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i work with a woman who has a 5 yr old and a 3 yr old.

both kids have iTouch's and they just got an iPad as a christmas gift

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ok, now that im reading this thread (i posted before i read)


i STILL dont get why a 2 year old needs an iTouch?

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Personally I'm not a fan of technology. When I'm with DS I try not to text or go on the internet. I rather play and read to him. These are the things I remember when I was growing up. I don't want my children to say or think mami had no time because she was on her phone.

When we are out I always bring a toy, lovey, and a book for DS. So I always have something to occupy him. If that doesn't work we just walk. He loves walking.

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Wouldn't care what she decided to do. Her kid. Her rules. Maybe the child was reading on it, doing flashcards. Maybe the mother works in social media and needed to be on twitter. Wouldn't have noticed probably.

I think until DS is that age, I will never say never. DS sat and watched Chuggington tonight, while I was cooking dinner. . .does that mean I wasn't playing with my child at the time? Yes, but at the same time I got home from work interacted with him for like 40 minutes, he helped me start making dinner then he wanted to climb on everything and anything and I needed to get dinner on the table without him getting injured, so Chuggington it was.

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Posted by CkGm

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ITA- remind me not to have you over when I play Scrabble on my iphone as my DD and DS get to watch one episode of Curious George. I must be a "gasp" awful parent too.

this is unnecessary. she really didn't say that. why take this stance?

Honestly, I felt this post was judgemental and I am sick of it. We are all moms, not perfect by any means and I didn't see it as a technology post but a "here is another mom not doing what I think is best" post.
Just my thoughts as I was asked...

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Posted by maymama

ok, now that im reading this thread (i posted before i read)


i STILL dont get why a 2 year old needs an iTouch?

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Oh I remember when I had 1 baby named Teddy and I say one of my friends 3 year old playing with a video game and I said no way no how not my son....well fast forward to my 3 year old who has both a mobigo and a vreader. Never say never. Also I would like to say that just because my child has these doesn't mean he doesn't have imagination....and anyone who thinks that a kid having a video game limits that has clearly never met my kid. I hate when people imply that just because my kid likes to play a video game means he doesn't have an imagination.

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Honestly, I have no intent on giving my DD such electronics at a young age. But I would be a dirty liar if I said that I never handed her my Droid with the Toddler Lock she loves to stop a screaming and crying jag.

I guess my stance is why I will not buy her an Ipad, Iphone, Ipod, I-anything, Droid, laptop, desktop, etc etc, I have no problem letting her play with mine if I am in a dire situation and I need her to be calm and quiet!

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I don't know...previously I probably would have had a holier than thou attitude but now as a SAHM who devotes ALL of my waking hours to my DD, sometimes I just need a few minutes of peace and quiet, and whether that's accomplished by giving her my iphone for 5 minutes to avoid a tantrum or letting her quietly read a book by herself...some days I'll just take what I can get.

However, I AM super paranoid and rarely give her my iphone for fear of radiation to her tiny little toddler body.

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I would just like to say THANK GOD FOR IPADS!!!
We bring ours to the cardiologist for my 21 month old. He will sit still for an echo,keg,and bp checks bc of it.
Oh yes and to the eye dr with my 4 year old. He never would have been able to sit and wait for his surgery in pre-op in September without it.
So why do we do it? Bc it works. It makes a difficult situation easier. My kids have been through the ringer with drs and it helps keep them calm. That is worth any price tag.. And yes we joke about buying a spare just in case.

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I let DD play apps on my iPhone when we are waiting for an appt. I will read a magazine. Not much different than the the scenario the OP described. When she's lost interest, I come up with something else to keep her occupied (my bag is stashed with crayons, color books, seek and find books, and reading books) but I see nothing wrong with my child quietly occupied with the iPhone for 15 minutes.

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I am against them. Won't buy one for DD or for us even. I am leery of the radiation and whatever else these gadgets may pose a risk that we are unaware of. So I stick with the regular old entertainment.

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Bad mom? no. Nuts b/c an ipad is $$$$$? yes.

I got an ipad for christmas and while I don't use it much, my kids love it b/c I've downloaded books and learning games. Maybe it's my kids are more or less bulls in china shops but there is no way I am going hand my ipad over to them. Accidents happen and I can't trust my toddler to be responsible to make sure nothing happens to it.

They know how to use my ipad better than their leapster but to just say here, have fun... no way. I'd be playing it with them.

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I am so out of the technology loop so I can't comment on having DD use an IPAD, but honestly I totally disagree with your point. I actually think it is not always a good thing to constantly interact with your DC. My parents always taught us to learn to play ourselves also. Entertaining a child 100% all day long teaches them to not learn to be self reliant and to always be entertained. I want DD to have her own downtime just like I need my own.

Happy Mommy Happy Child!

DD gets TONS of attention..but that doesn't mean I can't check my email or FB without being a good Mom.

While you may not of inferred it I honestly think it was an ignorant post..wait until you have a child the same age as the one you posted before making a blanket statement such as this.

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The other day I took my 2 year old to the doctor. She has extreme anxiety over the doctor and screams terribly. The last time I took her she was crying and shaking so hard she bit her lip and I left with blood all over me. That was just a regular check up and one shot.

We went for her 2 1/2 year old check up the other day. I had her 7 month old sister with me too. When we got to the waiting room, I took out my iTouch and we played a flashcard game on it together. Guess what, she remained calm! We did the same in the exam room. She didn't even cry when she got her shot! It truly helped lower her anxiety level! The doctor was amazed at how well she did. Usually the doctors are saying how badly they feel. They told me to bring the iTouch with me next time.

My child doesn't use it often but the gadgets have their uses when used appropriately. Books and toys haven't cut it for us in this situation in the past. We have an iTouch, iPhone, and an iPad in our house, plus 2 computers (DH works in IT and we are bigtime Apple people). I think the technology is a fabulous way to educate children!!!!! I want them for my speech-language therapy room when I go back from maternity leave! The apps we pick aren't mindless and DD loves learning on them! My 7 month old loves them too...like the animal flashcards and the interactive nursery rhyme songs. I know we always talk about judging others, but there is always more to what you see.

ETA: to the OP, about the colic! I think we spoke the other day about the sensitive temperament. That's my kid that fears the doctor....and says, "Mommy, I scared of doctor!" Breaks my heart!

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Posted by sasha96

ETA: to the OP, about the colic! I think we spoke the other day about the sensitive temperament. That's my kid that fears the doctor....and says, "Mommy, I scared of doctor!" Breaks my heart!

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Posted by aliwnec10

Posted by sasha96

ETA: to the OP, about the colic! I think we spoke the other day about the sensitive temperament. That's my kid that fears the doctor....and says, "Mommy, I scared of doctor!" Breaks my heart!

Well i'm right there with you. My son hates the doctor. Screams as soon as we pull in the parking lot! So as usual... i feel your pain with that one.

To the OP, i have to agree with you. I don't like it either. Not at all. I'm very anti cell phones and anti gadgets. We don't know the situation here, but i hate it when parents don't pay attention to their kids and are on their phones instead or whatever the case be. However i do realize the world is changing a bit...

BUT i will say that because of the way my son is at the doctors office... i would break out 10 Ipads if i could!

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I have zero problem with it, DS is geting an ipod, he's 10m.

I plan to give him an ipad at 2, and a play laptop for his 1 year birthday.


Babbies having access to technology and tv, is not my issue at all, I just posted about it here: http://www.lifamilies.com/chat/topic.aspx?&P=1&ID=611678#P7086984

Its about how they learn to learn. Is all they are learning about learning comeing from entertainment. They how do we excpect them to focus in school.

The US is going to fall seriously behind countries where there is no such distraction and association with learning. Kids who learn to play with sticks and stones, have greater chance of being able to focus and solve math problems.

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don't care what others do and say , NO WAY I'm getting DD an Ipad or anything like that for a very long time, she is 3 , she has a Lipster explorer and I won't even let her play with that too much, she can play with ACTUAL puzzles , blocks and other toys instead of doing them on her game device and I'd rather teach her how to read and write the old fashioned way , instead of the computer teaching her. I only let her watch 2 hrs of TV a day .
No cellphone for her for a looooong time (maybe when she is 12? , yeah I now, good luck to me with that, but.....)
no TV in her room EVER. and no Computer in her room until she is 15 or so, and even then with lots of parental control. She can use a computer in the family room.
In short I'm not against any of that, but there is a limit and there are rules/conditions....

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Eh, I kind of feel like you saw a snippet of their life and who knows. Maybe that mom is "on" all day long at home and places like a MD waiting room she allows the games. Maybe they were both under the weather and this relaxes them. Maybe she knew her child would behave and stay still longer if they didn't interact. Maybe her job is on the line and missing work for her sick kid is frowned upon so she was doing what she could, when she could.
I don't see it as much different than allowing your child to watch the movie they have running in the ped's office.
I know, I will do almost anything to keep my kids calm at the MD because then they start interacting with the other sick kids and go home sicker than they arrived.

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