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luvsun27
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Posted by leighla
I have no other advice than what these smart girls already gave you.
Just wanted to give you some 
And tell you how much I admire how you are handling all of this.
I agree. I have tears in my eyes reading this thread
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dee7772
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Posted by momAGAIN
first I have to say I am so sorry, I also wanted to tell you what you are doing is amazing. My mother was terminally sick with cancer my entire childhood, and after she passed my brothers and sisters and myself each were given letters that she had written us. Since I was 10 when my mom passed she wrote things about herself that she wanted me to know also things I needed to know in the future about growing up etc... To this day I treasure that letter!
I am praying for you and your family!  
I really wish my sister did something like that for her 3 children. I don't think she was planning on the outcome that happened, so she really didn't prepare for it. 
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| Posted 5/31/06 10:59 AM |
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ChickPea
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
You are such a strong woman. My heart is with you. I was thinking of something like James Pattersons "suzanne's diary for nicholas", where she documents her courtship with her hubby and her pregnancy and writes it all for her child. I don't have children but I plan on doing it for them when I do. It was a very touching book.
Just some more
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| Posted 5/31/06 11:07 AM |
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pmpkn087
Life is good...
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
I think the photo mantage is a great idea!
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| Posted 5/31/06 11:12 AM |
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
I think a Diary is a great idea. I did this once for an ex-Bf beofre he left to the army. It was a great way to bring back memeories of the times we took for granted.
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| Posted 5/31/06 11:13 AM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Definitely video for your son...
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| Posted 5/31/06 11:14 AM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Deb - first and foremost, i admire your strength and courage during this difficult time!! You are TRULY an Inspiration!!!
As well as the letters and video, I think a daily journal would be great.
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| Posted 5/31/06 11:30 AM |
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dpli
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
I think this is a wonderful idea. My mom had serious surgery for cancer and wrote us each a letter, in case something happened to her. She made it through successfully, but died about a year later and I found the letters after she died and distributed them. It was wonderful and emotional to read and I am grateful that she did it.
What I sometimes wish I had is a video of her and my dad (also deceased) and more photos of her. My mom never liked how she looked in photos, so she would often hide from the camera. The sad result of this is that I have very few photos of her from birthdays and vacations, and not many from when she was a younger woman. I would love to have a video to be able to hear her voice. I love seeing things with her handwriting on it. I would love to have the stories of her courtship and early years of marriage with my dad and things she dealt with in her pregnancies.
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| Posted 5/31/06 11:36 AM |
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IluvBo
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
My thoughts and prayers are with you....whatever you are going through. I know those things are private. Your post isn't morbid...........I went through that myself a few years back and these are some things I did...................
Pictures of me and my kids
Letters to each of them and my husband
I did a video for my son and then one for him to watch on his wedding day.
I did a video for my daughter for those special stages in her life and one for her to watch on her wedding day.
Good luck honey, prayers are going your way.
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| Posted 5/31/06 11:42 AM |
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Everyone has such great ideas, the letters, the videos - to be seen and heard for years to come..... 
I have also seen a diary/journal type thing where it has a layout that you can pretty simply complete your entire family tree, for your son I think he would love to know not only all about you but those that went before you too.
My DH father made a tape recorded interview of my FIL - asked him questions from where he was born, to growing up and where, through is whole life, it was interesting to hear the 80 years of his life in his own voice.
You are so strong to be able to think about this right now, nevermind do it!
Many hugs and prayers to you!
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| Posted 5/31/06 11:50 AM |
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jozieb0925
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
I just wanted to offer more...
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| Posted 5/31/06 11:59 AM |
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dooodles
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Deb, not morbid at all. I do this every time I fly.... You are just being a wonderful Mommy and wife thinking of those you love with all of your heart.
I think the ideas you have been given are truly beautiful and wonderful and I know I can't offer anything other than what has been posted here. If there is anything I can do from here to help - you've got it! Even if you just need videotapes mailed to you!!
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| Posted 5/31/06 12:02 PM |
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GenLCSW
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
lots of and
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| Posted 5/31/06 12:03 PM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Everyone has such great ideas. I think what you doing is very thoughtful and caring
My one suggestion would be to buy him the Dr Suess book "Oh the places you'll go" and inscribe it.
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| Posted 5/31/06 12:07 PM |
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Tany
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
I don;t have anything else to add, but just wanted to reiterate what a strong and admirable woman you are.
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| Posted 5/31/06 12:14 PM |
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CathyB
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
I saw on Oprah a few years back a woman who had terminal cancer had made a bunch of videos for her daughter. Advice she'd wanted to pass along at different stages of life. About playing nice, etc when she was young, progressing up to dating advice and then something for her wedding with a special piece of jewelry she requested the daughter wear.
That took her many months, since your timeframe is shorter, what about letters for different big events, just in case? Like the first day of kindergarten, graduating high school, college, wedding, etc.
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| Posted 5/31/06 12:23 PM |
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reggie
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Posted by MrsFresca
How about recording a video for your son?
Def a good idea. You can do a various tapes. Like one when he starts grade school. Another when he has a birthday. One for when he starts Middle school, high school, when he graduates, etc!!
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| Posted 5/31/06 12:33 PM |
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Ali1
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Not ridiculous at all. I had surgery done about a year ago (nothing as major as what you are having) and left a letter for my husband should something of had happened to me. I didn't tell him about it, but i left it somewhere that he would of found it when he was cleaning out stuff. I mainly just wrote to him thanking him for the time he gave me and that I wanted him to be able to move on and meet someone new if he wanted to. We didn't have kids back then. I would do the same if i was in your shoes....your husband and baby. And anyone else you think should get it.
Also, if you go to a CVS in the card section they have these books that you can buy as a gift. Well one i picked up and have been writing in is "a mother remembers". It allows you to chronicle your life up until the point you were pregnant and your pregnancy. I plan on finishing it and putting it in a safe place for the boys to have when they are older. Some examples are 'what is your biggest disappointment in life?, What has been your fondest memory and why. They also have one for the father too.
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| Posted 5/31/06 12:38 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Deb Everyone has such great ideas...do them all if you can and you your muffinman and son can watch them together after all is good....and Lord knows you have this whole board for that outcome
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| Posted 5/31/06 12:42 PM |
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JodiBabe
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Deb,
These are all wonderful ideas! You are a very strong and brave woman to even think to do all of this. I never even thought to do that when I had my brain surgery. My daughter was 15 at the time though.
My prayers are with you.
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| Posted 5/31/06 12:57 PM |
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usuk2004
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
I agree with the video - a little off topic, but my mother recently found a film of her wedding that she didn't know had been taken. Although I had seen tons of pictures of my parents wedding day, nothing prepared me for actually seeing them move and hearing them talk - it gave me such a sense of them as having been young people that I never got from looking at pictures of them.
Best of luck to you.
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| Posted 5/31/06 12:59 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
I like the letters, I think that's great. What about cards for future birthdays and holidays?
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| Posted 5/31/06 1:00 PM |
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ggt08
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
all the above ideas are wonderful... Deb I think you are a strong, amazing woman.. You will be fine... Keep that thought in your head.. :)
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| Posted 5/31/06 1:08 PM |
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suvenR
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
hmm. What about a list of "must dos" that you've done? Places you've visited and stuff like that.
Maybe also a list of "must not dos" too? Places you hated and other stuff like that?
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| Posted 5/31/06 1:11 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Warning...a morbid post
Posted by suvenR
hmm. What about a list of "must dos" that you've done? Places you've visited and stuff like that.
Maybe also a list of "must not dos" too? Places you hated and other stuff like that?
This is a great idea too. I like the idea of maybe on the tape telling your son places you would take him, things you would do with him, etc.
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| Posted 5/31/06 1:15 PM |
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