Re: why is it so hard to make new friends for your son and moms?

Posted by drpepper318

Posted by Sash

Eta: where did I write this: And to say that to hope or try to keep a childhood best friend from kindergarten is silly... well that’s a ridiculous statement too

When you asked why you’d ever expect a 4 year old friendship to stay in tact... “it’s kindergarten!!” you say. The gist of your entire response was “who cares, they’re just babies”
So what?! Like the fact that they’re only 4/5 means we shouldn’t even try & give them a chance to stay friends?! They could be bf for life but lose touch not bc they had a falling out or grew apart but bc parents don’t bother & its “oh well”... it still sucks for the kids...Like I said, think what you want, we all value different things. I think good friends are hard to find even at age 5 & a shame to be thrown away bc one parent is a flake.

Re: why is it so hard to make new friends for your son and moms?

Posted by Sash

Posted by drpepper318

Posted by Sash

Eta: where did I write this: And to say that to hope or try to keep a childhood best friend from kindergarten is silly... well that’s a ridiculous statement too

When you asked why you’d ever expect a 4 year old friendship to stay in tact... “it’s kindergarten!!” you say. The gist of your entire response was “who cares, they’re just babies”
So what?! Like the fact that they’re only 4/5 means we shouldn’t even try & give them a chance to stay friends?! They could be bf for life but lose touch not bc they had a falling out or grew apart but bc parents don’t bother & its “oh well”... it still sucks for the kids...Like I said, think what you want, we all value different things. I think good friends are hard to find even at age 5 & a shame to be thrown away bc one parent is a flake.

Again not what I said... you basically quoted two words of the statement and twisted it. I said a parent shouldn’t make that promise. The reason I feel that way is because they are still so young and there are many other factors. One of them being the other parent and scheduling time.

why is it so hard to make new friends for your son and moms?

It is hard, especially since most people are so busy with work, family stuff, maintaining a home, their kids' extracurricular activities...the list could go on. My dd is in 1st grade and has lots of friends. While most of of the moms are nice enough, I only feel like I'm actually friends with a handful of them. I just keep signing my kids up for as many activities as I can to get them around other kids their ages. And then see which friendships "stick" - which kids they really seem to get a long with well, who they keep asking to see more of, etc. As they get older they become more aware of who they really want to play with and hang out with. I've found it hard to schedule play dates while they're young and cant be dropped off yet, due to parents' busy schedules, but I figure it will be much easier for dd to have friends over in another year or so when they can just be dropped off or take the bus home with her.