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Diana1215
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What is your take on this - Open Play Related
We went to Le Play Cafe for open play today. For anyone who has not been there there is a small wall that seperates some tables and a couch with the play area. It overlooks the area so you can stand and watch your kids (if you are sitting you can't see what they are doing)
I am in their with my boys - mostly because I have to follow Tyler's every move - but even if I just had Jack I would def. watch over him (over the wall) even if I wasn't in there with him.
A few weeks in a row now, I see the same mothers that come with their kids. They let the older ones go play (around age 3) and they sit out there with their babies. I am not lying when I tell you these women do not get up out of their chairs. They do not say to their child "Watch out" or "Don't push" or "Wait your turn" --- they don't even know what goes on behind the wall. Not once did they even acknowledge their kids unless the kids asked us to open the gate for them to go see their moms.
Today one of their kids pushed my friends daughter - and it's an awkard thing. You don't want to reprimand someone else's child - but it's infuriating when the mom is having coffee time and her child is running amuck.
I was expected to hold some tunnel up for this little girl because I was doing it for my boys. I'm sorry but it's not my place to play with your kids while you are sitting having a nice gossip session. One little boy is saying to me "Come with me. Come with me!" ---- I wanted to say "Hey buddy, I got two kids of my own that boss me around, I'm not listening to you too!
Thoughts on this please? Am I expecting too much of these mothers to acknowledge, monitor, and reprimand their children when needed? ALso, my friend wanted to go up to the mothers but I held her back because she was fired up LOL
On another note, I did see the wonderful HBugal there. You can pick that handsome Caden out of a crowd!
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Deedlebugs
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
that would drive me nuts and I would ask an employee to address the mothers in regards to one of their children pushing another.
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JennZ
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
Hate that. I hate that at the park too. This wilderbeast mother let her animal children loose at the park last week. They were animals. She sat down and picked up a book, while they screamed, and ran all over the damn place.
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| Posted 3/22/11 5:53 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
Posted by JennZ
This wilderbeast mother let her animal children loose at the park last week. They were animals.
LMAO!!!!!!!!
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
Posted by Deedlebugs
that would drive me nuts and I would ask an employee to address the mothers in regards to one of their children pushing another.
I agree. I woulld very upset too. But I would let an employee/staff take care of it.
Must be nice to drink coffee and expect other parents to take care of your kid or keep an eye on them.  
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| Posted 3/22/11 5:57 PM |
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
I have no patience for that. I do not take care of another's kid's needs if the mom is ignoring the child. Maybe it's selfish, but this is after always finding myself as some strange kid's caretaker, I decided enough is enough. I do not lift other people's kids, or touch them to help them. If they ask for help, i usually ask them where their mommy is. If God forbid anything happens and I'm seen touching the kid, who knows. I don't take that chance.
If the kid is 3 and up, and he is pushing or hitting my child, and seems to understand what he is doing (does not appear to have any special needs), I have absolutely NO problem telling him to keep his hands off my child.
My child is my responsibility. If I am there watching out for MY child's needs, and his or her mother isn't, then I have to watch out for my own.
If the mom doesn't like it, well, then maybe she will eventually get off her asss to have a discussion with me about it.
I know it's not everyone's style. I am not shy, and I am not polite if someone is messing with my kid.
If Cailen were pushing or hitting an other kid, I would have no problem with a parent telling him to stop. But I would never let Cailen loose in a play area without keeping an eye on him. The other day, in the playground, he was running, and pushed a kid out of his way. Nothing malicious... It was just an obstacle he was pushing away. The mom didn't even notice. It was actually not a hard push. But I still gave Cai a time out. I feel that these things start young - respect other people, use your words, and we never lay a hand on anyone.
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Calla
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
I think you can absolutely reprimand someone else's kid for pushing if the mom isn't watching.
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yankinmanc
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
Posted by lipglossjunky73
If the kid is 3 and up, and he is pushing or hitting my child, and seems to understand what he is doing (does not appear to have any special needs), I have absolutely NO problem telling him to keep his hands off my child.
Same here, If the parents aren't paying attention to what the kid is doing, I will not only tell the kid that its not appropriate to be doing that, but I will also find the mother and let them know.
I went to an open play place a few weeks ago and a kid threw an air hockey paddle at ME...at an adult. So I told him off for it, he cried and ran to his mother, and I followed him to let them know why he was upset. They were grateful that I let them know and they sat him down and talked to him.
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sunflowerjesss
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
This is the exact reason I don't go to Wood Kingdom for Open Play. No parent there watches their child and to boot there is no staff there helping either.
At least at Le Play Cafe they usually have staff in there.
But regardless, it bothers me to no end when a parent doesn't "keep an eye" on their child. Whenever I have gone to Le Play Cafe if I am not in there with DS I am hanging over the wall making sure he is sharing, not pushing, or heck even making sure he doesn't need help doing something.
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karacg
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
We almost went today!!
Isn't there an employee in there with the kids? I would ask them to speak to the mother(s). I let Ale play on her own, but if I hear her complaining or someone else yelling at her I am on it. In other words, I may not be watching her like a hawk but I have my ears open and I keep an eye on her.
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| Posted 3/22/11 6:22 PM |
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pickles16
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
I go there OFTEN and I'm usually not in there with Chels, but watch her like a hawk and jump in whenever I need to. If it gets crowded or rowdy I'm in there....Just because I'm not in there does not mean I do not watch her like a hawk, BUT Chels is also NORMALLY well behaved and I have seen some rowdy kids there where the mom's do nothing and honestly I have intervened and did what I had to do since the mothers were MIA. I have seen mom's that just don't even glance at their kids and IMHO when you know your child can get out of hand (and all of our children can at one time or another) I would watch them. I get that you want to relax, bc believe me I do, but I still am responsible for my child!
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| Posted 3/22/11 6:35 PM |
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pinky
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
I probably wouldn't have the b*lls to say anything to someone else's face but I would probably call Le Play Cafe after the fact and ask that they post a sign or something about watching your kids.
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
Posted by karacg
We almost went today!!
Isn't there an employee in there with the kids? I would ask them to speak to the mother(s). I let Ale play on her own, but if I hear her complaining or someone else yelling at her I am on it. In other words, I may not be watching her like a hawk but I have my ears open and I keep an eye on her.
I agree with Kara. Although I generally tend to be on TJ more because he's a boy and can get a little hyperactive or physical.
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Diana1215
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
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Posted by karacg
We almost went today!!
Isn't there an employee in there with the kids? I would ask them to speak to the mother(s). I let Ale play on her own, but if I hear her complaining or someone else yelling at her I am on it. In other words, I may not be watching her like a hawk but I have my ears open and I keep an eye on her.
I agree with Kara. Although I generally tend to be on TJ more because he's a boy and can get a little hyperactive or physical.
That's the problem here. There were NO ears/eyes open. I am not exaggerating when I tell you I don't even know which kid belongs to which mother because they did not talk to them ONCE. Not a single time. When I was out there looking at jewelery I heard Jack running like a lunatic and I still adressed him even though I was at the front door. For almost three hours these moms did not say a single word to their children who were playing
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
Come to think of it something similar happened at bouncers and slydos a few weeks back. TJ was off on his own playing and I was following Derek around. Derek was afraid of the bigger bouncers and was playing with the balls. The same brat kid kept taking the ball from him and his mother was too busy coffee clotting. After the fourth time I took the ball back from the kid and told him he has to share and it's not nice to take things from babies  He didn't do it again.
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
Isn't that what Le Play Cafe is meant for? They advertise it as a place to have coffee or use your laptop while your kid plays. I'd be annoyed at wood kingdom or a bouncy place though.
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
Posted by lipglossjunky73
If the kid is 3 and up, and he is pushing or hitting my child, and seems to understand what he is doing (does not appear to have any special needs), I have absolutely NO problem telling him to keep his hands off my child.
I agree!
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
Posted by haveaquestion
Isn't that what Le Play Cafe is meant for? They advertise it as a place to have coffee or use your laptop while your kid plays. I'd be annoyed at wood kingdom or a bouncy place though.
Yes but the point is that a parent is still responsible for their child and making sure they are playing nicely and not hurting other kids, etc. I think that a parents responsibility no matter where you are.
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| Posted 3/22/11 7:17 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
Posted by haveaquestion
Isn't that what Le Play Cafe is meant for? They advertise it as a place to have coffee or use your laptop while your kid plays. I'd be annoyed at wood kingdom or a bouncy place though.
I think that the concept is there - "Come and have a cup of coffee while your little one plays" - but that doesn't mean that I'm not their mother the second I walk in the door and I expect someone else to take care of them for me.
There is one girl who works in there. Her job is to monitor them, yes, but really she just straightens up and puts the toys away. She even complained about parents who don't discipline their kids or pay ANY attention to them at all. She said she knows how not to parent when she has kids of her own.
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| Posted 3/22/11 7:18 PM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
I could see that the place is "designed" to give the moms a break. They can chat while their kids play.
I do think...and i would....at least every once in a while make sure things are status quo and that my kids werent hurting anyone else or hurt themselves
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| Posted 3/22/11 8:03 PM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
I run into this exact scenario at EVERY play place I go to and it infuriates me. Its happened at mommy and me classes, the part, wood kingdom, bouncers and slydos....everywhere. It is not my job to watch their kid so they can sit and chat. Once at wood kingdom there was a kid who was not being watched that kept going up the wrong way on the twisty slide, I told him a few times to be careful (b/c I can't stand by and watch him get hurt) but he didn't listen. I just told the line of kids waiting at the top that he wasn't moving and someone was going to get hurt, but they could go down if they wanted and I took my DS to another area.
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beautyq115
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
Same thing has happened to me. I was running after my twins and this little girl is asking me to help her put a costume on her...I was like "sorry I don't work her find someone who does" I probably sounded like a beoch BUT my kids come first and I will make NO excuses about that!
The people who work there are pretty good.
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
I had an issue the other day at the park.
There were a couple of girls, one was 2ish, the other 4ish. I am going to assume they were sisters. Mom or whoever was nowhere to be found (big park, too)
They were playing and all was well, and then the 2 year old and my 3 year old knocked heads by accident. 2 year old cries hysterically but appeared fine, and older girl grabbed her hand to go find mommy or whoever WASN'T SUPERVISING THEM.
Was I supposed to follow them? Because I didn't.
Then when we left later, I see the guardian/mommy/babysitter/whoever, who looked like she was 16 and chatting with her friend, still not paying attention to the girls.
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
Posted by lipglossjunky73
I have no patience for that. I do not take care of another's kid's needs if the mom is ignoring the child. Maybe it's selfish, but this is after always finding myself as some strange kid's caretaker, I decided enough is enough. I do not lift other people's kids, or touch them to help them. If they ask for help, i usually ask them where their mommy is. If God forbid anything happens and I'm seen touching the kid, who knows. I don't take that chance.
If the kid is 3 and up, and he is pushing or hitting my child, and seems to understand what he is doing (does not appear to have any special needs), I have absolutely NO problem telling him to keep his hands off my child.
My child is my responsibility. If I am there watching out for MY child's needs, and his or her mother isn't, then I have to watch out for my own.
If the mom doesn't like it, well, then maybe she will eventually get off her asss to have a discussion with me about it.
I know it's not everyone's style. I am not shy, and I am not polite if someone is messing with my kid.
If Cailen were pushing or hitting an other kid, I would have no problem with a parent telling him to stop. But I would never let Cailen loose in a play area without keeping an eye on him. The other day, in the playground, he was running, and pushed a kid out of his way. Nothing malicious... It was just an obstacle he was pushing away. The mom didn't even notice. It was actually not a hard push. But I still gave Cai a time out. I feel that these things start young - respect other people, use your words, and we never lay a hand on anyone.
 agreed 100%
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nbc188
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Re: What is your take on this - Open Play Related
I know nothing about that place, but regardless, I think that is ridiculous. Keep an eye on your own darn kids!!
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