Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

I had two, since I live far from home - one out here, and one back home.

The one here was planned and paid for by a friend of mine.

The one in NY was primarily planned and paid for by my mother, but my bridesmaids helped a little with the games & setup, stuff like that.

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

My mother paid for my shower and favors. My bridal party paid for the wishing well, chair, games and decorations.

I have been in 2 showers and had to pay for the shower and honestly I never heard of that before until the first shower.

I personally would never let the BP pay i always thought it was the MOB who hosts the party!

I mean the bridal party already has to get a dress, shoes, hair make-up, bachelorette party, shower gift, wedding gift.

JMO!!!

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

My mom paid for ours.

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

my bridesmaids and my mom split it (and I contributed but dont get me started on that )

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

my mom paid for it and she planned it, although she doesnt drive so i had to take her around to find a place to have it, everything else she did herself but it wasnt a secret

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

I didn't have a bridal shower.. but when I was MOH for my best friend, I paid for and planned the shower with the rest of the bridal party. It has been this way for every wedding I have been in EXCEPT for my brother's first wedding. His wife wanted something extremely pricey and her parents paid for it.

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

My mom did everything!!!

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

so long ago..I'm having brain farts

I believe my parents paid for it (most of it-catering/restaurant).

I think my MOH did a lot of the planning including picking the venue. I also think both her and my brother's gf (bridesmaid) at the time paid for decorations..etc. and gift.

I think it's pretty presumptuous to ask the bridal party to pay for it. I had something like 25 people at the shower and a total of 3 people in the bridal party all buying dresses, shoes, hair..etc..gifts..it was expensive to begin with let alone paying for the shower.

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

i think its different depending on every situation. my mother paid for my sisters. there were only 2 bridesmaids and me (MOH) one bridesmaid lives about an hour away, never offered to help and basically just showed up the day of the shower. the other bridesmaid made the wishing well.
even though i was the MOH, i was only 21, and a full time student. theres no way i would have been able to contribute much. i helped my mother with everything, favors, towel cake, invites. but i couldnt afford the bill at the end!! my mother never asked for a dime from any of us. even though i offered, and no one else did!!!

but i think the situation would have been different if i was older at the time, had a full time job etc.

and i do think the MIL should contribute as well.

Message edited 5/27/2009 5:12:56 PM.

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

I paid for and planned my daughter's bridal shower with the help of my sister (her aunt.)
Her MOH paid for and made the favors.
For my daughter-in-laws shower, her mother paid for the most of it, and my daughter and I helped with invitations, favors, etc., and her MOH did the centerpieces.

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

My MOH, bridesmaids (3) and mom split it 5 ways. My mom got the favors. My bridal party also gave me a group gift (everyday china). We have done it this way for all of my friends weddings as well. I am not sure if it is the right way or not but it's just how we do it.

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

my mom paid for mine


when I was a MOH, her mom paid for the restaurant (where she wanted to have it) otherwise it would have been in my backyard LOL. I paid for everything else realted to the shower - the other BMs didn't pitch in crap

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

my mother and sister paid for my shower - I don't know how it was split since I never asked.

I was MOH twice - once for my sister and once for a friend. My sister did not want a shower. My friend's mother & I split the most of the cost of of her shower (it was at my sister's house so I know she paid for a few things too).

I konw from an ettiquette standpoint, immediate family is not supposed to host showers but they also say the bride's parents should pay for almost the whole wedding. But I always thought it was an expense that came with being in a bridal party.

Message edited 5/27/2009 6:25:51 PM.

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

My mom paid for most of it, but I'm pretty sure some BMs contributed certain parts (ie: one bought & sent out the invites, my MOH/sister bought the favors.)

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

for mine, and all the weddings i've been in... it was split between the MOB, and the BMs. the one it was the brides neighbor that helped host it. the brides mom was really traditional and didn't get involved in ANY of the planning. another BM and i did all the planning with the nieghbor.

they were all pretty inexpensive showers at people's houses-- so i had no problem contributing some money, because it wasn't a lot. although for 2 of them, us BM MADE all of the food-- and that was kind of annoying! i was thinking " lets just order a few deli trays!" LOL

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

I had 2 showers, one was out of state where most of DH's family lives. his aunts hosted it and paid.

the 2nd was in NY, hosted and paid for by my Mom. my BP decorated, bought the CP's, game prizes, rented the wishing well, etc. so they did contribute to the cost.

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

Parents paid, mom planned.

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

i had two showers.. one was in nj.. MIL paid for it b/c it was all her "people" but it was catered at her house nothing fancy...
the one on LI my mom paid for most of it .. again backyard shower, BM's brought a dish to help out
i knew noone had money and i HATE showers so it worked out
i dont like when people assume just b/c you are a position in the wedding you HAVE to pony up more money for stuff thats nonessential (not dresses etc thats what you have to pay for when you accept the invitation to be a part of it)... if you had it youd offer it... it puts you in a really weird position to say no b/c of who bride is in relation to you... but between dresses, tux, gifts , etc your already in alot for this wedding
if you dont have the money to have a big party dont have one, dont make others contribute so its bigger and better...
sorry pet peeve!!
FM if you need to chat bout this might get sticky

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

My mom and grandmother wanted to take over the planning for the bridal shower. It worked out really well and I had a GREAT party! At first I was a little nervous because I thought my bridesmaids would make it more fun, but it was perfect!!!!!!!!!!!

My bridal party however DID plan my bachelorette party and ironically, it STUNK! To sum up my night and spare everyone the boring details, I will say that the night was over by 10:30/11. Ugh. Lame.

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

My sister/ MOH & BM's planned & paid for my shower.

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

My parents paid for my shower. My MIL chipped in by doing the favors, and my bridesmaids made other small contributions (ie. rented the wishing well).

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

My mom planned it & paid for it.

My bm's got the centerpieces, games, music, decoration, etc.

Re: Who paid for your bridal shower...and who planned it? (sorry - wedding related!)

My MOH and BMs planned it, paid for decorations and sent out the invites. My Mom split the bill bill for the restaurant with the 3 of them so that they had to split 1/2 of that cost among the 3 of them.