.
I think their are worse methods of parenting out there! They have said they don't use the spoon method.
. Just because there are worse methods doesn't mean blanket training isn't awful and abusive.
Oh please I have seen people on here post way worse things they do their children, and not all blanket training is done with the abusive portion! Do some research before you blindly post things! I know people who do blanket training because they are religious and want their children to sit quietly in church, and they also don't use the spoon or stick method. Their children are well adjusted and incredibly behaved during church. To me this is no different than a time out, or a naughty step.
Time outs are only a few minutes long and a response to bad behavior. Children are expected to remain on the blanket for far longer than that and it not a consequence for not following the rules. Furthermore, freedom to explore is key to healthy child development. It is stimulating and fuels brain growth, Why would you confine a curious child to a blanket for an extended period? How does them help them learn? What about a sensory craving child who needs lots of movement and can't tolerate being in one place for a long time. Does this method take individual differences into account? There is nothing wrong with letting a child play independently for a few minutes, but it not fair to expect a very small child to sit in one place for long stretches of time. I say this as a mental health professional who specializes in the treatment of children. I do not speak blindly. Finally, I am not even going to address the switch component. I think that is obviously abusive.
So do you consider a PNP abusive? Or a high chair with one toy for a period of time? Or a car seat with one toy for an extended car trip? All levels of CONFINEMENT! As a mental health professional you of all people should not make a blanket statement about things like blanket training. There are several forms of BLANKET training, some don't even require a blanket. I have said previously I don't believe in a switch and such, thats the moment it becomes abuse but the Duggars have also confirmed they don't do that method either. Only they know what goes on in their household and it's sad to see someone say that because they believe in a different form of training their children that they are abusive in any manner.
No, I don't. I never made any statements about high chairs or PNP. In fact, I made it pretty clear that there is nothing wrong with a child engaging in independent play. I do have a problem with confining a child to any area for a LONG duration without giving them the option to explore in a safe way. ( a car ride is an exception) My statement was specifically criticizing this aspect of blanket training. It was a very narrow statement not a broad one.
ETA: I think that the method WITHOUT the switch is misguided and not beneficial to the child in long stretches. ( for the reasons stated before) However, I do not think it is abusive. I think the use of the switch is what bring into the territory of abuse.
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