Who will be a SAHM?...

just curious..seems there are alot more of us out there.....i am on bedrest now and we decided that after the twins were born i wouldn't go back to work and I would become a SAHM( i am so excited to be able to!!) the cost of daycare and travel time for bringing 2 kids to daycare all day would eat a huge chunk of my paycheks.....anyone else staying home after baby?

also..we will most likely end up moving to florida within a few months of their birth to be closer to my family ....my parents will be such a help for me andi want the boys to grow up around family......anyway if we did move to florida i may get a pt job eventually and have my parents watch them ( they would love it) i guess all in all i am a very lucky girl!

Message edited 11/21/2008 1:11:27 PM.

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

Not me, we couldnt afford it I have to go back to work after 10 weeks

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

This is still something that DH and I need to discuss in depth and figure out if it's feasible. I make a good amount more than DH and I just don't know if it would be a smart decision. I am thinking I may cut down my hours a little bit but I doubt I'll leave my job.

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

Originally I was going to work from home for 6 mos, only going into the office once a week for meetings and status updates. Now with the state of the economy, it looks like the company does not want to pay to set me up in a home office. I am still trying to work out the details, but I am afraid in this economy, with DH company already laying off 5% of their staff, to willingly leave my job.

If we were to leave NY though I would be a SAHM. It is solely b/c of the COL in NY that I need to work. Also, I would send DS to school at this point whether I was working or not, so that additional $1K a month is my expense as well from my salary.

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

I think its a really personal decision...but I will say to anyone on the fence about being a SAHM, definitely try it out! I loved being a SAHM so much and I'm not going to lie...financially it has been hard for us...DH does not make a good amount of $$ right now (works for DC government) BUT I wouldn't have traded it for the world. Best thing I've ever done!

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

really not going to know for sure till it gets closer.. i would love to be a SAHM and also work from home which i can do now with my job.. however with the economy i dont know if im going to even have a job in 8-9 mts.. i am in a wedding business and im sure people are going to be cutting down on spending for weddings.. i really dont know what i am going to be able to do because i dont have anyone to watch my baby .. my mom works and dh's mom is deceased

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

I hope to go down to 3 days a week. I really want to maintain my own retirement plan, aside from the money that I bring in.

Message edited 11/21/2008 10:42:14 AM.

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

Well, I guess I will be both. Im not working now. I will go back to work at about 3months after he is born. BUT it will be at night, DH works from home and will be here when I leave. We are also moving back to NY over the summer to be closer to family who can help watch him, so I can work more. I could actually be a SAHM, but for my own sanity I want to go back to work. Im going crazy now. I can only imagine if I had NO outlet what so ever. But thats just me.

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

unfortunetly, its not even up for discussion. we need every penny we can get, and i carry the med insurance.

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

Kind of I guess. I work from home. I am in sales. My boss is in Ohio. I do some mostly local travel and maybe 2 trade shows a year. Luckily my DH works from home too. Our plan is to get a "Mothers Helper" type person to help us out a few days a week. My day is really flexible and a lot of my stuff can be done at night(e-mailing leads-etc.) so I am hoping it works out well. We will see. I will probably be off for 8 weeks on STD. I can take 2 more weeks vacation if I want to.

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

I wish I could, but unfortunately we really can't! I am lucky to be staying home from Dec 23rd until the next school year in Sept. I will even have ot work summer school for 3 weeks just to help out a little. It's sad how these stays it's almost a luxury to be a stay home mom.

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Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

I just wanted to weigh in...I went back to work after 3 months because I loved my job. But after 3 months back to work decided to go PT. I switched jobs to do so but I love it. I love getitng out of hte house and having time to myself as well as a sense of achievement that is all mine, I am not DS's mom or DHs wife.
Also my ILs watch him while I work which is amazing. The bond that my DS has with them it priceless.

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

I will go back after 6 months -
I 'could' stay home, but we agreed it was best for our family for me to work -
I honestly don't think I would be a very good mother if I was a SAHM

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

i was a SAHWife before i was a SAHM.

my 1st was born in Aug 2007 and my 2nd one is due in July 2009.

i LOVE being a SAHM and i am fortunate to be able to do it.

if i do work (sporadic through out the year) i work in daycare where i bring my son. or i will watch my friends kids where i can have my son with me.

once the next one comes... i dont know if i want to go back to watching kids... i will have two of my own...

but once they are both in school its back to work for me,.

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

I plan on working part time after 5-6 months. Definitely giving up my NYC job. Don't think I could commute in, work all day, commute back, get home at 7pm ..when would I see my baby?

I tossed around the idea of being a SAHM, but would rather not give up the lifestyle DH and I have worked so hard to maintain.

It's also nice to feel as if my contribution gives our family the extras we would like to be able to do.

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

I'll only be working 3 half days a week, just to get out, and for some extra $$. We are living in a low cost of living area(not that anywhere on LI really is) in order otherwise I would be working full time too!

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

I will be a SAHM....... put I am gonna be gone for part of the day to go to school....


I worked in finance and I find that I dont want to find another finance job...

I want to go into teaching....

If I go back to work it will be for 1/2 of what I was making...

I will need daycare... Which is so expensive....

So my husband wants me to stay home go to school or work part time is ok but no more 7:30 - 7:30 job....

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

I would love to but no way
I make almost double what DH makes so that would never happen

It is going to be really hard after my maternity leave but really no choice

Re: Who will be a SAHM?...kinnda ventiing also lol

I will not right now medical Insurance is under my company. Until Dh lands a perm teaching job then it will be another story. But I am taking at least 12 weeks off and then maybe work 4 days a week if work will let me. My parents will be watching the child for us which helps out big time!!

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I go back and forth about it.....I could work somewhere at night PT and be home all day with the twins.....Not sure yet....

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I am a SAHM, but was also a WAHM ( I own a NYS Family Day Care, that is run from my home ) ....Fortunately we are getting by on DH's salary, but should our situation change, I have the ability to open back up again and the flexibility to stay home with my DC's

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I am one now so I will be for DC#2 as well- I had originally planned to go back to work but when we factored in daycare, commuting to NYC, insurance (b.c DH's firm wouldn't cover me or DD if I was working) other expenses I wouldn't be bringing home enough to really make any difference. So DH insisted (and I wanted to) that I stay home with DD and I can always go back when the kids are in school.

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I make a good amout more than DH, so this really is not an option for us. I will be making even more after I finish my MBA next year. I also carry the insurance for us.

If one of us had to stay home it would be DH.

Message edited 11/21/2008 2:03:39 PM.

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