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maybebaby
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There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)UPDATE: She had her baby!
UPDATE: Her son was born around 1pm, 6 pounds 6 ounces. She is recovering and although emotional, all is great, she is in love. I am so happy for her.
A friend from HS who I recently reconnected with is in labor right now.
Her husband (soon to be ex) is divorcing her because he didn't want a baby right now. They were married one year. She has gone through the pregnancy alone, no contact other than lawyers and now she is waiting for a csection any minute. Her water broke this am and baby is breech.
She was one of my best friends in HS but hadn't stayed in touch after college. The death of a mutual friend reconnected us this summer. We still aren't close and prob never will be (very different people) BUT i care about her and think it just absolutely STINKS what this guy has done to her. Nothing like for better or worse. He gave her an ultimatum...abortion or divorce. Thankfully she chose wisely...like she said, if she had given in to his wishes she would have resented him forever and they would have been divorced anyway.
It makes me appreciate DH even more...I feel sick she is sitting there alone. her family is on their way...but nothing like the happiest moment of your life being so bittersweet.  
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MyChip-n-Dales
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
Wow, what a loser ex. So glad she has you to be there and help celebrate this VERY VERY happy occasion!!
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| Posted 3/19/08 10:41 AM |
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bicosi
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
Your friend is very strong! I commend her for that! I pray that she has a quick and easy delivery/recovery. I'm sure that baby will give her even more strength. and that stupid SOB of her soon-to-be-ex will have to look and support that child knowing the fact that he didn't want him/her!
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| Posted 3/19/08 10:42 AM |
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JoCaCoLa
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
My heart goes out to her. I hope everything goes smoothly. 
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2BEANS
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
i wish her all the best.
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| Posted 3/19/08 10:43 AM |
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BigB
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
If I may put my two cents in here....I think that you writing about this means that you still care for this friend and that maybe, just maybe, there is the possibility for a friendship again! You are a great mom, I can only imagine what a good friend you could be to her in this time of need!
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pinkandblue
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
what a scum bag, maybe he should have used protection if he did not want a baby
she and that baby are better off without him...
I love how it is SO easy for "men" to walk away from their responsibilities.....I hope she s@rews him in court
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nferrandi
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
What an unfortunate situation. Best wishes to your friend for a healthy delivery.
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| Posted 3/19/08 10:55 AM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
Wow - strong woman to make the decision to go it alone...smart too because I am sure she is correct in her thinking that the divorce would have happened regardless.
DH works with a woman who found her husband with another woman when she was pregnant. The divorced and she had the baby on her own. It's very hard on her but she is doing a great job.
You're right - it makes me appreciate my DH more when you hear such sad things like this.
Lots of good wishes for your friend.
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| Posted 3/19/08 11:00 AM |
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maybebaby
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Maureen
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
Posted by BigB
If I may put my two cents in here....I think that you writing about this means that you still care for this friend and that maybe, just maybe, there is the possibility for a friendship again! You are a great mom, I can only imagine what a good friend you could be to her in this time of need!
Thank you
It's hard for me because we stopped talking b/c of diff. things. She went to college and became friends with people I couldn't stand. I tried very hard to understand her mentality but everything seemed to revolve around money, who had what, who was doing what...and slowly our friendship faded.
She is a good person at heart...she always reached out to me when I was kind of a bad friend (I would avoid contact b/c I couldn't deal with things...).
She has been strong throughout the pregnancy but also in kind of a denial. I don't think she completely gets what is about to happen to her...but she's been through a HELL of a year and I do hope she is OK. I am visiting her soon, she needs some support and doesn't have many close friends. I will try to be there for her, but sometimes its hard...just when I give her the benefit of the doubt I realize the reasons why we lost contact, you know? It's hard for me but I will be there for her as best as I can!
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
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DandN
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
Wow - It's so nice of you to be there for her - if she is in denial (as you wrote) that will certainly end once the baby comes and she's exhausted. Her priorities will shift 180 degrees and I'm sure she'll treasure any friend who offers a helping hand or a sympathetic ear.
My DH went away for 3 nights and I got a tiny glimpse into the life of a single parent - I couldnt wait for him to get home!!!!
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Eireann
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
How horrible! I know in the long run, she's going to be better off!
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| Posted 3/19/08 11:59 AM |
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an9elic
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
wow that is so sad
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nrthshgrl
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
Wishing only the best for your friend!
What amazes me is the DH will be allowed visitation if he chooses. I hope that child never knows its father's feelings.
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Bklyngrl
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
wow - that's awful.what a jerk. it takes a real man to be a father - for her
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lvdolphins
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
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maybebaby
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
Posted by nrthshgrl
Wishing only the best for your friend!
What amazes me is the DH will be allowed visitation if he chooses. I hope that child never knows its father's feelings.
He made it clear he wants nothing to do with her and nothing to do with his son. 
I cried this morning thinking about her. I see the love DH has for Johnny..and how anyone could not want their child...disgusting to me. She is afraid her baby will suffer because of having no father but we've all told her this baby is so much better off without him...She has a great family who will be there for her and I'm sure she will meet a good guy in the future.
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Ambersmom
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
How tragic
I actually wish she was my friend so I could tell her how proud I was for standing by her beliefs and how awesome a mother and role model she will be for this child. What an incredible POS her STBX is...shame on him!
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browneyedgirl
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
i've been thinking of this all day.
i honestly waited for a phone call from her to meet up for lunch for several months. when it didn't come i realized she really was the person i knew she had become.
she was my other best friend for the longest time. sometimes i think back on the wonderful times we had. other times i think about who she is now and want nothing to do with her.
i can't believe the baby is still breech. i hope her c section went well and she will take care of HERSELF once the baby is here. i worry about that a lot and what she might do ( or not do) for herself.
i would love to meet her son one day and i would still be here for her if she wanted another friend. i hope her son changes her for the better and makes her realize what is TRULY important in this world. thank goodness her family is here for her.
mo, i think you are being very strong being there for her especially lately. i hope she realizes that one day. please send her my best and let her know that i am so happy for her and i hope our sons can all meet each other one day.
please let me know how things turn out. and i hope her soon-to-be-ex rots in h*ll.
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Kidsaplenty
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)
What a POS
She's better off without him. That baby is lucky to have a mama that loves it so much.
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maybebaby
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)UPDATE: She had her baby!
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Janice
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)UPDATE: She had her baby!
god bless them.
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Re: There is nothing like for better or worse (friend related)UPDATE: She had her baby!
Aww, glad all is well. They are in my prayers.
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