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Jessica
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Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
My bridal shower is next sunday (not supposed to know but i do )
My mom invited all close family and very close friends around 55 people
half rsvpd no to the answering machine , many with no reason why....
we're not going to even hit minimum of 35 people...i feel so bad i offered my mom to pay for the empty seats..
Here are some lame excuses( all these are close family that we see almost weekly)
My godmother...( i just got a great deal for a trip so im going away)
my aunt.... (oooo i never opened the card and didnt realize the date...I have a hair appt that was really hard to get)
cousin whos coming but complaining( can i bring my boyfriend?!?!)
seriously ive had so much crap happen during this wedding planning that i just broke down now and am crying....
Dont want to put this on LIW bc i have lurkers
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
Jess, I know. 
We should have a party for us.
I could've written this myself.
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| Posted 7/30/07 11:51 PM |
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MissJones
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
I didn't have a bachelorette party or even a girls night out. I was a bit disappointed that nobody did something.
Sounds petty, but oh well.
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| Posted 7/30/07 11:51 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
I know the feeling. No one in JT's family showed up to my baby shower, however, they all had an impromptu barbeque that day together And were not afraid to tell me how much fun they had. People suck. The important ones will be there! I had an intimate bridal shower, about 30 ppl and it was the perfect amount!
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| Posted 7/30/07 11:53 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
wow Jess, i'm so sorry
those so called excuses they're giving are complete and total:
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| Posted 7/30/07 11:55 PM |
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Jessica
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
Posted by Shorty
Jess, I know.
We should have a party for us.
I could've written this myself.
maybe a pity party for 2 on wednesday
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| Posted 7/30/07 11:56 PM |
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alnem
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
awww, dont be sad girly. as long as they send a gift!
just kidding, no matter what happens with all of these dumb old wedding traditions of showers, parties, etc, all that matters in the end is you and your FH. as long as you 2 show up on the big day, the rest of them can kiss off!!!
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| Posted 7/30/07 11:58 PM |
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Shorty
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
Posted by Jessica
Posted by Shorty
Jess, I know.
We should have a party for us.
I could've written this myself.
maybe a pity party for 2 on wednesday
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| Posted 7/30/07 11:59 PM |
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Jessica
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
Posted by alnem
awww, dont be sad girly. as long as they send a gift!
just kidding, no matter what happens with all of these dumb old wedding traditions of showers, parties, etc, all that matters in the end is you and your FH. as long as you 2 show up on the big day, the rest of them can kiss off!!!
nope...none will send a gift...they dont know to do that...
seriously thats all im thinking about...the moments right after the wedding when me and Ant will know all the hoopla is over and we can just be together
but i just feel soo hurt right now, you know...
Im going to right out a check for the people we have under to my mom...She wont accept it but i wont feel right unless i do it.
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| Posted 7/31/07 12:03 AM |
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Phyl
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
OH Jess I'm so sorry these people are getting you down Sometimes people can really suck. I had planned my wedding in 3 months time and asked my little sis to be MOH.We were never really close so I felt that I wanted her included. Well one day she told me to STFU about my stupid wedding!  You will still have an awesome life with Anthony no matter what sweetie. 
Here's a little something for the insensitive
people around you Image Attachment(s):
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| Posted 7/31/07 12:11 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
Jess -
that sucks! I'm sure there were plenty of moment like that for all of us, but my bridal party shielded me from most of the bs.
Try your best to focus on those people that did come and that do adore you. Also the presents! Focus on the presents! Woo Hoo this Sunday you're getting stuff you know you'll like!
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| Posted 7/31/07 6:15 AM |
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rojerono
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
I am sorry you were made to feel so awful when you should be so happy!
I was disappointed more than a few times - in fact none of my IL's (except for 1 SIL who happens to be dating the best man) showed up for my rehearsal dinner. I was going to have it on a Friday - but they wouldn't come that day because DH's nephew had a LITTLE LEAGUE GAME. Not a playoff.. just a regular old game. Clearly Little League is WAAAAY more important than their son's rehearsal dinner. So I re-scheduled to Thursday. They called me MONDAY to tell me they couldn't make it. Because they had a lot of running around to do for the wedding.
As pizzed and sad as I was.. it was fine. My day of was beautiful. I took it as a lesson learned. Those who care are there. And really - aren't they the ones you WANT there?
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| Posted 7/31/07 6:47 AM |
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
I'm sure a lot of us here know the feeling. It's hard, but try and not let it get to you. After your wedding is over, you may realize that it was silly to get upset over these kinds of things.
Your wedding day will be perfect no matter who is there!
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| Posted 7/31/07 8:00 AM |
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
 I know how you feel. My close cousin didn't come to my wedding and never gave a reason! People suck and they really show their true colors during the wedding process.
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| Posted 7/31/07 8:01 AM |
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mikeswife06
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
I think a wedding is the biggest thing that shows you people's true colors and feelings about you and sometimes it's good and unfortunately sometimes it's bad.
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| Posted 7/31/07 8:02 AM |
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mikeswife06
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
A hair appt?
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| Posted 7/31/07 8:04 AM |
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Kara
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
I'm sorry.
If it makes you feel any better, neither of my FH's sisters came to my bridal shower - both are bridesmaids. One never even RSVP'd. To top if off, they never called or emailed to ask how it was, never sent a gift or even a card.
When they got the RD invite, their MOTHER called to RSVP for them. They are in their 30s - one is married.
People are just rude.
The good news is that, even though there were fewer people than planned at the shower, it was AMAZING. Focus on the people who WILL be there, not the ones who can't make it. They're not worth wasting the energy.
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| Posted 7/31/07 8:16 AM |
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baghag
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
I think we've all been there at some point during wedding planning.
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| Posted 7/31/07 8:19 AM |
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charon54
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
I felt the same way about my bridal shower. They planned it a week before all my family was going to be in NY for my grandma's b-day, so none of the family came. I could not understand why. I found out later it was because the best man's fiance was having her bachelorette party that weekend and they didn't want to conflict. I wasn't invited anyway to her bachelorette (which was just wrong, because DH is her husband's best friend). The MOH was also supposed to be up the next weekend and up to 3 days before wasn't even coming to the shower, until I called my mom crying because I found out and I was annoyed. My mom offered to pay for her plane ticket.
Plus, they had it at a restaurant that I wasn't crazy about. I know that they didn't have a lot of money and I appreciate the work. I just wish that my family could have been there.
And don't even get me started on the dress selection or the hassle they gave me on my wedding day.
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| Posted 7/31/07 8:31 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
oh boy - and oh yes! you really do find out a lot about people while planning a wedding!
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| Posted 7/31/07 8:32 AM |
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bklyngirl
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
i'm sorry jess its there loss. the people that want to help you celebrate your special day will be there.
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Blu-ize
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
Jess, call the place before you write the check. Maybe they'll be understanding about the rsvps..
So sorry..I know what you mean. I had people come to my shower and bring other people that I never met.
What is this a free for all?
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| Posted 7/31/07 8:48 AM |
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Kara
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
Posted by Blu-ize
Jess, call the place before you write the check. Maybe they'll be understanding about the rsvps..
Agreed - we told our RH well in advance we weren't making the minimum for our wedding. They let us count every 2 vendors as one toward the minimum (pays to have a 10 piece band, 2 photographers, and an assistant!!) -- with that, we were only 5 under, so they are letting us pay for what we have. Maybe if you're not too far under they'll understand.
Good luck and it'll still be fun! I promise!
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| Posted 7/31/07 8:51 AM |
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MrsPowers
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
I am so sorry to hear that. Personally I think those excuses are pretty lame. I know the summer is hard but people should have known to block out the date.
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| Posted 7/31/07 8:55 AM |
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J9-13
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Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?
I know its a very stressful time that can bring out a lot of emotions but try not to let it ruin your special time.
My poor mom had a hard time finding a place to have my shower because they wanted a guarantee of 50 people and she only had 30 coming. When I was surprised with my shower, all I saw were the faces of people who were there for me and only me!! They wanted to be there and I had so much fun!!! For those who didn't come, they missed one hell of a party!!!
Hang in there and try to enjoy this wonderful time in your life
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