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MrsH2009
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Re: who did NOT sleep train?
We are still working on it, but I will not sleep train.
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Grill
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Re: who did NOT sleep train?
having a sleeping baby on me is like a drug. there is no better feeling.
I never want to cry myself to sleep...it sounds silly but i never wanted them to feel like i was mad at them.
i gave them this great day and never wanted it to end on a sour note.
 Beautiful philosophy And no way does it sound silly. It sounds maternal. It sounds loving. It sounds selfless. They are some lucky kiddos!
My son woke to nurse back to sleep every 2 hours until he was 17 months. Even now at 2.5 he wakes up once a night here and there. We lovingly meet his need...whether it be comfort, reassurance, water, a toy that fell off his bed, etc. and he goes back to sleep quickly and peacefully. I never wanted to created a negative association with falling asleep...and I thought that crying oneself to sleep would do that. And while I was tired...it is NOTHING compared to how tired I am doing the same thing with #2.  But it's totally worth it for their little spirits and for mine. Anything that feels wrong to your mother instincts probably is. Just follow your gut, not your pediatrician regarding this. It's not a medical issue and IMO, pediatricians who provide guidance or advice on this (unless it is causing medical problems) are just out of line. It's a parenting issue not a medical one. Only a small percentage of human babies sleep through the night from early on. There has to be a good reason for this and I believe there are risks and side effects when it is tampered with. Were it not for harsh sleep "training" (a.k.a. forcing) methods, most children under 2 would still be waking for night time parenting. It comes with the territory...unless you're one of the lucky ones who's child naturally sleeps long stretches. Best of luck to you and your LO.
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| Posted 8/15/12 7:23 PM |
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lcherian
He is the reason!
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Re: who did NOT sleep train?
So perfectly said grill! Wish I could quote but Your message is too long for my iPad to allow me to add text. 
No one said parenting is easy. I have not had a solid nights rest in almost five years. I refused to CIO just for my convenience.
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| Posted 8/15/12 7:44 PM |
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itsbabytime
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Re: who did NOT sleep train?
It does become a medical issue when your child is not getting enough sleep.
To answer the original poster - i 100% believe it completely depends on the childs needs. My DD sleeps pretty well overall both for naps and at bedtime and there was never any kind of sleep training needed. I never even let her so much as whimper. I nursed her to sleep and it was never a problem when I stopped. She is now 2.5 and although there are times when we go through a difficult phase, in general, it works out even with us catering to her when we need to. We do lie with her to get her to sleep and there are times when we let her sleep in our bed but, overall, she sleeps very well on her own and is definitely getting enough sleep. To that extent I agree with Grill. It is fine for MANY kids.
That said, my first was an entirely different story and, believe me, I would sacrifice anything for my kids. It got to the point where the sleep deprivation was affecting his well being and I had to sleep "train" to some extent. I did so reluctantly and after tormenting myself (and him in letting him be up constantly) for a VERY long time. I nursed him to sleep until he was probably 10 months old but, he never ever slept through the night or even a long stretch. It got to the point where I was rocking him for more of the night than we slept - he was probably getting 7 hrs of sleep total at night. Search my past posts and you will see what I mean. And, I sleep well knowing there were no "side effects" for him - he is a VERY smart, VERY healthy almost 5 yr old boy and, trust me, if he wasn't getting the sleep he needed he probably wouldn't be. For you, I think it's too early to tell and I don't think what you are doing at this point will hurt - it all will depend on your child.
Message edited 8/16/2012 8:25:27 PM.
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