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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
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Jennifer
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Re: Who is more to blame
Posted by Elbee
that's terrible if she thinks there is a chance. I feel bad for your friend.
i did the first time around with this azzhole....
Now i don't feel bad for her at all.
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Posted 11/21/05 11:05 AM  |
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Re: Who is more to blame
But even if he does leave his wife for her, does she really want to be with someone who is capable of doing this to his wife in the first place? Whose to say he wont cheat on her a few years down the line?
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| Posted 11/21/05 11:07 AM |
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Redhead
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Jennifer
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Re: Who is more to blame
Posted by missus-hbradio
But even if he does leave his wife for her, does she really want to be with someone who is capable of doing this to his wife in the first place? Whose to say he wont cheat on her a few years down the line?
apparently so
IMO she is sad in general. she always goes after these kind of losers
never fails.
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| Posted 11/21/05 11:09 AM |
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Marcie
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Re: Who is more to blame
Honestly, I am not sure who is to blame more.
Married person took a vow - but the single person should know better too.
Especially in your friends instance. She has been through this with him already.
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| Posted 11/21/05 11:13 AM |
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saraH
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Re: Who is more to blame
i say both. if a friend is seeing a married man, and she knows he is married, she is in the wrong. but so is the married man. i don't think the single person is right just b/c they have no commitments.
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| Posted 11/21/05 11:15 AM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Who is more to blame
I think there's a moral obligation on the non-married parties side, but technically they're not the ones breaking the vows. I would think the girl/guy was a skank, but I would completely blame the cheater.
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| Posted 11/21/05 11:31 AM |
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Ali1
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Re: Who is more to blame
Posted by momAGAIN
my fsil was involved with a married man and he gave her the same line , hes not happy stays for the kids yadda yadda .......ok what man who cheats is going to say no im happy with my wife im just a pig?????????
Ditto for my friend. He said they were having problems but he was staying with her for the kids sake but things were getting so bad that he was ready to leave her any minute. Well guess what - he never did. The only advice i gave my friend was:
1 - How would you feel if someone did this with your husband if you were married.
2 - Do you really think even if he is ready to leave his marriage he is ready to jump right into loving you and another marriage?
3 - If things work out and he leaves her and gets together with you what is he going to do when you start having problems in your relationship?
My friend had low self esteem so i am pretty sure she wanted to be with him because he was someone who gave her attention. Nothing really worked, but the guy finally stopped making booty calls to her....THANK GOD!
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| Posted 11/21/05 11:35 AM |
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SoinLove
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Re: Who is more to blame
Posted by BabyAvocado
IMO, the married person because they took vows. The single person has no commitments to uphold. I think that no matter how much the single person pursued and seduced, the married person should fight off temptation. And if it was the married person that did the pursuing, well, then they are even more to blame.
I agree. While the single person is at fault too, I definitely feel like the married person is more at fault. They made a promise to their husband/wife that they would never cheat.
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| Posted 11/21/05 11:37 AM |
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twobabies
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Re: Who is more to blame
Posted by BabyAvocado
IMO, the married person because they took vows. The single person has no commitments to uphold. I think that no matter how much the single person pursued and seduced, the married person should fight off temptation. And if it was the married person that did the pursuing, well, then they are even more to blame.
i couldnt have said it better. i agree 100%
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| Posted 11/21/05 12:13 PM |
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Jesaroo
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Re: Who is more to blame
i think the married person is to blame.
if the other party knows that the person they are seeing is married, well, its not their problem. they are morally wrong, but not to blame IMO.
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| Posted 11/21/05 12:15 PM |
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Lichi
what what!?
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Re: Who is more to blame
Posted by Redhead
IMO she is sad in general. she always goes after these kind of losers
never fails.
She's your friend, and you feel angry at her for the obvious mistakes she's making, but unfortunately, it doesn't sound like there's anything you can do. I totally hate when my friends put themselves through stupid crap like this, too! 
Sorry Red. 
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| Posted 11/21/05 12:27 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
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Re: Who is more to blame
Posted by Lichi
Posted by Redhead
IMO she is sad in general. she always goes after these kind of losers
never fails.
She's your friend, and you feel angry at her for the obvious mistakes she's making, but unfortunately, it doesn't sound like there's anything you can do. I totally hate when my friends put themselves through stupid crap like this, too!
Sorry Red.
it isn't a close friend...more of an aquaintence
but i do hear about it and see her often
But i still can't bear to hear about this anymore. A friend of mine who is closer to her yelled at her already.
No there is nothing we can do but listening to her talk about it is DIFFICULT....EXTREMELY DIFFICULT
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| Posted 11/21/05 12:30 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: Who is more to blame
The person who is married definitely, they are the one in the serious relationship!
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| Posted 11/21/05 12:31 PM |
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Lichi
what what!?
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Re: Who is more to blame
Posted by RedheadPosted by LichiPosted by Redhead
IMO she is sad in general. she always goes after these kind of losers
never fails.
She's your friend, and you feel angry at her for the obvious mistakes she's making, but unfortunately, it doesn't sound like there's anything you can do. I totally hate when my friends put themselves through stupid crap like this, too!
Sorry Red.
it isn't a close friend...more of an aquaintence
but i do hear about it and see her often
But i still can't bear to hear about this anymore. A friend of mine who is closer to her yelled at her already.
No there is nothing we can do but listening to her talk about it is DIFFICULT....EXTREMELY DIFFICULT
I definitely hear ya. I would have a tough time hearing her go thru that, knowing that she could be attacking MY dh, too!
As vindictive as it sounds, I would probably let the cat out of the bag FOR them, so I wouldn't have to hear it anymore... 
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| Posted 11/21/05 12:36 PM |
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heidla
Me and the guys
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Re: Who is more to blame
I think that the married person carries more blame, but if the other person knows of the marriage/relationship I do think they bare some responsibility. They have a choice in their involvement just as much as the married person does.
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