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jes81276
summer fun!
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Jaime
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what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
Dh and I used to give $300
but we haven't been to a wedding in over a year...is this still okay to give?
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Posted 7/15/10 5:38 PM  |
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I love Gary too..on a plate!
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
I think it's a good present!
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| Posted 7/15/10 5:44 PM |
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BunnyWife
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
That's a great present!
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| Posted 7/15/10 5:46 PM |
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LadyBug1209
Mommy to FOUR little men!
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
Yes. $150 per person is a great gift!!
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| Posted 7/15/10 5:50 PM |
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pinkandblue
Our family is complete, maybe
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
more than enough, IMHO
I got that from bridesmaids and family for my wedding
friends gave between 150-200 
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| Posted 7/15/10 6:01 PM |
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eddiesmommy
best buds!
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Melissa
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
On average I give $200-$250, more if its close family or a best friend.
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| Posted 7/15/10 6:23 PM |
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BaroqueMama
Chase is one!
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me
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
That's what I give to friends. Family I double that or more if I can afford to.
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| Posted 7/15/10 7:35 PM |
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CunningOne
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
Posted by prncsslehcar
That's what I give to friends. Family I double that or more if I can afford to.
same. Family gets more usually.
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| Posted 7/15/10 7:40 PM |
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CAMCaps
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
Posted by eddiesmommy
On average I give $200-$250, more if its close family or a best friend.
Same here.
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| Posted 7/15/10 7:45 PM |
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kris01
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Kris
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
$300 is perfect!
DH & I usually give $250-$300 depending on how well we know the bride and groom. Close friends and family we usually give $500 and up.
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| Posted 7/15/10 9:25 PM |
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sunnyplus3
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
We always give an amount that relates to how close we feel to the couple, not the level of glamour at their affair.
Within a few months we gave the same amount to "friends" that had a huge $$$ reception as we gave to REALLY GOOD friends that had 40 people over their house for dinner after their ceremony.
I think your amount sounds very generous.
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| Posted 7/15/10 9:28 PM |
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GottaHaveFaith
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Kelly
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
I think that's good...we usually give $300-$350 as standard, and more if it's CLOSE friends or family! But generally, I think that's a nice amount, and remember, it's what you can afford! Don't worry about what the "going rate" is...go with what you are comfortable with!
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| Posted 7/15/10 9:47 PM |
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christinec2010
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Member since 10/09 637 total posts
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Christine
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
In my circle of friends we give what we got.
So when our friend got married in 2007, DH & I where both in college & only working part time. We gave $250. Three years later, they gave us $250.
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| Posted 7/16/10 9:33 AM |
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Blu-ize
Plan B is Now Plan A
Member since 7/05 32475 total posts
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Susan
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
Give what you can afford and base it on the relationship.
I think $300 is a nice gift.
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| Posted 7/16/10 9:35 AM |
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photoshopbabe
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linda
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
Since I was basically the first one of my friends to get married, I based it on what they gave me. Most friends gave $200.00 per couple.
If there was new friends who DIDNT come to my wedding, I give $300 or so.
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| Posted 7/16/10 10:09 AM |
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MaZz
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
Posted by photoshopbabe
Since I was basically the first one of my friends to get married, I based it on what they gave me. Most friends gave $200.00 per couple.
If there was new friends who DIDNT come to my wedding, I give $300 or so.
With my wedding, I was kind of  with friends who gave $200 when they came with a guest... Yes, of course its not all about money... but I always think of aprox $100 towards each plate and then a "gift" on top... I personally have always gone to weddings and given $300 for friends, $400+ for family... And we by no means have that "extra" to give... but we do it regardless bc thats what we feel is right...
PS: DH and I were one of the first to get married as well so I get to now go by what they gave us... With 3 friend weddings this yr, we're lucking out with the $200 gifts back to them 
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| Posted 7/16/10 10:16 AM |
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Nifheim
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Jennifer
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
i have to admit its $100 per person for me but that is what we can afford. Sometimes i give a bit extra if I have it for close people i give more.
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| Posted 7/16/10 10:27 AM |
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melbalalala
Little Lady
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
Posted by MaZz
With my wedding, I was kind of with friends who gave $200 when they came with a guest... Yes, of course its not all about money... but I always think of aprox $100 towards each plate and then a "gift" on top...
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| Posted 7/16/10 1:38 PM |
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MaZz
* Lovin my baby girl!!! *
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Gina
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
Posted by melbalalala
Posted by MaZz
With my wedding, I was kind of with friends who gave $200 when they came with a guest... Yes, of course its not all about money... but I always think of aprox $100 towards each plate and then a "gift" on top...
Im not complaining believe me... I had immediate family give even less (not going to open up that can of worms), but I guess we're just a bit more generous with the wedding gifts than others... We also end up tipping well so I guess its just what im used to...
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| Posted 7/16/10 1:43 PM |
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leese
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Leese
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
Honestly, I think $200 for a couple is fine. $250-$300 if I am in the bridal party. I do significantly more for family.
I received a lot of gifts in that 200-250 range and was quite pleased! :)
So, to answer OP - $300 is a great gift! :)
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| Posted 7/16/10 2:05 PM |
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FireBelle10
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
We recently got married and the gifts we got varied from $75 from a couple to close to $1000 from certain family members  . For us the norm for us to give non-family members is between $300 - 350. And that's what we got from most people. As much as we'd all like to believe it's not about the money, when you're opening the envelopes after the wedding, you can't help it, especially when you're paying $165 a head. Generally, if your gift covers the plate, your safe. JMO.
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| Posted 7/16/10 2:19 PM |
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MaZz
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
Posted by FireBelle10
As much as we'd all like to believe it's not about the money, when you're opening the envelopes after the wedding, you can't help it, especially when you're paying $165 a head. Generally, if your gift covers the plate, your safe. JMO.
I agree... i think *most* people end up feeling slight disappointment somewhere when opening those envelopes...
but what happens in cases where the bride and groom pick a rediculously expensive hall... lets says $200+ per plate... Now should you as the guest feel the need to cover what they spent on the reception? I had this happen to me last yr and I still gave my standard 300 (which i thought was the norm for weddings within the metro area)... i gave them what they gave us for our wedding... wonder if they were upset with our gift 
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| Posted 7/16/10 3:01 PM |
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Carolyn
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Member since 5/07 5351 total posts
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Twin mommy
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
Posted by MaZz
Posted by FireBelle10
As much as we'd all like to believe it's not about the money, when you're opening the envelopes after the wedding, you can't help it, especially when you're paying $165 a head. Generally, if your gift covers the plate, your safe. JMO.
I agree... i think *most* people end up feeling slight disappointment somewhere when opening those envelopes...
but what happens in cases where the bride and groom pick a rediculously expensive hall... lets says $200+ per plate... Now should you as the guest feel the need to cover what they spent on the reception? I had this happen to me last yr and I still gave my standard 300 (which i thought was the norm for weddings within the metro area)... i gave them what they gave us for our wedding... wonder if they were upset with our gift
They probably were, using your logic!
To answer the OP, we give, on average for non-family or friends we are not especially close with, $250.
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| Posted 7/16/10 4:20 PM |
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FireBelle10
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
Posted by Carolyn
Posted by MaZz
Posted by FireBelle10
As much as we'd all like to believe it's not about the money, when you're opening the envelopes after the wedding, you can't help it, especially when you're paying $165 a head. Generally, if your gift covers the plate, your safe. JMO.
I agree... i think *most* people end up feeling slight disappointment somewhere when opening those envelopes...
but what happens in cases where the bride and groom pick a rediculously expensive hall... lets says $200+ per plate... Now should you as the guest feel the need to cover what they spent on the reception? I had this happen to me last yr and I still gave my standard 300 (which i thought was the norm for weddings within the metro area)... i gave them what they gave us for our wedding... wonder if they were upset with our gift
They probably were, using your logic!
To answer the OP, we give, on average for non-family or friends we are not especially close with, $250.
I think once the cost of your plates per head exceeds a certain amount, you can no longer expect that your guests will give a gift large enough to cover their plates... as in the case of any bride who chooses to spend $200 per head on her dinners.
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| Posted 7/16/10 5:01 PM |
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Ali1
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Re: what is the "going rate" for weddings these days?
We usually give everyone $250, unless they gave us $300 for our wedding, then we give that. It use to be $300 but with times being a little tougher lately that is what we have been doing.
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