What do you think about inviting only part of the class?

DH still wants to have a joint birthday party and I'm fine with it. I booked the entertainer and time slot already for our home. Now that both DS#1 and DS#2 are in preschool, it is just way too many people. I did a quick guest list and I have over 50 kids not including siblings if we invite the entire class. Last year, we invited around 40 and I was shocked that almost everyone came. Many had baby siblings last year who are now walking toddlers. I have always welcomed siblings in the past but we just don't have the room.

We know about 5 kids (3 girls and 2 boys) in DS#1's class pretty well. We hang out outside of school. 2 of the moms are neighbors. Then there are about 3-4 kids that we don't know but DS talks about frequently that I would like to invite.

It is terrible to invite only half the class?
Would you feel bad if you were not invited?

I know when kids get older, it is ok to invite all the boys or all the girls. I would feel horrible if some families found out we did not invite them because we say hi/bye to them and have seen them at other parties. I have absolutely nothing against them. It's just we do not have the space for them.

What do you think about inviting only part of the class?

Are you thinking about inviting both DS #1 and DS #2's classes? I would just not invite anyone from DS #2 class and invite all of DS #1.

My DD is going to be 2 in March and I wouldn't even think to invite anyone from her daycare. I think once she is older and starts talking about friends and we do play dates with kids from school then I will invite them.

What do you think about inviting only part of the class?

Well our school won't allow it. You invite the whole class or not at all. If you want to invite half you have to do it outside of school on your own time.

I would feel slighted on behalf of AJ if she wasn't invited to a party. I don't go to all of them but its a courtsey to be invited. She's 4. At 1-2yrs old, no I wouldn't have felt that bad. But 3 & 4 they 'get it' and it would have made me mad that she missed out. JMHO

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I think it's fine. Send the invites outside of school though. I only invited the girls to a recent party we had. Even then, not all of them were invited since some of the parents chose to not include their contact information on the class list. I recently went to a party and only a few of the kids from the class were invited. Parties are expensive, so I think most parents understand.

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I think the only way I wouldn't feel bad about being left out is if you did a boys only party. Otherwise I think you have to invite the whole class unfortunately.

What do you think about inviting only part of the class?

then maybe just do the 2 closest friends and make sure to invite them outside of the school. if i found out there was a party but only 2 kids from the class were invited, i may not feel so bad and chalk it up to the idea that the parent invited the 2 closest friends.
- that is why i was saying to just do separate parties. it sounds like too many people but if you cut down on the invites for ds#2, then it might not be so bad.

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