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leighla
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
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my parents met at work! i think it is great, a very natural way to meet!
of course they are divorced, but they were together for 35 years...
key word being DIVORCED...
May sound odd but I'd consider a 35 year old marraige a success. People grow apart. I seriously doubt they were divorced because they met at work 25 years beforehand.
eta. Sorry for the hijack Robyn. I say go for it.
I agree. This poster is also making it sound like all of us that met our SOs at work are doomed to fail, which I resent.
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
Posted by leighla
I agree. This poster is also making it sound like all of us that met our SOs at work are doomed to fail, which I resent.
Well just because you slutted around at work.....
Please I met my DH in a bar. I'd like to see the statistics on that one.
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
Posted by nrthshgrl
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Posted by nov04libride
my parents met at work! i think it is great, a very natural way to meet!
of course they are divorced, but they were together for 35 years...
key word being DIVORCED...
May sound odd but I'd consider a 35 year old marraige a success. People grow apart. I seriously doubt they were divorced because they met at work 25 years beforehand.
I would have to agree. 35 years is an awfully long time for it to "not work out" because it was a work romance.
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
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Posted by nov04libride
my parents met at work! i think it is great, a very natural way to meet!
of course they are divorced, but they were together for 35 years...
key word being DIVORCED...
May sound odd but I'd consider a 35 year old marraige a success. People grow apart. I seriously doubt they were divorced because they met at work 25 years beforehand.
I would have to agree. 35 years is an awfully long time for it to "not work out" because it was a work romance.
their divorce had absolutely nothing to do with meeting at work, if that is what some people thought.  my mom was actually a SAHM when my brother and i were young, and when she went back to work never worked with my dad again.
i actually think meeting at work was great for them. working in the same field they both helped each other out a lot...when my dad had problems at work he could vent to my mom and she really understood and could offer suggestions. DH is an accountant and i know NOTHING about that, so it's definitely different for us. him talking about specifics about work is like hearing another language.
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
Posted by nrthshgrl
My friend from high school dated a guy at work for almost 5 years before they got engaged. When they asked him what he did that weekend, he said "Got engaged." They said "TO WHO?" and that's how their co-workers found out they were dating.
We had a similar situation where I used to work. We were SHOCKED b/c we never saw the two together at work!
My current company takes the approach that it is none of their business as long as you're professional and not working for you romantic interest - because that is a conflict of interest - concerning evaluations etc.
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
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my parents met at work! i think it is great, a very natural way to meet!
of course they are divorced, but they were together for 35 years...
key word being DIVORCED...
This, in my opinion, never works... again, you don't **** where you eat!
So what happens when you decide to call it off with this person; do you up and relocate your JOB because of it? Too much risk for my liking. JMHO!!!
i dont know...it would be interesting to poll all members of LIF in 35 years and see how many are still married to the same person. i dont know if there is a correlation between where you met and divorce rate...and i would think those who met at work might have more in common than DH and I, who met at a bar.
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
I'm another one who married a co-worker (actually, I was his boss  ). It came down to me making a decision that I didn't want to pass up on an opportunity to get to know a truly wonderful man, simply because of our work situation. It also helped that I wasn't in that job as a final career move (I knew I'd leave within a year).
That said, I'm glad I made the decisions I did (though it was very risky at the time - it was quite frowned upon when people learned of our relationship). Oh well!  
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Kate07
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
One of my college friend's parents met at work - his mother was a secretary and his father was the company President. He was a widower with a 23 year old daughter and she was single. (He was aound 46, she was around 33).
I think they only saw each other a short time before the were engaged and married. They'll be married 30 years next year.
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
Since I know where you work, here is my opinion.
There are a bunch of people that met their spouses here and there are a bunch of people that dated and it didn't work out. If you can handle not seeing them if it doesn't work out, go for it
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
Me and Ryan started dating as co-workers... and we are still together 3 years later....
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
I dated and then ended up marrying my coworker. I left shortly after.
The whole time of us dating I made certain in my mind though that if it didn't work out and i couldn't see him at work I would quit. You need to have some sort of contingency plan in your head.
Good Luck!!!
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
I dated a co-worker years ago and never had a problem. I do think that life is too short to worry about it, as long as your job isn't in jeopardy, and that you should go with your gut if the feelings are there. Good luck!
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
i married one but i will not lie, there is tension at work and people talk about us.
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
I am married to my last boss! 
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
Posted by nyteacher13
key word being DIVORCED...
This, in my opinion, never works... again, you don't **** where you eat!
So what happens when you decide to call it off with this person; do you up and relocate your JOB because of it? Too much risk for my liking. JMHO!!!
I'd hope, being that you're old enough to hold down a job, that you'd be mature enough to handle the breakup. Relocating seems really dramatic.
You're certainly entitled to your opinion but 35 years is a respectable marriage and not a number you hear to often these days, unfortunately. I doubt working together contributed to the divorce.
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IrishTracy
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
I've known many people who have dated co-workers. 2 couples are married for over 5 years. If you think he's special I say go for it.
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
Posted by LaPetiteSirène
I married one... so ya never know!
Me too! We don't work together anymore though....
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
Posted by Beth1210
if you can live with seeing him if it doesn't work out- then go for it
I totally agree.
If you can handle it if it does not turn out good- then follow your heart but if it's going to get messy- then it's best to stay away.
I know someone who dated a co-worker and it was a nightmare- but then I know others who married co-workers. 
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
I say GO FOR IT GIRL!!!! You only live once  
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leighla
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
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Posted by leighla
I agree. This poster is also making it sound like all of us that met our SOs at work are doomed to fail, which I resent.
Well just because you slutted around at work.....
Please I met my DH in a bar. I'd like to see the statistics on that one.
I actually wonder if they have stats on the most successful marriages and where they originated.
I bet work is up there in the higher percentile. If for no other reason than common ground.
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lilacwine
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
Posted by Kate07
Posted by nrthshgrl
My friend from high school dated a guy at work for almost 5 years before they got engaged. When they asked him what he did that weekend, he said "Got engaged." They said "TO WHO?" and that's how their co-workers found out they were dating.
We had a similar situation where I used to work. We were SHOCKED b/c we never saw the two together at work!
I saw similar situations at work, too. It really made me think twice about the people involved and how easy it was for them to be so deceptive.
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
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My friend from high school dated a guy at work for almost 5 years before they got engaged. When they asked him what he did that weekend, he said "Got engaged." They said "TO WHO?" and that's how their co-workers found out they were dating.
We had a similar situation where I used to work. We were SHOCKED b/c we never saw the two together at work!
I saw similar situations at work, too. It really made me think twice about the people involved and how easy it was for them to be so deceptive.
I didn't think of it as being deceptive. I thought of it as not mixing their personal life with their business. I was on the friend side so I always saw them together.
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
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My friend from high school dated a guy at work for almost 5 years before they got engaged. When they asked him what he did that weekend, he said "Got engaged." They said "TO WHO?" and that's how their co-workers found out they were dating.
We had a similar situation where I used to work. We were SHOCKED b/c we never saw the two together at work!
I saw similar situations at work, too. It really made me think twice about the people involved and how easy it was for them to be so deceptive.
I didn't think of it as being deceptive. I thought of it as not mixing their personal life with their business. I was on the friend side so I always saw them together.
I agree - it's not being deceptive to decide not to share something about your personal life with your co-workers. What would be deceptive is if one of the parties got special treatment because of the relationship. If someone was going thru a divorce and choose not to share that information with co-workers, would you call them deceptive? No, they just don't care to share details of thier personal life with co-workers.
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leighla
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
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Posted by nrthshgrl
My friend from high school dated a guy at work for almost 5 years before they got engaged. When they asked him what he did that weekend, he said "Got engaged." They said "TO WHO?" and that's how their co-workers found out they were dating.
We had a similar situation where I used to work. We were SHOCKED b/c we never saw the two together at work!
I saw similar situations at work, too. It really made me think twice about the people involved and how easy it was for them to be so deceptive.
DH and I kept our relationship secret for years before people knew.
In fact, some people are STILL surprised, even after I've had this new name that matches his for the past two years!!!
I don't think it was deceptive - it was keeping our personal lives and our work lives separate.
I wouldn't go in after a date with a non-coworker and talk about how things went or our relationship, so why would I do that with a co-worker?
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Re: Dating a co-worker....your thoughts??
Finding people to date is HARD. If you are comfortable with the idea, and equipped to deal with things if they don't work out (but they just might!) then I too say go for it.
I highly doubt that a marriage that started at work is more likely to fail than any other marriage.
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