Update. PSA about donating meds

Update- Wow I can't believe so many people are attacking me for warning about sending meds. This is SOOOOOO far from being about $8. I wanted to pay it forward by donating meds to someone in need. I was uncomfortable about sending meds to someone instead of them picking it up. I don't know people on here in real life and was around when that woman was collecting people's meds and selling them so I wasn't sure about not meeting the person. But I know how difficult it is to put a toddler in the car for two hours to drive to me for pick up and I felt bad that she would have to do that so I took it on faith that she was a good person. She wasn't on when I was on five years ago and in the last year that I've been active again she wasn't on here. That doesn't make her good or bad, just an unknown person to me. So I put aside my doubt about sending meds to an unknown person to be helpful to her and I only asked she pay shipping. I don't think that's a lot to ask for and certainly no reason for me to be attacked. I sent the meds and then never heard a word in five weeks. I don't expect people to update me on their lives, that's a ludicrous place to go for those that commented that. However when someone just disappears after getting what they needed it made me wonder if I had done the right thing shipping when I was so uncomfortable with the idea to begin with. I SHIPPED TO MAKE HER LIFE EASIER because of her daughter. I don't think I'm wrong to question the incident. It's something for people to think about if they are going to ship meds-we don't know each other and you don't know a stranger's true story (which that woman showed with the trust she built up while selling people's meds). I only spent $8 but I know others who have spent $30 shipping meds. Someone told me they had to ship meds that needed to be refrigerated so had to be overnightted, cost her $100 to send. So the point is whether it's $8 or $100 think before you do it because you don't know in life! I'm sorry if some feel that's wrong, then do whatever your comfortable with in your life. I didn't feel comfortable in the first place doing it and I won't do it again. I strongly believe we should help each other instead of tearing each other apart and I have more meds that I will be donating to someone because it's the right thing to do. But I will just meet that person to give them to her because that's what I'm most comfortable with. I'm sorry that my PSA has turned into a shit storm that it didn't need to be.




Just wanted to share a recent experience that greatly disappointed me and changed how I will donate to people.
I had quite a lot of menopur left that was donated to me. Of course I wanted to pay it forward to someone else who was paying out of pocket for meds because people have been wonderful to me and I wanted to help others. A mom on here wanted the menopur for her cycle in March. She lives in Brooklyn and It would be an hour + drive for her in each direction to pick up the meds so after much thought I agreed to mail it to her instead of making her drive all the way to me for pick up. She promised she'd pay me for shipping the box of meds (I think it was 6 or 7 boxes of menopur so I saved her A LOT of money). As you can guess, she never paid me and the 5 or more messages I have sent her have been totally ignored, not even given me the respect to acknowledge them. I understand that life gets busy and we forget things. I totally wouldn't have minded if she forgot and then put it in the mail when I reminded her, but to ignore ALL messages from me is inexcusable as far as I'm concerned. I will NEVER again mail meds to someone because of this experience. Sad when you go out of your way for someone and they treat you like this and then ruin it for others in the future. Shame on this person!!!

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Hi, I am so sorry you had to go through this and that you were taken advantage of...
There was a situation on these boards a few years back where a woman took donated meds from generous posters on here and turned around to sell them. One poster figured her out as she was doing this on another message board as well. It was crazy.. I'm sorry that some people have to ruin it by being selfish where there are others truly in need.

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Please share the persons name (if you don't feel comfortable, PM me) so nobody else will get taken in this way


I'm so sorry. You were just trying to do the right thing

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Shame on that ungrateful person! I'm sorry you had a bad experience.

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Interesting. I donated meds to the same person and am suspicious about if they were actually used or sold elsewhere.

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That sucks! I donated meds twice to established posters. Both went on to have babies - one had twins- so I was happy I did it.

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It's such a shame some bad seeds have to spoil it for those who really need it. I received donated meds, and although my cycles failed, I'm forever grateful. OP, sorry you went through this

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I was waiting for this post!!!! Jess. I have been wondering


just added: if you anyone mails meds etc to someone. ALWAYS send it UPS and COD, this way they don't get the goods without paying.

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I want to add that this person that everyone is second guessing for no reason hasn't been on LIF in over a month. She must have some personal stuff going on so cut her some slack. She is a legit person and is not selling anything. She has been ttc for years.

I will also add that she is a very sweet person, who donated about 70 bottles of alimentum rtf formula to me for my first dd...and wanted nothing in return.

Be very careful with spreading rumors about people.

op - I'm sure she will respond to you and make it right.

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Unfortunately, generous people here have been scammed in the past and it was conversations like this that allowed it to be uncovered. If this poster is legit hopefully she does right by the OP. It should have been a priority for the receiver.

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I am that ungrateful person everyone is being quick to call out.

In February, i got the green light to move on with IVF again.

I have tried IVF a total of 3 times already, this would have been my 4th. Only the first time was covered by insurance.
None of the meds were ever covered by insurance. We are talking $18k per cycle.
It didn't matter to us, we saved and tried again each time. Never in one of any of those times did I ever ask for any medications to be donated.
Every time i tried IVF was after we had already conceived our first daughter after 2012 with the help of fertility drugs.

In February, we were about to start our 4th and absolute final try of IVF. Our savings had been severely depleted because of each cycle, so I figured I would ask if anyone on here had any meds to donate. Some of you generously donated what you had that you did not need at the time. For that, I am extremely grateful.

Let me preface this by saying that IVF is pretty much our only option. In December, I had to have my fallopian tube removed because of a hydrosalpinx. I had to recover before we could try again.

I started to stim, like every cycle before. Tragedy struck our family threefold when we lost two of my beloved aunts and an uncle in the span of one month. None of these deaths were expected and were a devastating blow to our family.
Through out, I pressed on to try and finish this cycle. I was already at risk of OHSS from previous cycles and this cycle was no different.
The day before ER, I went in for bloodwork and was told my levels had already started rising and was put on pills for the OHSS. The ER went as planned.
Afterwards, for the first time, I had a severe reaction to the anesthesia and had to be admitted overnight. I couldn't keep anything down, kept vomiting and was in and out of consciousness.
I was sent home the next day. I was still hopeful that I would still be able to do a 3 or 5 day transfer.

I only got worse. I still had to attend a wake and a funeral in between my recovery, in addition to running after my toddler at home. The pain after ER was so intense i could barely walk. I advised the Dr that I felt no better and they highly suggested to freeze what was able to be frozen and to a FET when I was feeling better. I agreed because at this point, life was too hectic.
The pain never got better. Now keep in mind, I've already done 3 ER before this and never had this type of reaction, so I knew something was wrong.
I kept going back to my RE but they could find nothing wrong, they kept chalking up it to my severe OHSS. They advised if I didn't feel better in another few days that i would need to be admitted.
3 days later, I told my DH I couldn't take the pain anymore, I could barely breathe, my legs would go numb from time to time and there was so much pain in my ovaries from being swollen i could still barely walk. That night, my DH took me to the ER were i stayed for the next 7 days to continuously have all of the excess fluid drained from my ovaries. I have never in my life been away from my daughter for that long in her life. My DH kept trying to bring her to visit but she would become hysterical at having to leave and we both decided it would be best if she just stayed at home until I returned.
I returned home, having missed the funeral.
Afterwards, I started to feel like my old self again. I was told to take it easy and I tried. I was told to not do any heavy exercising so i stuck to pretty low impact workouts to help me feel better. About a week ago, I started feeling some pain in my remaining ovary, I thought it was a bit random since i rarely if ever ovulate on my own and just forgot about it. The pain, over the next few days, persistently got worse, until I couldn't ignore it anymore. I had finished my medicine for the OHSS and they had drained all the excess fluid to my knowledge so I knew it couldn't be that. I made an appointment with my OBGYN to see what was going on for 2 days later. I never even made it that far. That night, when I went to sleep, the pain because so intense it was like i was going into labor. My DH rushed me to the ER where they let me know that somehow, my remaining ovary had twisted, I had waited to long and the necrosis had spread to the fallopian tube and both would have to be removed immediately before more damage was done.

This, in a nutshell, has been my life since February 15th.

I apologize, to those who feel like I should dedicate my life to checking this website daily to see what is being said about me. Quite honestly, I could care less. Those of you who know me in real life know I would never scam anyone.

To those of you (you know who you are) who have stood up for me and have come to me privately to let me know about trash talk behind my back, I appreciate it, thank you.

To those of you who have donated your extra meds for me, I am truly grateful, you will never know how much.

To those of you who feel you have been like I have somehow caused you a disservice, I apologize again, although, for what, I am not sure, since I did not do anything wrong.

Is this a sob story, I hope you won't think so. I don't want anyone's pity. I look forward to what life will bring. It probably won't ever bring another baby my way, but my daughter already brings me so much joy, and that is a gift I know many long for and may never receive.

I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop, hypothetically speaking, for now, I'll continue to live my life in the real world and continue to stay off this website where people who know nothing of my story think they have the right to judge me.

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Moonmist109

I am so so so sorry for all you have gone through. I wish you a speedy recovery in heart and body.

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Moonmist09. I'm so sorry for the loss of your aunts and uncle. I'm glad youre feeling better.

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I didn't know it was moonmist you were talking about

If you just said who it was, I would have vouched for her. Not even needing to see what she's been through recently. She was a big part of this board when I first came on here and is a good person


Moonmist - I'm so sorry for all you have been through.

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