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Domino
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Thoughts on Inviting Classmates to a Birthday party
DS will be starting school in September. As his birthday is the middle of October, his will likely be one of the first in his class. It was my intention on inviting his classmates but I notice on here there is a lot of talk about siblings and RSVPing. As a parent, do you like getting class invites (and in this case from someone you dont know)? The party would likely be on a saturday. Is the consensus that siblings should be invited even though I would have to pay for them?
Thoughts?
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Posted 7/28/12 2:41 PM  |
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2ofakind05
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Re: Thoughts on Inviting Classmates to a Birthday party
DS's birthday is in September and as he is starting a new school too, I will be inviting his classmates. I won't extent the invitation to siblings but I do know there is always a possibility that they will show up, which I personally think is rude, but that is just my personal opinion. I sent invites on the first day of school last year, and about half of his class came. A lot of parents thanked me saying they thought it was a good way to get to know some of the other kids and parents. I will do the same thing this year in his new school.
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| Posted 7/28/12 4:16 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Thoughts on Inviting Classmates to a Birthday party
DS is going into 4th grade, so he's been to a lot of classmate b-day parties. Very rarely were siblings invited. Early-schoolyear parties are how most parents meet the other parents, so it's usually looked upon as a good thing to be invited to a Sept or Oct b-day party.
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| Posted 7/28/12 4:31 PM |
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Re: Thoughts on Inviting Classmates to a Birthday party
I like classmate parties. Its a great opportunity to meet other parents. You don't need to invite siblings. Most people don't expect that.
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| Posted 7/28/12 5:37 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: Thoughts on Inviting Classmates to a Birthday party
Posted by architectnycity
I like classmate parties. Its a great opportunity to meet other parents. You don't need to invite siblings. Most people don't expect that.
ITA. I would only extend the invite to those kids that are in your child's class. My kids are two years apart and often times the birthday child has a younger/older sibling that is the same age as the other child invited. In that case both of my kids end up getting an invite because we are social as a family outside of school. I would invite the class so you can get to know all of the other families in your class. If one of my DC are not invited I normally do not bring the non-invited child. There was only one time when I did and I asked (and offered to pay for the other child).
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| Posted 7/28/12 5:45 PM |
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Erica
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Re: Thoughts on Inviting Classmates to a Birthday party
Posted by architectnycity
I like classmate parties. Its a great opportunity to meet other parents. You don't need to invite siblings. Most people don't expect that.
I agree
I only had one sibling request for both my kids.
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| Posted 7/28/12 6:15 PM |
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jes81276
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Re: Thoughts on Inviting Classmates to a Birthday party
I don't mind bringing DS to classmates bday parties. He enjoys them, and I don't mind chatting with other parents for the time we're there. I would NEVER assume my other ds was invited, nor would I bring him unless he was explicitly invited. I think it's rude and I would be pizzed if someone brought their uninvited child to my party.
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| Posted 7/28/12 6:51 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Thoughts on Inviting Classmates to a Birthday party
I have never included classmates siblings in an invite and would be annoyed if they were brought. That said, I am the mean mom who doesn't invite te whole class. I have DS pick 5 kids he would like to invite and that's it. We have a lot of family and my friends kids that we invite and it's always 20-30 kids invited. I could never afford to invite the whole class.
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| Posted 7/28/12 8:05 PM |
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Re: Thoughts on Inviting Classmates to a Birthday party
We have a birthday early in the year. I think that my child should celebrate his birthday with the kids he sees every day. I don't see why it would be a bother to take him to a classmates' birthday party even if we did have more than one child. He should have friends from school. I may invite just the boys because we have a lot of non-school friends to add to the list and with the whole class it may just be too many kids. I will not put siblings on the invitation but if someone asked me about bringing a sibling I'd probably say it's fine. In his daycare he had some close friends who had a parent who worked on weekends. DS knew the siblings anyway.
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| Posted 7/28/12 9:52 PM |
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Jacksmommy
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Re: Thoughts on Inviting Classmates to a Birthday party
DS's birthday is the second day of school at his new school. I think this is a little too early to invite kids from the class as he won't even know their names. But if he had an October bday, I would totally invite them. However, at DS old school, there were a few bday parties where the whole class was invited and most parents didn't even RSVP. So be prepared for that too!
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| Posted 7/29/12 8:01 AM |
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fdnywife
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Re: Thoughts on Inviting Classmates to a Birthday party
IMO No way. You dont need to send an invite and ask how many are coming. You send the invite and say this child is invited. The parents should respect that and the other parent, or babysitter should stay home or do something else with the sibling. Parents should know that, especially when you are paying for them. I wouldnt worry about it. In my sons 10 birthdays weve only have a couple be rude and show up with uninvited siblings, who had them participate, grab goodie bags etc.
I think its a fantastic way for your child to get to know his classmates better. The earlier in the year the better.
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| Posted 7/29/12 9:14 AM |
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maybesoon
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Re: Thoughts on Inviting Classmates to a Birthday party
Posted by Jacksmommy
DS's birthday is the second day of school at his new school. I think this is a little too early to invite kids from the class as he won't even know their names. But if he had an October bday, I would totally invite them. However, at DS old school, there were a few bday parties where the whole class was invited and most parents didn't even RSVP. So be prepared for that too!
Same, my ds is mid sept. I decided not to have a party bc we have a large family and it's too much.
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| Posted 7/29/12 12:08 PM |
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