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nferrandi
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Two part question...
Here is the background. My sister and I live next door to each other. We both have tenants. Both my tenant (couple and their baby) and her tenant (singe male) are my friends from high school. My tenants are going to be moving out because they need more space and a separate bedroom for their baby. DH and I have been going back and forth if we wanted to get another tenant or wanted to take over the space- exercise area for him, office area for me.
So here comes the first question.... We can afford not to have a tenant, but obviously that extra money is a nice cushion. What would you do? Keep the extra income, or use the extra space?
Here comes the second issue. We would only take a tenant that we know and trust since we have the boys to think about. Well my sister's tenant approached DH this morning. He wants to move into our house. Our apartment is bigger then my sister's and has better parking. He is the perfect tenant. Single guy, very clean, good friend of ours, etc... But he is my sister's tenant.
So question two, would it be wrong for me to take her tenant? He would give her three months notice before leaving.
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MrsP
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Two part question...
I would take the tenant. Talk to your sister about it. I think if you're honest with her, she can't be mad about it. Three months notice is a long time.
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| Posted 7/22/12 5:22 PM |
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Re: Two part question...
I would keep the space without a rental.
If you do decide to rent, I personally wouldn't feel right taking my sister's tenant. You should talk to her about it and see how she feels.
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| Posted 7/22/12 5:24 PM |
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Loveme
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Two part question...
I would keep the rental, you'll never know what could happen and the extra income is always handy. I would also take the tenant, as long as your sister doesn't get offended
Message edited 7/22/2012 5:36:22 PM.
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| Posted 7/22/12 5:34 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Two part question...
Posted by MrsP
I would take the tenant. Talk to your sister about it. I think if you're honest with her, she can't be mad about it. Three months notice is a long time.
I wouldn't talk to her unless/until we decide to take her tenant. I don't want to cause waves between her and her tenant if we decide not to do it.
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| Posted 7/22/12 5:43 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Two part question...
Bumping for more opinions
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| Posted 7/23/12 10:38 AM |
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maybesoon
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Re: Two part question...
I would just use the space for my family at this point. You have 2 kids, I'm sure you need the space now. If you decide to keep a tenant , I would ask the guy to speak directly to your sister. They can come to you when they figure out a timeline. Good luck!
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| Posted 7/23/12 10:54 AM |
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dlj97
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Two part question...
I would just ask your sister if she is ok with it. If she is, then great, take the tenant. If she gets mad and you don't have anyone you know looking to move in, then use the extra space.
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| Posted 7/23/12 11:04 AM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Two part question...
Posted by dlj97
I would just ask your sister if she is ok with it. If she is, then great, take the tenant. If she gets mad and you don't have anyone you know looking to move in, then use the extra space.
My sister can be a grudge holder, I think she would hold it against her tenant if this was discussed and then didn't wind up happening.
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| Posted 7/23/12 11:38 AM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Two part question...
Posted by maybesoon
I would just use the space for my family at this point. You have 2 kids, I'm sure you need the space now. If you decide to keep a tenant , I would ask the guy to speak directly to your sister. They can come to you when they figure out a timeline. Good luck!
Yes and no. Of course the extra space would be a bonus, but as of now we have the three bedrooms upstairs and a big playroom downstairs. So we're not starved for space, but again, it would be nice. Arghh, so confusing.
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Waste06
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Re: Two part question...
Well, would your sister take your tenant without even asking you? I ask only because of other issues you've posted about her. You're always thinking of how things affect her and what's best for her. Does she look out for your best interests as well?
Also, keep in mind, her tenant might leave her regardless of what you decide, since he is looking for a bigger place.
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| Posted 7/23/12 1:16 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Two part question...
I think it depends on how big your current living space is and how much the rent is.
We have a 2000sf basement we barely use. I like having a single family house.
If I remember correctly, you are a dance teacher. Could you teach dance in your basement?
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headoverheels
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Re: Two part question...
I mean no offense by this, honestly, but if you are SERIOUSLY considering stealing your sister's tenant - because that's what this is, whether he approached you or not - then I'm really starting to understand why nearly all of your posts are about problems with your family.
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| Posted 7/23/12 1:39 PM |
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drwifettc
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Re: Two part question...
IMHO Unless you are going to search and replace your sisters tenant (assuming she's ok with having a non friend as a renter) then I would just leave the space empty. This is coming from someone who has a similar situation except neither my husband or his brother live in the rental houses, but they are directly next to each other. We have a great relationship as siblings (and sibling-in-laws) and the other party would be pissed if they took the others renter. If you really want that renter than you need to find a renter for your sister.
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Two part question...
I think it is wrong if you take the tenant, I would not do that and think it is not nice.
If I could afford to not have a tenant I wouldn't.
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MarisaK
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Re: Two part question...
Posted by StayForever
Well, would your sister take your tenant without even asking you? I ask only because of other issues you've posted about her. You're always thinking of how things affect her and what's best for her. Does she look out for your best interests as well?
Also, keep in mind, her tenant might leave her regardless of what you decide, since he is looking for a bigger place.
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| Posted 7/23/12 2:18 PM |
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Teachergal
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Re: Two part question...
Personally I would tell my friend that he needed to talk about it first with my sister. If he presents it along the lines of "I need a bigger apartment" then she can't really dispute it. It's not like he's saying, "I like your sister better so I'm moving." I think if he goes to her first and then he comes to you after that talk (assuming she accepts the fact that he wants to move into a bigger place) then you could go to your sister to feel her out and see how she feels. I would only accept the tenant if my sister was ok with it. It's not worth possible bad blood. I don't see it as stealing though.
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Teachergal
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Re: Two part question...
Posted by headoverheels
I mean no offense by this, honestly, but if you are SERIOUSLY considering stealing your sister's tenant - because that's what this is, whether he approached you or not - then I'm really starting to understand why nearly all of your posts are about problems with your family.
Ouch! This is very judgmental. She asked for answers to her questions, not a critique of her familial relationships.
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headoverheels
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Re: Two part question...
Posted by Teachergal
Posted by headoverheels
I mean no offense by this, honestly, but if you are SERIOUSLY considering stealing your sister's tenant - because that's what this is, whether he approached you or not - then I'm really starting to understand why nearly all of your posts are about problems with your family.
Ouch! This is very judgmental. She asked for answers to her questions, not a critique of her familial relationships.
Thank you LIF police  If she has a problem with my OPINION she can address it with me.
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Otherme
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Re: Two part question...
you've posted in the past about issues you have with your sister, or how sensitive she can be about certain things
Knowing that, i would stay far away from doing anything like this.
No matter how you would try and justify it to her, i'm sure she would see it as you were stealing her tenant.
If you guys already have a rocky relationship, i wouldn't do anything to make it worse. IMO, this would definitely do that
if you can afford to have the space be empty, then i would wait to find another tenant or use the space for your own family.
i think you'd be opening up a huge can of worms by even considering doing this!
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Posted by Otherme
you've posted in the past about issues you have with your sister, or how sensitive she can be about certain things
Knowing that, i would stay far away from doing anything like this.
No matter how you would try and justify it to her, i'm sure she would see it as you were stealing her tenant.
If you guys already have a rocky relationship, i wouldn't do anything to make it worse. IMO, this would definitely do that
if you can afford to have the space be empty, then i would wait to find another tenant or use the space for your own family.
i think you'd be opening up a huge can of worms by even considering doing this!
If you take the guy you are just asking for even more issues.
As for LB's post....Maybe it was harsh, but I understand exactly where she is coming from.
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SuzyQ
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Re: Two part question...
Tricky one. I think I would only take the tenant if I knew she would be able to get another one, who is just as good, easily.
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eroxgirl
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Re: Two part question...
Here's the real question... do you want more drama in your life? Because if you take that tenant, this won't end well for you. Everything you've ever posted about your sister tells me she will be PISSED AT YOU indefinitely.. even if she never misses a month's rent. Even if she gets a higher rent from her next tenant. Even if it wasn't your idea.
Unless you can find someone who wants to rent her apartment for a few hundred more than what she's getting now BEFORE this guy moves into your place, this is just bad news.
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Re: Two part question...
I would tell your friend to talk to your sister and see how she reacts. I also would make sure he doesn't tell her he spoke to you first. If she gives him or you a hard time I would keep it vacant until you find someone else to rent it to.
I just think, your sister is somehow going to turn this around on you down the road and it will be the end of it for you.
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| Posted 7/23/12 5:14 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Two part question...
Posted by headoverheels
I mean no offense by this, honestly, but if you are SERIOUSLY considering stealing your sister's tenant - because that's what this is, whether he approached you or not - then I'm really starting to understand why nearly all of your posts are about problems with your family.
It is not stealing. And this is not a done deal, I was just looking for opinions.
And if you look at the amount of posts I have, and the numerous replies to help others, you will see that not all of my posts are about my family. I have been on these boards (LIW and LIF) for a long time. I help people out whenever/wherever I can. I simply like to think I can expect the same in return. You will see very few, if any, judgemental responses from me. Can you say the same?
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