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Compared to most of your stories mine is really not too bad. I only live 45 mins or so from them. It was still hard for me since I had to adapt to my neighborhood. But, its getting easier. I am so close to my mom and not seeing her everyday is hard.

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Posted by Blu-ize

sometimes it's not always about the money.

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Posted by SweetestOfPeas

Posted by Blu-ize

sometimes it's not always about the money.

I agree with you 100%.

unfortunately, DH has no family on LI. he has only been living here 3 yrs and while he does like NY, he can't justify the housing prices. therefore for him, it is all about the $$

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Posted by Blu-ize

Posted by SweetestOfPeas

Posted by Blu-ize

sometimes it's not always about the money.

I agree with you 100%.

unfortunately, DH has no family on LI. he has only been living here 3 yrs and while he does like NY, he can't justify the housing prices. therefore for him, it is all about the $$

Sounds like you are at an impasse..

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Posted by SweetestOfPeas

Posted by Blu-ize

Posted by SweetestOfPeas

Posted by Blu-ize

sometimes it's not always about the money.

I agree with you 100%.

unfortunately, DH has no family on LI. he has only been living here 3 yrs and while he does like NY, he can't justify the housing prices. therefore for him, it is all about the $$

Sounds like you are at an impasse..

yes

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We relocated to the West coast for Dh's job and it is the most difficult thing I have ever been through. For me it was not something I wanted to do and so I think that makes the feelings worse. It's been 1 yr and I still cry for days before I leave when we visit. I wish things would get easier but they haven't. I miss my sisters and my mom so much!

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I must be the odd one out...I moved to the UK when I married my husband in 1999 and I love it! Sorry family, I love you, I talk to you everyday, but I don't miss ya! I feel really close because we talk all the time. Yes its harder with the baby, but I have a very supportive circle of friends and I know that there will always be a friend (and/or their parents) around to help me if I need it. I love being independent, I love being away from family politics, I love being a fish out of water living in a different country! I love being the odd one out! It suits me fantastically!

Could I move back to LI??? No, probably not. I have a really lovely life here and I am very happy!

I miss the fact that my family don't get to see Noah all that much, but I have seen them lots over the last year. The trip to LI is only about 8 hours door to door...I live around 5 miles from the airport here and my parents live about 15ish miles from JFK...

So, yes...I love living far far far away!

eta...we have a webcam and we do skype a lot...

Message edited 1/17/2007 3:29:36 PM.

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so far it's not bad at all (NJ isnt that far from LI)

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I moved from Ny to Nc.
It is hard i miss my family and friends. I miss seeing my Nephew i only got to see him when he was born and then when he was 2 months old and 5 months i won't see him again till my shower or when i have my baby.

I miss family party and gtg alot. It has put a toll on me cause i was not close with my family till i moved.

But i'm getting used to it.

Message edited 1/17/2007 4:20:27 PM.

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DH and I moved to NC in August...and with all honesty the first month was REALLY hard...it was the first time I was ever away from my family..and my friends..
I didn 't have a job yet so I really just dwelled on it.
I think it would have been easier if I got a job right away and was keeping busy.

its been 5 months now and its becoming easier each day

Message edited 1/17/2007 4:25:29 PM.

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I have been living in GA for 7 years now. When DH and I made the decision to move we thought of no one but ourselves and our future together.
Since then we have done very well in our careers and made amazing friends, plus a few great friends from NY have moved here along with some family (all are an hr. away though- not 1000 miles away so it's comforting).

when I became pregnant almost 4yrs ago this is when it started to kick in... I missed my sister despretly at that point and was scared to become a parent with out family.
My daughter came and my husband, daughter and I are a tight unit that survived
Second pregnancy came and went and this is when I again felt the need to have family around so very much. I lost the baby and since then my views on everything has changed.
I will never move back to NY unless we had millions in the bank to buy a summer home out in the Hamptons (possible to happen one day...anything is, right ) We LOVE GA so very much and wouldn't trade our decision for anything. It was the right move for us and it's an even better decision for us to stay here and raise our children.
Family comes to visit A LOT!!!! We are very fortunate that way. My IL's just bought the house next door. so things fall into place eventually. We were never ones to 'need' our families, we;ve always done things on our own and ventured off on our own. We miss the family gatherings that happen often on LI, but we get home a couple times a year and we see family every month down here.

We are blessed that way.
If it's something that you both are discussing, try it for a year. Give it that. that is what we did and never looked back. we knew we could always go home if needed.
Good luck in your decision, what ever you both decide will be the right one for you.

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Not that hard. I love them but I'm just not one of those folks to stay in place with my family.

Message edited 1/17/2007 4:41:17 PM.

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Just dropped my mother off at the airport...I had to pry her off the baby, she was crying so hard..I am making the trip up to NY first week of March, so atleast she has that to look forward to.

I think its harder on my parents then it is for me. Knowing that in NY, I would be returning to work in a few weeks puts the move into perspective for me.

I hate that my baby is so loved by my family and we aren't there for him to physically take it in.

We still haven't purchased a home here yet..we think we like it here, its taking that next step to make it official.

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I am facing this right now. We will be moving to NC at the end of the year. I have my moments with it. But DH and I have to make a life for ourselves. It's just too expensive here and once we saw what NC had to offer, we couldn't pass it up. I know everyone will visit and my Mom said she will eventually probably come after retirement and my aunt too. Hopefully that will happen but until then, I guess we're on our own.

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My family left NY a few years ago and moved to Florida and it can be tough sometimes but we talk on the phone every day. I think the relationship with my father improved because we value the other more now that we see each other less.

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I've been living in various parts of CT for 5 1/2 years. It's not too far away, but it's not close enough that I can just pop in for dinner on a random night during the week. For the past 2 1/2 years, we lived less than an hour away from my parents. I saw my family at least once a month. We just moved to another area of CT, and now we're almost 3 hours from my parents. We probably won't see them as often, but I know we'll both make the effort to visit. I'm sure it will be much harder when we have kids.

I grew up living in the same town as all of my grandparents, and a few towns over from most of my aunts and uncles. I'm sad that our future kids won't have that, but I know my parents will visit often.

I think my parents were pretty sad about our recent move. Even though we're further away, this was the best decision for us. I'm really happy with my new job and our new place. DH is also much happier at his new job. I love CT and, as of now, I don't see us leaving this area.

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It wasn't that bad. I first moved to Virginia for college, and I missed my family and friends a lot at first, but once I started making friends at school and being busy with classes and activities, all was well. Visiting wasn't too hard (about a 7 hour drive, so I knew I could go home for a long weekend if I really wanted to, though usually I didn't), and I always got sad for a day or so after I left again, but that passes. Then I moved to California after I graduated. I've been here about 4 years now, and I really don't miss my family day to day at all. We talk on the phone and email often, and my parents come to see us about once a year, we go back usually twice a year, and we have a very good relationship. As far as I'm concerned, the only bad part about being so far away is that it costs a lot to fly across the country when we do visit, and if there were to be an emergency, I wouldn't be able to get there immediately. Now, I don't have children yet - I do feel like I might want to be closer when that day comes. But closer meaning anywhere between 3 - 12 hours' drive away, not back on the island closer. What I did isn't for everyone, and I know there are a lot of people who couldn't imagine living so far from their families, but it works for me, and definitely isn't the worst thing in the world!

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At the time very easy. I left for college in Indiana when I was 17. I pretty much stayed out there the whole 4 years. I only came home for one summer and x-mas breaks. I loved it there. After graduation, I moved to Chicago. I lived there for like a year and a half and then for the following 4 years I travelled with my job and lived in about 19 states during that time period. I missed my family and friends a lot, but I wouldnt trade that experience for the world. I moved back to new york in 2000, hence my screen name

Now the shoe is on the other foot and my parents will be retiring in within the next 2 years and they are moving to Las Vegas. I get teary eyed just thinking about it. I am very close to them and its going to be so hard without them. It also doesnt help that my IL's are deceased, so I really feel like I will be alone once they leave.

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I moved to MD 7 years ago- I see my family every so often- but we speak every day. I speak to them so much that I really don't miss any of them....

I would never, ever move back to LI- I like my life down here.

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My family moved away from me in NY about a year and a half ago. Then DH and I moved from NY to NC. I am having a hard time adjusting here. We have no one here. 2 of our friends moved down as well but they will be moving back to NY becuase they don't like it. I miss going to work in the city and going out in the city. I am just realllly homesick. My family is in Fl. but it's still hard because they aren't close and my friends are back in NY. Also, I just had the baby 2 mo. ago and we don't even have anyone here to babysit should we ever want a night out to ourselves. it's really hard and I am trying but I don't know...

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It wasnt as hard as it could have been. I moved near Disney so people come down to visit all the time...certainly helps lessen the blow.

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My family and DH's family left us. My family moved to FL and his to NC. While I have some family left here in NY, it's definitely not the same.

It mostly hard around the holidays. Especially if we aren't traveling to see them. But if it wasn't for Jake, it wouldn't be all THAT bad. I wish my DS could be growing up around all his little cousins and have the big extended family childhood similar to what I had... that's the hardest part of all for me.

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I moved upstate (about a 6.5 hour drive) about 10 months ago.

It was VERY hard for me in the beginning. I wouldn't even unpack my boxes for a long time because I decided that I wasn't staying where we moved.

Then DH and I went through some problems in our marriage & I was *THIS* close to packing my stuff, moving to NYC and never looking back.

Things have gotten better though. I have met a lot of people in our neighborhood (my community was all new construction so that helped - a lot of people were young and had just moved into their 1st house too). I changed jobs (my old job was making me extremely unhappy) and for the most part, I can say that I am happy here.

It is extremely hard though when I visit LI. I have gotten so homesick that I am literally crying in the car on the way back upstate. DH is very close to his Dad, and I know it upsets him that we are so far from him, but of course he wouldn't move back for that reason alone.

There are pros to where I live, sometimes it's just hard to see them when I am missing family and friends so much. Sometimes it isn't all about the $$$.

Good luck with your decision!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by SweetestOfPeas

Posted by july06bride

when I went away to college it was different because I was able to come home whenever I wanted, I wasnt far away...about 1 1/2 hours...

then I stayed in CT- still not too bad...

BUT, in two weeks I am going to be Georgia-I know this is going to be extrememly difficult for me... especially since I wont have friends or family around...

Message edited 1/18/2007 9:50:50 AM.