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hazeleyes33
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Wedding Gift-Last Minute
My dh and I were just invited to a wedding that is in 2 weeks. I have not had a chance to save for it and don't have much disposable income at this time.
I know you should give what you can afford but I really need to know how much is TOO little.
The wedding is at Villa Lombardis.
Thanks :)
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Posted 11/6/09 10:31 AM  |
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blu6385
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
IMO - i think you should alway give a min. of 75 per person
Message edited 11/6/2009 10:37:59 AM.
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| Posted 11/6/09 10:37 AM |
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BunnyWife
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
I don't think there is such a thing as too little.
Weddings are not fundraisers. The couple wants you too be there to celebrate their day, not just for a gift (I hope!).
Give what you can afford or buy something nice off the registry.
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| Posted 11/6/09 10:40 AM |
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vicky1125
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
Posted by BunnyWife
I don't think there is such a thing as too little.
Weddings are not fundraisers. The couple wants you too be there to celebrate their day, not just for a gift (I hope!).
Give what you can afford or buy something nice off the registry.
ita! my SIL's childhood friend came to our wedding, i didnt know her from a hole in the wall and DH hadnt seen her since childhood (her mother also came cause she was watching DH's niece after she went to sleep) and they got us a really nice vase (not off the registry since we didnt have one) and i love it!
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| Posted 11/6/09 10:46 AM |
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
Posted by BunnyWife
I don't think there is such a thing as too little.
Weddings are not fundraisers. The couple wants you too be there to celebrate their day, not just for a gift (I hope!).
Give what you can afford or buy something nice off the registry.
I totally agree with this but many people don't, it's pretty sad. Didn't you learn from the 7 page threads on LIW  .
You don't have to give a gift the day of. If it's not in the budget wait until it is and mail them another card with a cheque when you can.
Message edited 11/6/2009 10:57:39 AM.
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| Posted 11/6/09 10:57 AM |
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MrsList
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
You were JUST invited and the wedding is in 2 weeks? I would decline the invite actually. Unless the invite got lost, being invited THAT last minute to a wedding usually means you were on the D-list and if you can't afford it, then I just wouldn't go.
Otherwise I would just send something off of their registry for $100.
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| Posted 11/6/09 11:32 AM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
Posted by MrsList
You were JUST invited and the wedding is in 2 weeks? I would decline the invite actually. Unless the invite got lost, being invited THAT last minute to a wedding usually means you were on the D-list and if you can't afford it, then I just wouldn't go.
Otherwise I would just send something off of their registry for $100.
Actually, they were originally able to get one room in the catering hall and had to cut people out. Now they were able to get the entire hall and invite everyone they wanted to when they were planning the wedding.
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| Posted 11/6/09 11:35 AM |
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
Check out Boscov's or Macy's online - they both have some great sales on cookware, knifes, linens...maybe you can get a bargin on a gift and make it look like you spent more then you did.
Not sure what the reason for the late invite is but people aren't made of money these days.
ITA w/ PP - weddings aren't fundraisers. Give what you can.
Just a thought: If you don't feel like you can "give enough", decline the invite to the wedding?
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| Posted 11/6/09 11:41 AM |
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dpli
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
I don't care when I get invited to something. If it's something I would like to go to, I go. You know why you got a late invite, but in general, there could be lots of reasons one might get a late invite, I don't take it personally.
As for the gift, I also don't think any gift is too small. Give what you can. If you want to give a gift later, bring a card and give something later. I invited people to share my day, not cover my costs, but as mentioned earlier, not everyone feels that way.
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| Posted 11/6/09 11:46 AM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
Just a thought: If you don't feel like you can "give enough", decline the invite to the wedding?
I haven't been to a "real" wedding in over 7 yrs. so not sure what is "enough" to give and what I would have would look like I should have just stayed home-lol!
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| Posted 11/6/09 11:46 AM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
Posted by dpli
I don't care when I get invited to something. If it's something I would like to go to, I go. You know why you got a late invite, but in general, there could be lots of reasons one might get a late invite, I don't take it personally.
As for the gift, I also don't think any gift is too small. Give what you can. If you want to give a gift later, bring a card and give something later. I invited people to share my day, not cover my costs, but as mentioned earlier, not everyone feels that way.
Thanks.
I felt the same way when I got married and this couple is NOT like that either so that is why I immediately considered going.
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| Posted 11/6/09 11:48 AM |
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Jenn627
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
I agree w/ give what you can afford - but to specifically answer your question - for two people I think the B&G may think $100 is "too little" - I think $150 would be perfect if you can swing it.
This is not my opinion - this is picking up bits and pieces of information from LIW and my family members.
FYI - there's a woman in East Islip (if you're on LI) that does framed wedding invitations with pressed flowers. It's really, really beautiful and it costs around $70. I think that's a better, more heartfelt gift than money.
Let me know if you want her information - there's no website or anything and I don't have a picture but trust me - it's beautiful. She has a pretty quick turn-around time too.
eta: A crappy pic... between the window and the door we have our framed invite hanging - you can kind of see it... I LOVE it. It was a gift from a friend and now I get them as gifts for everyone I know.
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| Posted 11/6/09 11:53 AM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
Posted by Jenn627
I agree w/ give what you can afford - but to specifically answer your question - for two people I think the B&G may think $100 is "too little" - I think $150 would be perfect if you can swing it.
This is not my opinion - this is picking up bits and pieces of information from LIW and my family members.
FYI - there's a woman in East Islip (if you're on LI) that does framed wedding invitations with pressed flowers. It's really, really beautiful and it costs around $70. I think that's a better, more heartfelt gift than money.
Let me know if you want her information - there's no website or anything and I don't have a picture but trust me - it's beautiful. She has a pretty quick turn-around time too.
Thanks so much :)
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| Posted 11/6/09 11:54 AM |
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| Posted 11/6/09 12:00 PM |
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
Posted by hazeleyes33
Just a thought: If you don't feel like you can "give enough", decline the invite to the wedding?
I haven't been to a "real" wedding in over 7 yrs. so not sure what is "enough" to give and what I would have would look like I should have just stayed home-lol!
I think as minimum of 100 for the couple is okay
I personally would not give less than that but you can also send a gift later, just bring a card to the wedding
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| Posted 11/6/09 12:34 PM |
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MrsH2009
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
We had a last minute cancellation, and rather than waste the food, my dad invited a coworker. The guy knew it was just a last minute thing no big deal. We obviously expected no gift. During the wedding, he took many pictures and then gave us a beautiful album of pictures after the wedding.
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| Posted 11/6/09 1:00 PM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
Posted by MrsH2009
We had a last minute cancellation, and rather than waste the food, my dad invited a coworker. The guy knew it was just a last minute thing no big deal. We obviously expected no gift. During the wedding, he took many pictures and then gave us a beautiful album of pictures after the wedding.
Very nice :)
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| Posted 11/6/09 1:34 PM |
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EsquireFish
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
From couples, we received anything from 100-300. It depended on our relationship with them and their financial security at the time.
You can also give them a giftcard to the place they are registered -- DH and I loved our BBB giftcards, because we were able to get a lot of stuff after the wedding and we didn't have to worry about the cost.
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| Posted 11/6/09 1:50 PM |
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CCMommy
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
What about a gift certificate to the website..
thefamilyplaque.com
They have some great stuff and with a $100 g/c they could get themselves something really sentimental 
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| Posted 11/6/09 1:55 PM |
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CCMommy
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
Posted by CCMommy
What about a gift certificate to the website..
thefamilyplaque.com
They have some great stuff and with a $100 g/c they could get themselves something really sentimental
or you could just order one for them if you have enough time.. 
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| Posted 11/6/09 1:57 PM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
Posted by EsquireFish
From couples, we received anything from 100-300. It depended on our relationship with them and their financial security at the time.
You can also give them a giftcard to the place they are registered -- DH and I loved our BBB giftcards, because we were able to get a lot of stuff after the wedding and we didn't have to worry about the cost.
Thanks so much, great idea :)
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| Posted 11/6/09 2:03 PM |
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Lillykat
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
There is no minimum - you give what you can afford to give. If the couple is that shallow that they will care what you gave then they should rethink what a wedding is about. I believe as long as you put effort or thought into the gift and you don't go empty handed they should understand if you are tight on finances. If you are uncomfortable with a dollar amount why not give something off their registry or a nice picture frame maybe with a special picture of the couple in the beginning of their relationship or at something that is important to them. If the couple invited you b.c they wanted you there I would hope they didn't invite you just for your check, so I wouldn't worry about not going if you can't afford to give $200 or 300.
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| Posted 11/6/09 2:22 PM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
Posted by Lillykat
There is no minimum - you give what you can afford to give. If the couple is that shallow that they will care what you gave then they should rethink what a wedding is about. I believe as long as you put effort or thought into the gift and you don't go empty handed they should understand if you are tight on finances. If you are uncomfortable with a dollar amount why not give something off their registry or a nice picture frame maybe with a special picture of the couple in the beginning of their relationship or at something that is important to them. If the couple invited you b.c they wanted you there I would hope they didn't invite you just for your check, so I wouldn't worry about not going if you can't afford to give $200 or 300.
Thanks so much and like I have said before I KNOW they are not like this AT ALL.
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| Posted 11/6/09 2:32 PM |
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Aries14
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
While I agree that you have to give only what you could afford, I *personally* wouldn't give less than $200 for me and DH. I think that would be the lowest I would go.
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| Posted 11/6/09 3:28 PM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Wedding Gift-Last Minute
Thanks everyone for your responses, I really appreciate them :)
I am thinking that I might buy something off of their registry so I can get something they really want.
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| Posted 11/6/09 3:36 PM |
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