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Just say the word - I have my initiation saved in my notebook that I FM to all new moms who go through their own! It is quite a good one

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Can I just post another side to this -- last year I was in BRU and I saw this adorable Fireman's costume...my BIL is a fireman and had to get it for my nephew. I in no means was thinking he had to wear that for Halloween - and now with all of these responses I hope that my SIL didn't take it that I was buying him his "First" costume. I was just buying it for him to have -- because it was something cute and made me think of him (and my BIL when I saw it)

If you are upset by the costume don't put him in it on Halloween.

This post will def. have me second guess things like the fireman costume from now on because I never gave it a second thought and would never want to steal a new moms thunder.

Sorry you are so upset!

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I personally don't blame you for being annoyed, I have family members who tend to be overbearing and want to control things, therefore buying dresses for DD for holidays, etc. It's annoying...I want her to wear what I choose.

I think it's crazy that people are harping on your vent too!

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i completely understand how you feel! it's not at all about being ungrateful, it's about a special tradition that is starting. a FRIEND of my MIL and my MIL bought DS christmas outfits last year! i was very upset because i had already bought his christmas and christmas eve outfits. i asked MIL to return hers and i returned the friend's gift. it was my first child's first christmas and it was very important to me that i dress him.

the thought that your mom put in should be appreciated. it's too bad she didn't talk to you about it first--maybe you could have gone shopping together and picked it out and she paid for it. that would have been a nice compromise.

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My mom did the same thing...

For me, since I'm not taking her trick-or-treating or anything, I figure I will put it on her (butterfly) and then take pictures but that's about it.

I was annoyed, too and I think I will be even more annoyed if it happens next year when she can walk and actually trick or treat, KWIM?

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Seriously, after reading this thread, I have to say

who are any of us to question the OP's vent. If you disagree, that is fine but I think it is silly to try to get her to "get over it" due to whatever your experiences have been

I wish we could vent just to vent and not have to explain it......

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Posted by monkeybride

Posted by pixie

OK...I understand you want to buy his outfit and you still can. But I am trying to bite my tounge here because I think posts like this are just insane. You should be grateful that your child has grandparent who want to spoil him. They live for this stuff...and it makes them so happy to give. Instead of venting, I think you should be appriciative, she meant no harm. How hard is it to bundle him in a cute outfit, take a picture, and take it off? I know Im going to get flamed- but I just had to put that out there.

Because it's her kid and not her mom's and she waited 9 months to do his "firsts". Our moms had their chance with us and now it's our turn.
Jen I can totally understand how you feel. Believe me.

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I understand- my grandma (dd's great grandma) bought her first halloween costume w/o asking me- an angel.. and that is what she was.. honestly I was working by then & I didn't have time to go shop.

believe me when I say this will be the first of MANY parenting annoyances.

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Jen, I understand where you're coming from. My MIL is insisting on buying DD a dress to wear for her 1st birthday party. I said fine, she will wear your dress on the day of her actually birthday when we have both grandparents over. We're having a party the day after with family and friends and DD will wear the dress that I buy her.

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My sister got DS his first Halloween costume last year and felt more akward about it than I did.

I get where you are coming from but I'm sure it was done with good intentions.

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Posted by KateDevine

Posted by CaseyGirl

Posted by KateDevine

Posted by BigB

I understand your frustration, I do....but what I have learned to do is let my mom just do it. It makes her so happy (and there are few things that make her happy!)

I also figure, hey better her money then mine! LOL...Is that horrible?

ITA with this.

I mean, DS had a costume for his first Halloween and one of my mom's friends bought him one as a gift, so he wore that one.

I'm sorry, but I don't see what the big deal is, I wish someone would buy DS' this year

Well I guess that's how you feel but that's not how I feel...it's NOT the end of the world but I do feel my mom overstepped a bit.

And to the people who called me ungrateful or whatever...just like Donna (DM24angel) said..we also tried for YEARS to have my son so I'm sorry but this is very special to me, as I'm sure it is to any mother....I am allowed to vent whenever I want...to say this is not worthy of a vent is ridiculous...I thought we could all come on here to the Parenting board to discuss things...I'll be sure to ridicule you next time any of you have a vent that I feel is "unworthy" ..I am not UNGRATEFUL or UNAPPRECIATIVE of my mother...give me a break....that's just ridiculous. You don't know me. I will put the costume on him and take a picture however I will be buying him an outfit of my own!

Thank you to the people who "get" what I'm saying

At the same time, why can't people post their opinions?

YOU feel that she overstepped, myself and a few others don't. Unfortunately, when you post on a public forum people can disagree with you

I'm sorry you are upset about, I truly am, but at the same time, there are several solutions to it

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he doesn't have to wear it....

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Nevermind......didn't read all the way through......

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IMO, it doesn't matter what the OP's "intentions' were, but by posting that she was annoyed or upset or whatever wording she used (too lazy too go back and look) by someone going out of their way to purchase gifts for her child is absolutely ungrateful and kind of spoiled, again this is in my humble opinion/

And for those who are saying that it took the OP so long to have her child and she should be entitled to have these feelings, well, i agree. The OP can feel whatever way she wants to. But remember, it took us ALL a long time to have our first children. It took me 32 years, in fact. I don't think those that had a harder time conceiving get a "pass" when it comes to whining. Sorry if it sounds harsh.

And when you come on a public board to vent about your frustration about your child's grandparent's buying him or her gifts, it might strike a chord with some other posters. They have a right to vent their feelings about the subject posted as well.

I hope the OP finds the perfect Halloween costume for her DC and that all end up well.





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My MIL bought my DD her first Halloween Costume and my Mom and Dad bought my DD her first Christmas dress. I was very grateful and feel blessed to have people who think about my child and spend their hard earned money on her.

You get to have tons of "firsts" with your DS, let the Grandparents have these little things.Costumes and clothing are not that important when it comes to parenting and it makes the Grandparents happy.

I am most certainly NOT telling you how to feel, just offering another perspective.

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Posted by Snickers

IMO, it doesn't matter what the OP's "intentions' were, but by posting that she was annoyed or upset or whatever wording she used (too lazy too go back and look) by someone going out of their way to purchase gifts for her child is absolutely ungrateful and kind of spoiled, again this is in my humble opinion/

And for those who are saying that it took the OP so long to have her child and she should be entitled to have these feelings, well, i agree. The OP can feel whatever way she wants to. But remember, it took us ALL a long time to have our first children. It took me 32 years, in fact. I don't think those that had a harder time conceiving get a "pass" when it comes to whining. Sorry if it sounds harsh.

And when you come on a public board to vent about your frustration about your child's grandparent's buying him or her gifts, it might strike a chord with some other posters. They have a right to vent their feelings about the subject posted as well.

I hope the OP finds the perfect Halloween costume for her DC and that all end up well.





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Posted by Snickers

IMO, it doesn't matter what the OP's "intentions' were, but by posting that she was annoyed or upset or whatever wording she used (too lazy too go back and look) by someone going out of their way to purchase gifts for her child is absolutely ungrateful and kind of spoiled, again this is in my humble opinion/

And for those who are saying that it took the OP so long to have her child and she should be entitled to have these feelings, well, i agree. The OP can feel whatever way she wants to. But remember, it took us ALL a long time to have our first children. It took me 32 years, in fact. I don't think those that had a harder time conceiving get a "pass" when it comes to whining. Sorry if it sounds harsh.

And when you come on a public board to vent about your frustration about your child's grandparent's buying him or her gifts, it might strike a chord with some other posters. They have a right to vent their feelings about the subject posted as well.

I hope the OP finds the perfect Halloween costume for her DC and that all end up well.





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Posted by monkeybride

Posted by Snickers

IMO, it doesn't matter what the OP's "intentions' were, but by posting that she was annoyed or upset or whatever wording she used (too lazy too go back and look) by someone going out of their way to purchase gifts for her child is absolutely ungrateful and kind of spoiled, again this is in my humble opinion/

And for those who are saying that it took the OP so long to have her child and she should be entitled to have these feelings, well, i agree. The OP can feel whatever way she wants to. But remember, it took us ALL a long time to have our first children. It took me 32 years, in fact. I don't think those that had a harder time conceiving get a "pass" when it comes to whining. Sorry if it sounds harsh.

And when you come on a public board to vent about your frustration about your child's grandparent's buying him or her gifts, it might strike a chord with some other posters. They have a right to vent their feelings about the subject posted as well.

I hope the OP finds the perfect Halloween costume for her DC and that all end up well.





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Wow that really did not come across well at all. To me it was very harsh and inconsiderate. Comparing your 32 years of life waiting for a baby to infertility is just plain ignorant. And I don't think she was asking for any kind of pass or sympathy. Just a place to vent which is what this board used to be great for.
I think I'm getting to the point that some of the other mom's on here have and just being done with this place.

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Snickers - how dare you call me spolied and ungrateful...you don't even know me! I would NEVER have the nerve to say that to someone who i don't even know..I am far from it but you wouldn't know that you just took it upon yourself to judge...

For God's sake people... i was VENTING that my mom took it upon herself to buy my kid a costume and that action annoyed me. That's all....I'm still gonna put it on him to make my mom happy. And yea I waited a long time too to have him - 5 years of TTC in fact - thousands of dollars and many days and nights of heartbreak - but as I said before, I wasn't saying because of that it is so much more special, it's just a "first" I've been waiting forever for and my mom annoyed me, just like anyone else.

For all of you who think I'm ungrateful, spoiled, whatever....get off your high horses.

I'm done defending what I honestly thought was just a vent to fellow moms...

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