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There were moments of stress surrounding specific issues (i.e. children at the wedding), but overall, I was more stressed out with grad school than with actual wedding planning. I also planned over a 2 year period, so I was able to spread things out.

That said, for 8 months before my wedding I had chronic hives of unknown cause. I'm convinced that they were due to stress that my mind wasn't letting me process.

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All the stress I had, was what I put on myself. It was purely financial as Al and I were paying for the entire thing.
Every day, I would call him in a panic and say, "There is NO WAY we can afford this. We HAVE to call it off"
And every day he would talk me down from ledge.
I think because we were financing it completely ourselves, our parents backed off. So that type of family stress wasn't really that bad. Other than the ususal "You have to invite so and so".

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The planning part was easy - the demands from both sides of the families (mostly his) and the realization that DH was going to my last everything ever stressed me out more than I could have ever imagined.

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I chose the last one.

A yr before my wedding my friend was getting married. She told me how stressed she was, but I NEVER thought it would be so stressful until I was planning my own wedding.

Some of the times were fun but most of the time it was pure STRESS. Dh and I fought soo much!
When it came down to a week before my wedding, I honestly could not wait for it to be over already.
Don't get me wrong, it was all worth it. My Wedding day was AMAZING!!!

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I enjoyed the entire process really well with little stress mainly because DH did everything with me--came to all the appointments, helped me, etc.

The most stressful part was doing the seating. I did break down and cry because random people were making crazy demands and I lost it.

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My wedding planning was completely
stress-free. I enjoyed every minute of it
and wish I could do it all over again.

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I didn't have much stress with my wedding because I knew exactly what I wanted after watching friends & family go through in just months before us. When planning, we took things in stride & knew that we had the FINAL decision as we were paying for the entire thing.

From the day we got engaged, we opened a "wedding fund" where all our savings went to that. We set a budget & stuck to it. By the time 2005 came & all the planning was done, we had the money sitting there ready to go! That helped with the money stress. Plus we bought a house 7 months before the wedding.

If there was any stress at all, it was the week of the wedding bc I got the flu!!! I didnt' know how the heck I was going to get through my wedding considering I could not get out of the bathroom!

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I had some, but it wasn't as bad as I expected. It was nowhere near as stressful as work or even driving is sometimes. My only stress were the ILs

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I didnt stress AT ALL during wedding planning. I knew the time would fly by and i wasnt going to waste it by being a bridezilla b*tch

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DH and I planned and paid for every single thing ourselves. I was hardly stressed. Actually, we had a lot of fun and feel that it actually brought us closer, showing us that we could work together very well as a team.

The only thing that stressed me out about my wedding were people that responded YES then didn't show up. I guess people don't stop to think that we paid for them and then that money went down the drain.

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It was so stressful in certain situations, I had a BM who wanted everything but my own blood, a guest list that was but other than that, it wasnt too bad. And now, over a year later... I would do it all over again.

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It was super stressful for me and to be honest, I would not do it over again - ever. I am glad I did it because I would honestly probably always regret it if I hadn't but...

I am really critical of myself and constantly strive for perfection and drove myself CRAZY.

The stress I put on myself coupled w/ the fact that DH did NOT want a big wedding nearly put me over the edge (we did have a relatively large wedding - invited about 250 ppl). He basically stayed out of the wedding planning (w/ the exception of 1 crazy demand about the band which drove me nuts) because "I" was the one who wanted this "big" wedding.

ETA: I also had a VERY stressful job at the time and was building a house.

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My only stress was the invite list. Everything else was smooth sailing.

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I had honestly no stress at all. Even with our reception hall bailing with our money 6 weeks before the wedding.. it all worked out though.

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You know ive only been engaged a couple of months. So as of now, booking vendors and searching online has been fun.

Ive only had one stressful moment. And that was my mother and grandmother tring to force me to have a specific cousin in the bridal party. I stood my ground and that was that.

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There were stressful moments in the planning process, but nothing too overwheliming. For me, planning my weddng was a labor of love. I really enjoyed it and being on top of every detail.

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I had NO STRESS at all-

But I got married in the Justice of Peace- and did dinner with the family only-

My fancy "wedding" which is really a renewal of vows- is next week on the sandy beaches of Jamaica-

Just me, my honey and our little boy- It couldnt be more perfect anyother way- (well it would be a little more perfect- if we were able to get all our deposits back from vendors, for when we were planning our BIG LI wedding... but hey I cant have everything- right?)

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I felt no stress whatsoever.
AND, at the time, I was:
Buying my House
Starting my teaching career
Writing my thesis
Going to Grad school
and
Planning the wedding.

I was young (24) and really didn't obsess over things like I do now.

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I can happilly say that I had no wedding stress at all But everyone would keep coming up to me asking why I was so calm even up till the time I walked down the aisle, I was calm as ever. I did not let anything stress me out, I had loads of fun with wedding planning!

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The planning of the wedding was a lot of fun and I didn't take it all that seriously so as to get stressed out by it...
Some of the guests stressed me out a little... Like an inlaw cousin who refused to come because we didn't invite his stepchildren. Ummm, I did not have a single child at my wedding under the age of 18, not even a flower girl. So it had nothing to do with them being his step-children. Some people have serious issues but that's their problem...

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Wedding planning was time consuming but a lot of fun! I would love to plan another big party.

My big problem during wedding planning was MIL. She wanted us to live out her dream and took an attitude if we didn't want things that way. She threw a fit about the wording of the invitations because it originally had DH listed as son of Mr. and Mrs. and she thought that both sets of parents should be at the top. My parents paid and DH actually wanted them on the top, but his mom made such a big stink and cried and finally my mom gave in.
DH also was stressed because he had to work on VISA applications for his relatives to come from Poland instead of his parents taking care of it.

So wedding planning was easy, IL's were the stressful part.

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The only stress that I had was my brother telling me that he might not come to the wedding because he doesn't like DH and he didn't want to be a hypocrite like the rest of my family and show up. Not only did he show up, but he ignored us the whole day. I am just thankful that his kids were there.

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i had stress, but not so bad. i think i'm with the majority when i say my il's gave me the most stress. we didn't want to invite my bils' whore of a gf, and my fil gave me drama b/c of it. in the end he was invited with guest, and yes she came.

my mil pretty much fought me on the limos and tuxes. she had to have a limo for her, whatever. she got a ride home at the end of the night and that made her happy. she still says "well MY limo." get over it. as far as the tuxes, she wanted my fil to match her dress. eggplant. we said no, and she made a face and would not let it go. the dads both wore black, how are you going to have one match his wifre and not the other? and my mom wore olive, so black matched both. plus, its not the junior high prom.

we had some quest list drama, again my il's wanted us to invite people that we didn't like, we said no and that was that. but my mil did try to invite the woman to my shower. behind my back, but that is another story. we invited almost 200 people and wound up with 149 at the wedding.

so yes there was stress, but not all day every day and i had a BLAST on my wedding day!