Wedding Stress Poll

I know alot of people speak about wedding stress. I always thought it was so silly- how can a party be THAT stressful?
Well, I lost 10 lbs over the stress alone. I was actually sick to my stomach from all the demands from both sides. I had no idea how bad it could be.

So I am curious- how was your experience, in relation to the others that went before you?

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The planning itself to me was cake. I worked in event planning, so coordinating and everything was fine. I did lose 10 lbs, but it was more like "Whoa! I'm getting married! I'm never going to kiss another guy EVER!" It was the biggest decision I ever made, and the enormity of it was stressful. Not doubts, just knowing my life was going to be completely different from then on.

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I didnt vote because while i wasnt completely stress free, it definitely was not as stressful as people told me it would be.

I think what added to the stress for me was that we bought and renovated a house and sold two condos in the 6 months leading up to the wedding.

I was only engaged for 9 months. I think longer engagements are more stressful because you have time to sit and dwell over every decision.

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The planning was a piece of cake and we planned it in a realitively short time. My stress was from both sides of the family. Actually 3 sides of the family since my parents are divorced.

I look back now though of course, and just laugh that I got worked up over seemingly silly things.

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We really had no stress over the wedding planning itself ... we were older, planned and paid for it on our own so answered only to ourselves.

We had some stressful events during our engagement (MIL and SIL both became ill and passed away).


We did have one issue with the DJ before the wedding and I think I may have made a bigger deal of it than necessary because there was nothing else to be stressing about!!

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It was pretty much as stressful as people described to me

towards the end, like 2 or 3 months before the wedding, THAT is when it all kicked in thanks dear MIL, for keeping the drama and stress flowing and thanks mom & sisters - clueless I tell ya! just CLUELESS!

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my wedding planning was fun- I loved every minute of it

I would do it all over again- if my Dad would let me

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I had some stress, but most of it was due to people not following through on things they said they would do. And I am talking about people close to me, not vendors or those providing services for the wedding.

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For me it was stressful because I wanted everything to be perfect. I was basically stressing over every little detail and aspect of the wedding. I came to realize that there is no such thing as a perfect wedding because there will always be a mishap.

ETA: Planning my wedding was fun also but at the same time I was the one stressing myself out for nothing at all.

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because we were on a tight budget that we then doubled , I was stressed beyond belief. It was awful and I said a million times after. I should have scaled it all down, it wasnt worth it in the end. I loved my wedding, but I didnt love the unneeded stress trying to make every last detail "perfect".

Afterwards I did get a lot of comments on all the personal touches and many people said it was the most personalized wedding they had been to in a while, yet I was so overwhelmed from stress I coudlnt even appreciate the comments.

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I didn't vote - while I had stressful moments (my dress was a hallow to hem and it came in 2 inches TOO SHORT ; I found a lump in my breast; the whole "church thing" was a sore spot) it was overall a really enjoyable experience. I had fun planning and I missed it when it was over.

I treated it like a party and not a "wedding" and I think, for me, that helped. Plus it was all on our dime - there was no unsolicited input/advice (save for the "church ting) from anyone else but us.

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Mine was stressful b/c it was planned in less than 6 months and everything was a rush...

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I thought the last 2 weeks right before the wedding were the most stressful. Everything had to be done in that time. Payment to vendors, last minute things, etc.

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I wouldn't say zero stress, but much less stress than I ever thought it would be. I did it over a long time, so it wasn't so bad.

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It was both more and less stressful than I was told.

More: My family situation was changing, sister leaving for college, brother moved to Phoenix, and it made the planning a little lonely. We had some guest issues in the last few months and the week before the wedding I had a crazy panic attack and tried to convince DH to elope.

Less: I had no idea I'd find LIW and all the girls, who were the best honorary bridesmaids ever. No one understands wedding stress better than another bride.

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I was pretty much stress free until the last month before the wedding. Then things got a little crazy, but not nearly as bad as everyone said it would be. I just chose to ignore everyone's requests and "friendly advice".

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I'm somewhere between zero wedding stress and it being exactly as stressful as people said it would be.

I had stress, but I dealt with it pretty easily with the help of my DH. There were things that bothered me, but nothing that drove me nuts.

Although it wasn't as bad as some people made it out to be. I think that's b/c we were very organized with our planning and DH and I did a lot together. We made all of the major decisions together and we really didn't clash on much.

The one thing I stressed about, that in hindsight I wish I didn't, was my hair. I had three hair trials and spent a fortune, only to wear my veil the whole day and no one really saw my hair anyway.

I too lost about 10 pounds right before the wedding. It wasn't stressed out (actually pretty calm right before the wedding), but my mind was constantly trying to keep track of all the things I needed to do. The weight just came off...which resulted in my dress being a little to big on me.

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I was not stressed at all (had a 2 year engagement). Nothing really bothered me b/c I truely felt that all the little things didn't matter. I was getting married and that was the important part! Also, my sister (MOH) was incredibly helpful! And our families kinda stayed out of it. Except DH's family gave me a little stress about ridiculous stuff but I kinda blew them off Overall, I was a VERY calm bride. It was nice!

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I don't know if it was more or less, but it was different.

It wasn't my family stressing me out, it was just time issues, mostly , b/c I lived an hour away from where I got married & I felt like we spent every weekend in the car.

And honestly, LIW stressed em out a little, b/c some girls had such long engagements, they made me feel like I was was so far behind.
( not intentionally)

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what stressed me out was how important every little detail seemed to be ... like the type of font that made his first initial "G" and my first initial "L" readable ... I am still shocked at how hard that was That stupid stuff stressed me out.

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The actual planning of the wedding wasn't stressful because I knew exactly what I wanted. The stress came from buying a house at the exact same time. Trying to get the money together for the house - and planning a wedding was enough to send me over the edge at times. We pretty much calculated money every night to make sure we had enough.

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I didnt find it stressful at all. It was so much fun - I wish I could do it again. BUT I do see how it could be stressful for people who are not organized, indecisive, had budget worries and family drama. I was lucky enough not to have any of that, so it was a great experience.

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I have to say is was stressful since I did 99% of the planning myself. Plus I had people not respect my wishes.