Toddler Daycare Moms - advice needed

I need perhaps a reality check because I love my daycare and have asked a few minor questions.

But I have voiced that I feel the communication isn't that great with one of the teachers (meaning I feel during the drop offs the teachers is cold to me and that at pickup we get minor details, such as our child had a good day).

I feel as if the teacher and I now have all this tension between us because I've expressed this, please tell me ... have I asked to much?

Even though I have a Toddler, it still breaks my heart that I can't be the one to care for her 5 days a week. Having more details on what she did during the day, helps me with the guilt I feel about leaving her, feeling more a part of her day.

Dropping her off in the morning and feeling the warmth from the other teachers, helps me be able to leave her and focus on my full time job.

Please be honest, what am I doing wrong here? I thought this was a small request and now I feel as if I created so much drama by mentioning this!

Re: Toddler Daycare Moms - advice needed

Our Daycare gives us an info sheet - what he ate, diaper changes, napping, books that were read.
Unless I ask specific questions (temper tantrums? playground? going down for a nap? I usually just get "good".

You have to remember that they are watching not just your child but all the other children as well and are probably totally fried by the end of the day. I don't think asking for more info is an unreasonable request though... maybe it was the way you phrased it? Or maybe she was just having a bad day?

Re: Toddler Daycare Moms - advice needed

I also get a daily sheet saying what he ate, diaper changes, favorite activity for the day... I tend to linger for a good 10-15 min when dropping off or picking up. It's just my way of being a part of his world. I usually don't ask much about his day, but I ask DS directly and they'll answer for him. Most times the teachers are very warm and open to share their favorite part of their day with DS. Sometimes they don't have much to share. It was probably just an average day...

Re: Toddler Daycare Moms - advice needed

I worked at a dc for 4 yrs. Every child had a notebook and everyother day we had to write something they did. We never really reported back unless we were asked. But I would always tell not give a cold shoulder to the parent.

Re: Toddler Daycare Moms - advice needed

I think I would approach the teacher with a "let's start anew" attitude and explain to her that you feel bad that you can't be the one to take care of her all day and that's why you would appreciate any/all feedback.

I find once you put someone else in the driver's seat they are much kinder....

Good luck!

Re: Toddler Daycare Moms - advice needed

Youre not wrong.

I DEMAND more detailed updates. I told them frankly that they are my ears and eyes. I didn't go up the chain immediately I pleaded to their sense of appreciation. I mean I am grateful to them for all they do for AJ but they get to SEE so much more. It means next to nothing to them and I know they have other kids but I want to know more than just "she ate, she pooped, she slept, she colored" i mean you get to KNOW her.. what's the day been like, how was she feeling, did she get excited about something new?

that worked for a bit then I did go to the director about it, same thing. If I wanted just black and white about my kid, I'd take her to a place that just left her to her own devices. Why do I need you to care for her if you dont care ABOUT her?

I ask questions, I get invovled I never accept simple answers. Seems so far they've been willing to work with me and its been good all the way around. I appreciate and know they are busy but its my kid. I'm selfish!

Re: Toddler Daycare Moms - advice needed

The old daycare DS went to hardly gave me any info. I asked and they always responded... Good. It was annoying. New daycare, when we moved th NJ, their sheet is much better. Gives me the usual info... Diaper changes, what he ate, when he napped, etc. Now the new teacher gives a paragraph long story on what they did. I love it! It totally makes. Big difference. Today I know he loved the song Patty Cake, loved the new rock climb wall and he loved dancing. I'd ask the teacher or speak with the director about them putting some more info on the sheet. Even when he has an off day they'll write it. I told the director how much I loved it a. I noticed that she writes more.