Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

I know it is hard but you have to think about all the people who care enough to be there.

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

I can't tell you how many of us went through this...you're not the first and not the last...for some strange reason this happens to a lot of brides. Just try to think about the fact that everyone has different things going on in their lives...thats what kept me going.

I was disappointed by a lot of people and let me tell you, I don't forget...I let it go, but I didn't forget...just think about the people that ARE going to be there for you and with you on that day...they really care about you and want you to be happy

Message edited 7/31/2007 9:42:39 AM.

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

Try your best to ignore it. They are missing out, not you. Think about all the people who are coming and enjoy the day with them.

I had my fair share of drama before my wedding. I did a very good job at ignoring it. I think I might've gone nutty if I hadn't.

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

Yep. I didn't have my mom around and was let down by a couple of people I was counting on. However, the people who really care about you will be there. I remember very well the people who went out of their way for me and will always be grateful.

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

Two of my aunts really sucked but that was about it! They did nothing at the shower and sat at the bar the whole time and never offered to help with a thing! That was the extent of my dissapointment though

Message edited 7/31/2007 2:05:43 PM.

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

the time during wedding planning and even for a time after my wedding was one of the worst times of my entire life (and I've had some pretty sucky times, so that is impressive in itself)

I'll be quite honest and say that it is very difficult for me to look upon these times and the days leading up to my wedding day fondly.

But I am willing to hazard a guess (actually with all of my being I hope and pray) that you will not have to experience everything that I did.

that being said, even with all the disappointments and hurt....I am ok today. I am happy. some of the people that were less than kind to me cannot say the same thing.

even though a lot of people did not come to my shower, pulled out of the bachelorette party (or caused drama) dropped out of my wedding party and everything else...they are no happier today than they were then...and I am.

so who wins?

I won't tell you not to let it bother you, b/c it will. I won't tell you that people can really $uck sometimes, b/c you know that already.

what I will tell you is that it gets WAYYYYY better. and a BIG part of that is what you take from the experience. now YOU know the hands that people are holding...you know the game that they play...and now you know who you really loves you.

feel better babydoll.

and P.S. my wedding day totally rocked. I have NEVER EVER felt happier in my entire life. I had so much fun!!!!!

Message edited 7/13/2009 2:35:16 PM.

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

There were a few things that annoyed me, but I chose to put it away in a separate place in my mind. There was no way I was going to dwell on rude things that other people did to me and have my day ruined. You can not let outside things control how you feel. There are just too many people or events that can go astray. Let it go, then get mad after you've had a great time.

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

Those are some crappy excuses that people are giving you...

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

Unfortunately, I think you'd be hard pressed to find anyone who WASN'T disappointed in the process.

You are almost there. And as much as people will p1ss you off/bother you/upset you now, know that your day is going to be spectacular.

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

It wasn't my bridal shower that caused problems for me, it was my hall.

I am bound and gagged from saying anything further, but let's just say that my wedding was almost cancelled by those bastards, and 5 weeks till my wedding I was left to scrounge for a possible new hall.

Thankfully it didn't come to that but the stress of the whole thing left a slight twinge of pure unadulterated contempt for the place I got married.

Don't get me wrong, my wedding was far and away the most amazing day, but I will never forget what those a$$holes did to me, and I will spend every minute I can making sure to tell everyone never to go there.

Enough of that, just remember the people who ARE there and those that DO care, they are what make your wedding unforgettable. You will see in hindsight those who really love and care about you, a wedding always brings this topic to the surface.

Have an amazing shower and wedding day!!!!

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

There were a lot "no" RSVPs for rmy shower also, mostly from family. Two of my three aunts did not come, they didn't even have excuses. They just didn't feel like coming.
But my shower was still beautiful, and although I was disappointed by those two aunts, there was nothing I could do about it.

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

thank you all for making me feel less abnormal

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

I am sooooo sorry you are going through this. It sux sometimes. I had the same issues for my baby shower because it was the summer....but honestly in the end the only people that mattered were there and they certainly showered me...

This is why I hate big shindigs sometime, because so many people don't get it. They are being asked to spend a special day with YOU, and it isn't about them.

You have a good core thought though that many bride-to-bes don't think about, your marriage AFTER the hoopla...

That's what got me through my dress drama, my flower issue, and my crazy ILs and the reason I had an awesome time the day of my wedding...because with or without all my place settings, I had an amazing husband

Message edited 7/31/2007 9:32:04 PM.

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

Here are just a few of the reasons why I say that I'll never EVER get married again. In my next life, I'll meet my dh and we'll elope.


Two bridesmaids backed out (one being my SIL).

My junior bridesmaid (niece - SIL's daughter had a play that she was in, and backed out about a month before)

My ringbearer (nephew - SIL's son) was pulled out because "he won't walk down the aisle without his sister (the jr bridesmaid) there".

The day of my bridal shower was one of the major storms in Dec '03 and less than half of the people showed.

My "best friend"/MOH "slept through" my shower.

The girl with whom I went in halfs on the pew bows - a family member of hers "helped her out" by taking down all the pew bows and I walked down the aisle with bare aisles (my wedding was right after hers and I met her in PreCana).

My flowers almost didn't show to the church - they were putting them in place on the alter while I was in the back waiting to walk down the aisle.

The second limo to the church got stuck in traffic and we started our ceremony 10 minutes late - people probably thought I jetted.

The list GOES ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LUCKILY I was not a bridezilla and I was too nervous to be my usual b!tch of a self when things went wrong. I was mostly numb to things going wrong around me.

Message edited 7/31/2007 9:22:24 PM.

Re: Was anyone ever been disappointed or let down during their wedding process?

Aw, I'll come to your shower, Jess