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DebG
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Warning...a morbid post
I am cleaning out my bedroom today so that god forbid something happens during surgery my muffin and my mom don't need to see/deal with some stuff. At the same time I am starting to create a list of things to do for my loved ones should my outcome be less than diserable (I am not being negative, I am being real).
So far here is what I have:
A letter to my son letting him know who I am
A letter to my sister
A letter to my parents
A letter to my muffinman (and I want to attach forget me not seeds for him to plant in our back yard.
Without getting sad/emotional/setimental or telling me I am being rediculous. Can you think of some other ideas of sweet things for me to put together?
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Redhead
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
i think the letters are a great idea...
Can't think of anything better than that
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| Posted 5/31/06 9:58 AM |
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
I would say gifts or letters for certain stages of your muffins life. Like when they start driving, graduate HS, 1st date..stuff like that.  
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| Posted 5/31/06 9:59 AM |
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baghag
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
How about a scrapbook or a picture slideshow of your life? I saw some on Parenting that were amazing, like Barbara's on onetruemedia.com
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| Posted 5/31/06 9:59 AM |
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LAMGAJ28
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
How about recording a video for your son?
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:00 AM |
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Posted by baghag
How about a scrapbook or a picture slideshow of your life? I saw some on Parenting that were amazing, like Barbara's on onetruemedia.com
great Idea. I know Lisa is great with scrapbooking and ideas for it. Pictures of when you were little Deb and as you got older.
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:00 AM |
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CaidensMommy
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
How about some pictures of you being PG with your mini-muffin!
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:00 AM |
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Maybe buy some books that you inscribe to him, and choose ones for different ages.
ETA- Eric Carle writes great books for preschool. Upper Elementary and Middle- the boys love the Time Warp Trio series and anything by Matt Christoper (sports fiction). Also anything by Gary Paulsen (adventure books)
Message edited 5/31/2006 10:03:18 AM.
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:01 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
have you done you DNR or living will? Sorry to be morbid, but the legal stuff has to be done as well as the emotional stuff.
Btw-all of the things you mentioned are perfect. I wish you all the best for a speedy recovery. I am pulling for you.
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:03 AM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
It's not morbid. I think you are being very proactive (and brave) just in case things go bad. Some people leave things so unsaid and undone. It's great that you are leaving something so special behind (although we all know you won't need them ).
Some things to think about as well...(I do this everytime I travel/fly)..
A list of all contacts with numbers (work related, friends, extended friends, etc.)
A list of all pertinent things (credit card account info, 401k info, policies, car titles, you name it).
A list of any "wishes" you might have (arrangements, special personal things you want different people to have; i.e. jewelry and such).
No one wants to think of these things but I know for myself my husband would have clue none about how to contact extended friends, bosses, etc. Let alone all the insurance info from work, etc.
God bless you Deb! pray: 
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:04 AM |
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IrishTracy
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
I think that is a great idea. You can always make a video as well. That way WHEN you pull out of your surgery it will still be something they can have. My opinion you can never hear I love you enough. And you can watch the video every year on your I'm healed anniversary!!
Make sure that you have your things in order. And they know what you want to happen.
My prayers are with you!!!
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:05 AM |
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DebG
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
There are some great ideas here! Thank you everyone!
For those that asked/comented about my papers, rest assured, all those matters are in order already.
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:08 AM |
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momAGAIN
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
first I have to say I am so sorry, I also wanted to tell you what you are doing is amazing. My mother was terminally sick with cancer my entire childhood, and after she passed my brothers and sisters and myself each were given letters that she had written us. Since I was 10 when my mom passed she wrote things about herself that she wanted me to know also things I needed to know in the future about growing up etc... To this day I treasure that letter!
I am praying for you and your family! 
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:08 AM |
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~Colleen~
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Posted by MrsFresca
How about recording a video for your son?
In addition to the letters, I think this is a great idea too...
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:19 AM |
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Jessica
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
You're amazing!!!!
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:21 AM |
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Snozberry
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Those are such beautiful ideas that you posted. The forget me nots are an incredible idea. I agree with the other posters about possibly making a video/scrap book.
You're such a strong woman.
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:21 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
I would definitely take pregnancy photos for Joey to see how truly happy he made you. I think the letters are the best thing you can leave for everyone.
I sobbed through the movie My Life Without Me. The main character made tapes for her children. I think a videotape and tape recordings would be great too. Even if it's just you singing songs like "The Itsy Bitsy Spider" I know that I would want my kids to be able to hear my voice. I can't even begin to imagine how emotional, and yet theraputic, it must be for you to think about this.
On your year anniversary of your surgery, you can give them to your parents & DH to read as you celebrate your success and save Joey's in his baby book.
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:21 AM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Video and pictures are the best...IMO.
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leighla
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
I have no other advice than what these smart girls already gave you.
Just wanted to give you some
And tell you how much I admire how you are handling all of this.
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:25 AM |
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karacg
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Deb I think the letters are fabulous - something your hubby and minimuffin can carry with them forever, in their wallets or pockets, close to their hearts. I also like the idea of the videos.
I think you are a truly amazing woman. God might want you but your family needs you more, so I bet you will be recovering faster than we would ever imagine.
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raken40
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
wow.....Deb, you are amazing...
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I would agree with the tape of yourself and when you recover you can add to the tape every year and when you are old and gray you will have that tape to pass on to your grand-kids and great grand-kids as a family legacy.
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JenniferEver
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Posted by leighla
I have no other advice than what these smart girls already gave you.
Just wanted to give you some
And tell you how much I admire how you are handling all of this.
Ditto Ditto Ditto
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The tape and letters are perfect ideas.
Maybe include in the letters how you felt during your pregnancy. Like how you first found out, how you told DH, how you felt at 3 months, 6 months, etc if you havent already done that.
Maybe you can also "give" the baby a small piece of jewelry that you cherish. Something that he will know you wanted him to have.
BUT on the other hand, I know you will be okay.
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:55 AM |
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