UPDATE - PLEASE SHARE YOUR OPINION: Would you say something at daycare?

I'm not sure if I should talk to the director of Ryan's daycare. She is usually the teacher in his class. When she is there, I find his report for the day is accurate, etc. When she's not - there are holes in it.

Examples:
- last wk one day it said he only napped once (9-9:40AM), so he went the entire day with only one nap. DH questioned it when he picked up DS and the teacher there in the afternoon didn't know much. I questioned the Director the next morning and she said he had napped in the afternoon - it wasn't written down.

- a few days before that it said he had a bottle at 3:45PM and napped 4-4:30PM. DH walked in a 4:30PM and they were finishing giving him his bottle He didn't look at the sheet before he left, so he didn't think to question it.

- today I go (bring him the first time this wk) and there is NO food (just cereal in his cubby). They are supposed to mark his report card if he needs something and it wasn't marked when DH picked him up last week - and we both asked if he needed anything. Director wasn't there this morning and the other teachers were searching the refridgerator to see if his food was in there - why would it be in there?
So, I had to look in other cubbies and see if he could borrow frrom another baby.

- also, if I drop him and the Director is not in the room, no one asks me if he ate that morning - she always does, and marks it down.

So, I don't want to be "that' parent, but their note-taking skills are OFF and it's getting a little frustrating. He has only been there 4-5 times in the last month and I have this many examples of slip ups.

WWYD? Should I speak to the Director? Do I call her or try to talk to her when I drop him off (when the other teacher is in the room?



UPDATE: So I get Ryan's report card from daycare last night and it says he was served lunch. I don't give him lunch

Obviously, not the biggest deal - he won't die from eating a lunch but W***T****(@*)*#)$?

So, this morning I go in thinking I'm going to mention something casually to the Director (head teacher in Ryan's room).

I get there and she isn't there. So I casually say to the other teacher, "you know he was given lunch yesterday, but we haven't started lunch yet".

Her reply was, "yeah, well he ate it".

Seriously, help calm me now! I nearly smacked her. She was so nasty and that was her reply!!

So I repeated, in a nice tone, "I understand that, but I don't offer him lunch yet". She say, "yesterday was a REALLY busy day". The end. So, clearly I didn't feel like I should even bother getting into discussing naps, etc.

Can you believe that reply? How about "oops, sorry about that!".

WWYD? Now I have to call the Director and mentions this, right??

Message edited 11/6/2008 10:36:24 AM.

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I would try to clue the teachers in first and if that goes nowhere then I would speak to the direcdtor privately and explain that you base the rest of your day with DS on the careful notes that should be taken while he is in their care.
Tell the director that you appreciate the notes she takes and expects the same from the other teachers. She is setting the example for them to follow.

You are not being THAT parent, you just want to make sure your child is being taken care of in the manner that the director expects as well.

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The Director is usually the other teacher in his room - actually, the main teacher in his room, in the morning. She's the only one I try to deal with - but when DH goes to pick him up I guess there are other teachers in there (I guess she works mornings).

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I would DEF. speak to someone. When my DS was in a larger facility, I had communication problems all the time with the am and pm crew. one event sent me over the edge, and I am now in a family day care, where its one person taking care of DS. It gets frustrating I know, but speak up, its YOUR son!!

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I would definately speak to someone too! ITA...its your child and these things are important. You have the understanding that you are going to drop him off there for however much time and when you pick him up you get a full and complete report of exactly what went on. Its important to know. I would approach the director. Good luck!!

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DH just went to pick up Ryan from daycare early and looked at his slip and it didn't have a nap time on there again. He questioned them and she was like "oh, I didn't get to write it down yet". I feel like they just guestimate stuff and if DH shows up early - they have holes to fill!

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UGH!

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As a former day care teacher, I would definitley speak up!
That has got to be so frusturating.
We were trained to mark things down Immediatley! Everything was charted throughout the day. We took the charts and filled out their "Track Sheets" with all the charted info.
I am sorry you are going through this.

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UPDATE: So I get Ryan's report card from daycare last night and it says he was served lunch. I don't give him lunch

Obviously, not the biggest deal - he won't die from eating a lunch but *****?

So, this morning I go in thinking I'm going to mention something casually to the Director (head teacher in Ryan's room).

I get there and she isn't there. So I casually say to the other teacher, "you know he was given lunch yesterday, but we haven't started lunch yet".

Her reply was, "yeah, well he ate it".

Seriously, help calm me now! I nearly smacked her. She was so nasty and that was her reply!!

So I repeated, in a nice tone, "I understand that, but I don't offer him lunch yet". She say, "yesterday was a REALLY busy day". The end. So, clearly I didn't feel like I should even bother getting into discussing naps, etc.

Can you believe that reply? How about "oops, sorry about that!".

WWYD? Now I have to call the Director and mentions this, right??

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Ok honestly noone has no right to give your child things that you specifically tell them not to do. Did you give them a list of things that he cant eat? or of the times of day that he can eat? Her comment just showed of lack of care and respect. If that were me I would quickly find another daycare to place my son in. I would not tolerate that at all. I am sorry to be so harsh but that is my opinion.

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Yes, you definitely need to contact the Director after that. Put in a call and let her get back to you. You're better off catching her when she has the time to talk, then in the classroom with a lot of kids around.

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I would call the Director. His classroom teacher obviously has bigger things on her mind than to be bothered with your concerns. I would be livid!!!

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OMG - I would definitely say something to the director about all your issues - and at the same time, I would be quietly looking for alternative daycares. (like you have time right?)

I'm not good with confrontation, so no advice there -

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Message edited 11/6/2008 10:47:28 AM.

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This is his teacher that talked to you like that? OMG
Of course you should say something to the director...not that the lunch was even a big deal...but...clearly the respect level is missing. How dare her.

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I read both your original post and your update - and absolutely, I would say something.

I have learned that the more I speak up about any issue, the more they accomodate me to avoid being reported or spoken to.

I hate that it's the way things have to be, but for the amount of money we spend on daycare, it is not asking too much that things get reported accurately, you get treated in a professional manner, and your child is 100% being cared for in the way you request.

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Posted by JChia

OMG - I would definitely say something to the director about all your issues - and at the same time, I would be quietly looking for alternative daycares. (like you have time right?)

I'm not good with confrontation, so no advice there -

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Posted by PrincessP

This is his teacher that talked to you like that? OMG
Of course you should say something to the director...not that the lunch was even a big deal...but...clearly the respect level is missing. How dare her.

Message edited 11/6/2008 10:54:14 AM.

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I think they handled it rudely and I would address that.

Did you give them a schedule? It sounds like he's not there that often and maybe they forget how to handle him.

Also, are you flexible with this schedule? I think daycare moms need to have some flexibility as their child gets older. Was your son showing interest in receiving lunch that day? They could at least called you and asked for permission to give it to him. Can you tell them to do that in the future?

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BTDT unfortunately.

I would suggest trying to speak to the head teacher...even if that means you call her. Voice your concerns. If you hit another brick wall go to the Director.


Like most jobs...for some teachers this is just that - a job - but for others it's a passion. I think it's a shame that we pay so much in tuition yet these teachers make so little.

I say this because you have to know your audience. Sometimes people have a bad day - we're all do - but othertimes people are just unhappy. So you can talk until you are blue in the face but you won't get anywhere. That's how it seemed with the teacher you spoke to about lunch.

Try the head teacher and see where that gets you. Make a list of your concerns so that you can address them. If you find the same 'I don't care' attitude then escalate to the director.


In all honesty, we went through something similar at the old daycare and for the most part I dealt with that. My reason for pulling him out was not about this. But now that we are at the new daycare I see that things shouldn't be that way. The teachers take accountability for the sheets and not once have I had someone say 'I don't know' or 'I wasn't there' - they all get an answer for me. That's how it should be.

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Posted by SweetCaroline

Posted by vegalady

Ok honestly noone has no right to give your child things that you specifically tell them not to do. Did you give them a list of things that he cant eat? or of the times of day that he can eat? Her comment just showed of lack of care and respect. If that were me I would quickly find another daycare to place my son in. I would not tolerate that at all. I am sorry to be so harsh but that is my opinion.

I was like . Honestly, she fed him bananas for lunch - he's had them before so I am not freaked over the particular food - but if I haven't introduced lunch, I don't like that she did I'm starting to feel like if the director isn't there, the other teacher is not on top of things. They KNOW Ryan's eating schedule - or at least should. He literally is there 2-3 days a wk at most, you'd think they'd get it straight for a couple of days a wk.

ETS: I don't want to be the "tattle-tail" do I mention specifically "Jane said this to me..."??

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