Those that have gone on a child less vacation

How did you bring yourselves to leave DC?

DH and I were talking about going away to an adults, all inclusive resort sometime this summer (since we are hoping to get preggo within the next few months, and know it will be our last opportunity for awhile...)

The more I think of it, the more worried I get.

I know he will be in good hands with my parents and IL's- but accidents happen and I cant imagine something happening and not being able to get there for hours...

It would only be for a few days, and more than likely it wont pan out for financial reasons... but I was just looking for some words of advice...

Re: Those that have gone on a child less vacation

It's just something that you have to get used to...

Maybe start with an overnight sleepover with Grandma first so you can get used to it in tiny increments...

Re: Those that have gone on a child less vacation

You just have to go.

I worried and cried up until the point that I left him and almost didn't get on the plane.

But as soon as I was there I was fine and relaxed.

So just know you are going to be worried until you leave.

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we are going to Italy in a few months and DS will be with my inlaws

if i think about it TOO much, then I wont go...and I have to go...it is the best thing for my marriage...if i get preggo with #2 I will not be able to go away anytime soon

That being said, not to be morbid...but our will and life insurance will be in place before i get on the plane

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dh and i recently went to florida to visit his parents, and we took 24 hours (a whole 24 hours! ) alone and stayed in a hotel by the beach for the night.

i'm not going to lie, it was hard to leave ds. and we did spend a lot of our time alone talking about him... but in the end, it was really important for us to reconnect.

you just have to do it, knowing that it's going to benefit your relationship with your husband. and your little one will be just fine

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we went away for 4 days last month. We missed her, but it was GREAT to have a few days to ourselves.

It helped to know that she was FINE. She'd never been away from me for more than an overnight, so I was worried how she'd do. We'd check in at least once a day.

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We left DD for a long weekend when she was 6 months old. What helped was knowing she wasn't too far and that she was with capable babysitters. I missed her like crazy and couldnt wait to get back, but I loved having that time with DH alone.

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By the time you get on the beach and have a pina colada you won't even be thinking about your DS anymore!

GO! It's good for you guys to have that time together - AND away from DS - it's healthy!

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I honeslty have no problems leaving Andrew and going away. I never think twice about doing it. Yes I miss him but it is great to get away without him too.

I know he is in good hands with my parents so I never worry. I know they have the same way of doing things as I do so it works out great.

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I made a copy of DD's insurance card and her vaccine report and let that along with the Ped's phone number in case of an emergency. We also prepared a letter giving my parents permission to make any decisions regarding medical treatment while we were away.

Other than that...we just went. I had no issues leaving DD with my parents. I knew she would be fine...they would have a blast and it would be harder for me than it was for DD.

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We went on vacation when she was 3 months and it was harder on me than her. LOL I missed her terribly, but knew she'd never even remember when we got back, that made it easier.

We're now going away in May, for the same reason your thinking of going. I think it's healthy for DH and I to go away and have some alone husband/wife time. Especially before trying for #2. We won't be able to go away for at least 2 years. (Only weekend trips w/ the kids here and ther).

For me, the only thing that helped (again) was to know that they don't remember anything before the age of 2 & that they don't know the difference from one day to the next. So, when you come back, it's as if you only left yesterday. (Well, that's what I told myself anyway).

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I am going away for 3 days to Tampa this week and I am going to feel really bad leaving DC for that long. But I know I need to get some "me" time and I need to just chill out with my friends. DH will be taking care of DS so I am not worried at all. He is in good hands.

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Posted by leighla

You just have to go.

I worried and cried up until the point that I left him and almost didn't get on the plane.

But as soon as I was there I was fine and relaxed.

So just know you are going to be worried until you leave.

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When Jared was a year old, we went on a week long cruise. I left him with my mom (which made me comfortable) and I signed this form that I got from one of the moms here...allowing my parents to be able to bring him to the hospital in case of any emergencies.

I cried when we left him at my parent's house and when we took off on the plane. As soon as we got down to PR on the start of our vacations with our friends...I felt great.

You need to get away and don't worry...they're not going to hold it against you. Most likely, they won't remember you were gone.