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pixie
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Re: **update***Ok..so I need you guys to talk me off the ledge....
Maybe you should go there and hang out for the day and say for "trail part II". I know how hard it is...the whole time your gone you think about her crying...but know that DD will be fine in the end. She will get used to MIL eventually. 
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josie919
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Re: **update***Ok..so I need you guys to talk me off the ledge....
It will get easier for you to leave her.. but if your DD still has a hard time, maybe your MIL would be willing to come to your house? Might be a smidge easier for the baby.
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| Posted 4/15/09 5:40 PM |
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Reese1106
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Re: **update***Ok..so I need you guys to talk me off the ledge....
I'm so sorry Jen. Believe me, we can all understand how hard it is to leave you little one with someone else, regardless of who that person is.
Sadie could need a couple of days to adjust to being at your MIL's, especially if she's used to being with Mommy and/or Daddy all day. I'd give it a couple of days. Kids go through separation anxiety at different stages. Ben is almost 2 and still has days where he cries when we drop him off at daycare.
Also, keep in mind that Sadie could be sensing your anxiety over leaving her there and that could be part of what she is reacting to. I'm in NO way saying that is the sole reason she is crying but it could be part of it.
It's going to take both of you time to adjust. Give yourself a break and know you are doing the best for her.
I'm sure in a short amount of time, she'll be adjusted. It's hard but hang in there. It will get better. 
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| Posted 4/15/09 7:06 PM |
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mamasita27
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Re: **update***Ok..so I need you guys to talk me off the ledge....
it's okay. i know how you feel! how old is DD now? That's what my DD did when I first went back to work! She just cried pretty much the whole time for about 3 days but then she was FINE! It DOES get better!!!
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| Posted 4/15/09 7:27 PM |
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Jen2999
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Re: **update***Ok..so I need you guys to talk me off the ledge....
Posted by mamasita27
it's okay. i know how you feel! how old is DD now? That's what my DD did when I first went back to work! She just cried pretty much the whole time for about 3 days but then she was FINE! It DOES get better!!!
She will be 12 weeks friday, 14 when I go back.
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| Posted 4/15/09 8:58 PM |
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Jen2999
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Re: **update***Ok..so I need you guys to talk me off the ledge....
Posted by Reese1106
I'm so sorry Jen. Believe me, we can all understand how hard it is to leave you little one with someone else, regardless of who that person is.
Sadie could need a couple of days to adjust to being at your MIL's, especially if she's used to being with Mommy and/or Daddy all day. I'd give it a couple of days. Kids go through separation anxiety at different stages. Ben is almost 2 and still has days where he cries when we drop him off at daycare.
Also, keep in mind that Sadie could be sensing your anxiety over leaving her there and that could be part of what she is reacting to. I'm in NO way saying that is the sole reason she is crying but it could be part of it.
It's going to take both of you time to adjust. Give yourself a break and know you are doing the best for her.
I'm sure in a short amount of time, she'll be adjusted. It's hard but hang in there. It will get better.
Thanks. I know that she will get used to it...she is going to have no choice. It is just hard cause she does so much better with my mom so I have that in the back of my head too. I told DH he might have to drop her off next time so that maybe she wont sense my anxiety etc. I actually was fine leaving her there...when I got home I freaked a little, and then I was DEFINITELY upset when I got back and saw how sad she was.
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| Posted 4/15/09 9:00 PM |
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ReiRei13
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Re: **update***Ok..so I need you guys to talk me off the ledge....
I'm so sorry Jen!! i don't know how you're doing it!! I'm sure it'll get better with time!
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| Posted 4/15/09 9:13 PM |
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wannabemom
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Re: **update***Ok..so I need you guys to talk me off the ledge....
I think your MIL should come over to your house and take care of her while you're home. she'll get used to MIL as the caretaker, then.
then, you go to MIL's house and have her take care of her with you still being there.....
I think the change of environement plus the change in caretakers was too much for her.... she needs to learn to associate grandma and mom as good friends that trust each other....
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| Posted 4/15/09 9:25 PM |
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lovemy2boys
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Re: **update***Ok..so I need you guys to talk me off the ledge....
Posted by Jen2999
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****UPDATE****
ugh ugh ugh ugh!!!! SO I get there to pick her up (she was there about 2.5 hours) and I hear her crying from the frekkin driveway. I go in and she is so sad and upset and it took me about 15 minutes to calm her down. MIL said she pretty much cried the entire time, except that she got her to sleep for about an hour by rocking her in her carseat. I have been so upset all day. I don't know what I am going to do. I only have 2.5 weeks of maternoity leave left and I dont want to waste them by dropping her off to cry for 3 hours at a time with MIL.
I feel like the worst mom ever.
DS cried like crazy when we first started dropping him off , to the point that he would scare my inlaws. that bad  But after about leaving him there for 3-4 days, my inlaws had him all figured out and he NEVER has a crying episode there. He always cries w DH and I bc we don't know his schedule as well. she will be fine after a few more times
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| Posted 4/15/09 9:31 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: **update***Ok..so I need you guys to talk me off the ledge....
Aww, hang in there. I promise you that they will both get to know each other. I mean, listen, she got her to sleep for an hour, that's a freaking miracle to me because no one could calm Ava like that as an infant! It's not easy leaving your child with someone other than your own mom or hubby, I know that, but it will be fine and you are teaching her a valuable lesson in trust and coping, so for that, you're a great mommy!
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| Posted 4/15/09 9:38 PM |
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Jen2999
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Re: **update***Ok..so I need you guys to talk me off the ledge....
Posted by wannabemom
I think your MIL should come over to your house and take care of her while you're home. she'll get used to MIL as the caretaker, then.
then, you go to MIL's house and have her take care of her with you still being there.....
I think the change of environement plus the change in caretakers was too much for her.... she needs to learn to associate grandma and mom as good friends that trust each other....
MIL doesnt drive and watches a 4 year old during the day so thats really not a option.
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