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jerseypanda
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Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
My DS turned 3 in September.
I have been finding lately that he is VERY much a mommy's boy. When he wakes up in the night, he will always come to my side of the bed.
He asks for me to put him to bed every night. (DH and I usually switch off. One of us puts DS to bed and the other will put DD to bed) The nights that DH is putting DS to bed, DS will sometimes whine or cry that he wants me to put him to bed.
DS has also recently told me that he doesn't like daddy.  It absolutely breaks my heart into a million pieces.
Anyone out there go through something similar with your toddler? I really hope it is some kind of phase. DH is WONDERFUL with our DC. He is completely involved and most of the time, DS has so much fun with him.
I just don't understand where these comments come from or why he seems to prefer me so much more.
I know as babies they tend to prefer one parent, but I never thought I would see this happening as a toddler.
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Posted 11/5/10 12:33 PM  |
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Re: Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
He is all about me, until dh comes home. I could drop dead and he wouldn't even notice.
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| Posted 11/5/10 12:36 PM |
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mrandmrs12
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Re: Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
DS only wants me all the time. UGH!
DH cannot do anything for or with him! it is horrible and we don't know why he has such a strong preference.
We are really trying to force them to do things together...especially since we have a new DD now who needs me too!
It is so unpleasant for both me and DH - I feel like I cannot get a break, and it really hurts DH's feelings.
No advice, but we know how you feel! 
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| Posted 11/5/10 12:42 PM |
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nicrae
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Re: Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
DD switches back and forth. For about a week she only wants DH. Then the next week she only wants me.
If she is mad at me she will cry that she wants her Daddy.
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| Posted 11/5/10 12:46 PM |
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Gatsbygirl
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Re: Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
DS wants no part of DH.
I credit this to the fact that we never ss DH 
It's fine; I like my little mommy's boy.
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| Posted 11/5/10 1:23 PM |
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2ForMeIn2011
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Re: Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
DD is all about me! i feel bad for DH but then again she's with me everyday all day.
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| Posted 11/5/10 1:37 PM |
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Smileyd17
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Re: Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
Posted by JennZ
He is all about me, until dh comes home. I could drop dead and he wouldn't even notice.
Same here, except mine is a DD.
Even while DH is home and they are together she will flat out say, I love daddy and hug him.
kind of like I dont love you right now 
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| Posted 11/5/10 1:40 PM |
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maybesoon
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Re: Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
Posted by JennZ
He is all about me, until dh comes home. I could drop dead and he wouldn't even notice.
same here!
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| Posted 11/5/10 1:41 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
DS is the same way! He will be 3 in december. I think in our case it has a lot to do with DH leaving (really going to work) whereas I dont.
He is very attached to me, and will be MEAN to DH. If he wakes in the night and DH goes to comfort him he yells and cries and tells him to go away.
When he first gets home from work he isnt always nice to him! But then once he warms up its all daddy do this daddy do that.
DH gets upset and I try to tell him its not that DS doesnt like him is that he is used to me being the one to comfort him and me being one he asks for things etc. I am pretty much with him 24/7 I rarely leave where DH leaves every day for 8 -10+ hours which for a toddler is ALOT.
When he gets this way with DH I try to have DH do something just the 2 of them, no mommy. Go to CEC, go to the park, even just rake leaves outside and then DS seems to re connect and things are fine (well until Monday rolls around again!)
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| Posted 11/5/10 5:11 PM |
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Xelindrya
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Re: Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
Posted by nicrae
DD switches back and forth. For about a week she only wants DH. Then the next week she only wants me.
If she is mad at me she will cry that she wants her Daddy.
Same here.. but mostly she's all about daddy but every now and then its "NO, (with a hand up to stop him from coming near her).... Momma!" This includes when I'm finally getting to my dinner but she wants me to sit with her and watch TV. she'll push Jim away and say "no" with each push, point to me and say "m'ere" (come here) then pat the pillow next to her and giggle in delight and satisfaction when I lay down with her.
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| Posted 11/5/10 5:26 PM |
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FelAndJon
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Re: Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
Yes, it is completely normal! It switches back and forth occasionally where he will only want daddy but for the most part he only wants me
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| Posted 11/5/10 7:26 PM |
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DeniseMarie
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Re: Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
Posted by JennZ
He is all about me, until dh comes home. I could drop dead and he wouldn't even notice.
same here with DD.
BUT she used to be a lot worse, when DH was around, I couldnt change her diaper, or put her to bed or get her dressed. She wanted daddy for everything. Now its not that bad.
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| Posted 11/5/10 7:28 PM |
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Re: Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
I am experiencing the exact same thing right now, Frankie is 3.5. He says "I dont love daddy, just mommy". He will NOT leave my side or leave me alone. I am due with DD anyday now so I was thinking that could be 1 of the reasons. I have no advise since Im at a loss also
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| Posted 11/5/10 7:30 PM |
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DomesticDeeva
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Re: Toddler preference for mommy/daddy?
Posted by mrandmrs12
DS only wants me all the time. UGH!
DH cannot do anything for or with him! it is horrible and we don't know why he has such a strong preference.
We are really trying to force them to do things together...especially since we have a new DD now who needs me too!
It is so unpleasant for both me and DH - I feel like I cannot get a break, and it really hurts DH's feelings.
No advice, but we know how you feel!
I could have written this word for word. Unless I'm not around...but once I'm in the room, he'd rather be with me. My ped said it's a phase and he'll grow out of it.
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