*update at last post* How would you feel and what would you do?

So people are funny! The grandmother invited us over to their home for a first communion gathering.. uhh ok... I told her we would not be going despite having a gift already, because I felt we needed to discuss the issue at hand. I also proceeded to say what else is going on with my kid that I don’t know about... she said that kids feel my son is bossy- ok thank you for some tangible feedback. It is something we have been trying to work on.

Eventually The mother of the babies came and spoke to us. We invited her in and sat down really causal. I didn’t want it to be a defensive convo.
All was discussed - and we shared with her how we operate...like adults - she said she needed time to cool of and I understand but the kids shouldn’t be messengers. We have to address the issues. So all seems ok- we went to the gathering but stayed very vigilant... and will continue to do so. We will work with our kid on the bossiness and be guarded as my son seems to be the only one with issues as they described...
anyone have any tips for tackling the bossy behavior???

I appreciate you all for your words!

Re: *update at last post* How would you feel and what would you do?

Ok, I’m sorry how hard did her kid get hit, was it that bad that she is still talking about it and need to get over it? I feel like I’m missing something because she still seems so bothered or “traumatized” by it?

How bossy is your son? Because if it isn’t too crazy, addressing it could be just little conversation with him here and there or correcting it when you see it. He’s still young.

Is all this stuff coming out now about your son because of this one accident? If so, I wouldn’t 100% trust this families word.

Re: *update at last post* How would you feel and what would you do?

Honestly they sound nuts and like a bunch of weirdos. This accident happened how many days ago and she's still harping on it and needs time to process it? They play together every day and he wasn't bossy before the swing incident? One day your kid just went all commando on their family drop kicking toddlers across the yard and bossing everybody around? And now they're running away from him and not allowed to play with him, making him feel like crap, but they are allowed to celebrate religious milestones with him. Wtf. Is there really nobody else your kid can play with? Because just being honest, sounds like scraping the bottom of the barrel for friendship.

You're going to have to be on your toes with these people going forward. All this drama when it was her fault she wasn't supervising her younger kids. Nice adulting, just pin all the blame on an 8 year old.

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*update at last post* How would you feel and what would you do?

So I wish I would have been there to know how hard and exactly how it happened - her story doesn’t match my kids. She wasn’t paying attention so is her version any better than a 7yr olds??
Both mom and grandma claim the kids said he is bossy not sure if it’s a now or for the entire month they have been playing... seems like from the beginning - whatever I don’t care.
I’m very transparent and I know he is bossy. I am bossy lol... I get it it’s annoying and we will continue to work with him but I am also not going to knock on his self esteem. The kids need to learn to use words with each other and talk. My son needs to here from his “friends” when they feel he’s being bossy... or to intense or whatever.

Frankly the other kids are not angels... so let’s be real.... they have said inappropriate things and behaved rudely and I address but keep it moving... and remind my kid what’s appropriate.
On our toes is an understatement - I will be playing with kids sometimes and just be with them or my husband will be with them. It’s unfortunate but I don’t trust anything right now... and we are going to bring over some of his school friends to try and add variety.

I do believe there is some jealousy here... amongst other issues. Again not to excuse my kid just feel like some of this is magnified because of that.