Re: Will your MIL help pay for your baby shower?

Mother is deceased.

MIL is Jewish and really has no idea of such things. She offered her house but it will too many people for inside in January. SIL's live OOS and one "didn't want to get involved".

WE had to book it and plan and pay for it it

You would think one of my aunts or all of my cousins collectively would have stepped up to the plate.

Considering it's twins and, no, we will not get everything we need from our guests, it is a considerable expense.

Four reasons why I am still having one:

1. Why should I have to go w/o one due to life circumstances?

2. Despite the expense, this is very much a celebration as we battled infertility and had to do IVF to have them.

3. There will be no religious sacrament after the birth. This is the party.

4. I will not be having any more pregnancies. These two are it.

Re: Will your MIL help pay for your baby shower?

I definitely think it is right for both mothers to split the cost. But in my case, long story short, DH's brother controls MIL finances and DH and his brother don't get a long which means my mom is getting nada, nothing, no help. I will be surprised if I even get a gift. That is gonna be like pulling teeth.

Re: Will your MIL help pay for your baby shower?

My MIL didnt help with either one of them thank god for my family they all chipped in with balloons the house the work and my dh aunt brought the cake which was nice.

Re: Will your MIL help pay for your baby shower?

No...she never offered a dime for my bridal shower or my baby shower or our Rehersal Dinner or our wedding for that matter. She did not even give us her own card for the wedding, she just signed her name to her daughter's card for us.

She is a very nice women and never does anything bad or mean but she is just not a very generous person.

Re: Will your MIL help pay for your baby shower?

my sisters are throwing mine, i have a feeling my MIL will offer to help them out. I told them to TAKE THE MONEY!!